Knowing what to put on here is a challenge but I will give it a go. I have always had an interest in the lifestyle and enjoyed regularly playing with my girlfriend of the last 6 years. We recently broke up on good terms because both of us were too selfish to sacifice our careers. I always got the impression that her heart wasn't really into our play and that she was doing it for me which made me feel awful to be honest and I brought the subject up less and less.

Now I have had time to reflect I have realised that I do enjoy the lifestyle and would like to find somebody who feels the same way. I do not want to sound arrogant, as it is the trait I dislike most in people, but I am not on here because I am desperate for a relationship. I am giving this a go because I do not want to go though all the motions of getting to know somebody, becoming attached to each other, and then becoming frustrated because you both want different things. I genuinely wish that a purely vanilla relationship could fulfil me and make my hear race as it would save me so much hassle, but that isn't me so Ce'st La Vie.

I better put a little something about me. I am 27, short dark hair, blue eyes and pretty active as I love sport. I love socialising and enjoy a drink with my friends but none of them are in the lifestyle as far as I know.I am intelligent and eduacted to postgraduate level and have a professional career which I am devoted to. Like most men I am probably pretty shallow and enjoy the company of attractive women. It would be fantastic to meet somebody with similar interests to explore each others boundaries and desires. I am not going to bore you with what I have done or would like to. Needless to say I am sane, only interested in consensual activities and have the normal limits of scat, kids animals etc.

I am aware how many fakes there are on these sites and enter with my eyes wide open. It would be great to chat to and possibly make like minded friends. At heart I believe that is possible as I am a hopeful idealist.

Be lucky
Ben