I appreciate this is a BDSM site, and kink dominates -- and nothing wrong with kink -- but I prefer to start by getting to know someone as a person first.
I know my place. I am comfortable on my knees. I don't top from the bottom. But I feel domme/sub is an equal relationship, and starts best with two people who like and respect each other.
My feeling is the domme has the following rights of expectation:
1. That the sub will keep himself in great physical shape, since he will likely be naked in her presense quite a bit.
2. That the sub will not try to top from the bottom, will remain polite and obedient, striving to learn what pleases the domme.
3. That the sub will accept punishment and his domme demands in the correct spirit, realizing that there is a purpose behind them even if he doesn't understand them at the time.
4. That the sub will give his domme the ongoing compliments she deserves unless she tells him to be silent.
5. That the sub understands most dommes need a great deal of oral sex, and being allowed to fullfill that need for the domme is a gift to the sub. If she returns the favor it is a gift, but there is no expectation she will do so.
6. That the sub be a good and willing cook. And then do the dishes.
7. Everyone has kinks, but the sub should not focus on his kinks. He should focus on what pleases the woman.
10/9/2011 9:47:39 PM
Pursuing and wooing a domme is the fine line between groveling and not being bothersome. Or maybe it's the line between a domme who likes both begging and gagballs.
