Ihmenjo

There isn't much to say about myself. I am a little under 5'8'' with the tanned complexion that is typical of those of South East Asian descent. I have dark brown eyes, almost to the point of being black. My hair is black, but can appear an extremely dark blue or very dark brunette in the right light. My shoulders are a bit on the broad side, but other than that, I've got pretty standard build.

Currently, I'm looking for conversation rather than to collar a slave or a submissive. Conversation, I feel is a better gateway to any sort of relationship than just trying to go out and collar as many girls as you possibly can. I find it rather aggravating that many males seem to think that a girl is a doormat that you can walk all over from day one. Certainly, you might find a girl like that, but you cannot seriously think a girl will fall all over herself for you just because you say to her "you are my slave" or tell her "kneel, slut!" A girl with a collar like that is just a slightly put off girl with a new piece of jewelry; she is not your slave.
I'm looking for a girl who isn't just a submissive in the bedroom. I'm not, however, seeking a door mat. You can purchase a door mat at any store. Submissives are much too precious and rare to be bought like one would purchase a pet or livestock. A girl submits because she finds herself wanting the protection or the loss of power that submitting to the desires of another gives her. She wants to please another, and the idea of pleasing another is put before her own needs and wants. A submissive has desires of her own. She can have a life and a career and hopes and dreams. Even if you submit outside of the bedroom, you can have those, as well. I think a dominant's role is to guide, to teach, and to protect. He cares for the submissive but not just physically. A dominant helps to shape a submissive's mind, keeping her as happy as she keeps him. A dominant teaches a submissive what he enjoys and hopes that she will share her loves and passions with him. He protects her from harm. He shields her from sadness and anger. He also allows himself to be vulnerable for her, to show her that he is human, and know that she will respect him all the same. By my definitions, it's a very vanila relationship when it comes down to things, but I think a submissive submits to a dominant because she feels she can trust him fully and unconditionally. She gives herself to him because she knows he will not overstep his boundaries and seeks to keep her with a firm hand. A dominant seeks a submissive because he knows she will give her everything to him and can trust her with anything he can imagine. He knows she will let herself go around him and can push her limits because she knows he will respect her enough to never step over those lines.

With that said, I would enjoy a girl who is open minded. She would have to have a good personality and be willing to put up with a quirky and somewhat random individual (namely: myself). I've already said I'm not looking for a doormat, I seek a submissive. A girl who is intelligent; a girl who is not afraid to speak her mind; above all, I seek a girl who is an individual. Certainly, this seems a lot like what a person would seek in a vanilla relationship, but I would rather dominate someone who enjoys the lifestyle as an actual lifestyle... who isn't afraid to try new things and is fully willing to communicate with her Dom.