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Male Dominant, 58
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About Iansilvr
I understand the need for sufficient time to build trust. In fact, you might say I require it, for the simple reason that if you were eventually to become mine, you will need to have shown that you would take good care of what is essentially my property. If you seem willing to plunge right in, without taking the time to get to know the person in whose hands you are essentially placing your life, I would probably doubt your ability to take good enough care of my property (yourself) to be a candidate for long-term ownership, although I may still be interested in capturing you for short periods. But if you're willing to invest the time necessary for two people to assure each other that they both know the huge commitment and challenges involved in long-term absolute slavery, then I am too.
So, since time is important, please don't waste any of yours or mine by responding if you don't envision yourself locked in chains a fair amount of the time, or spending the occasional night in a small cell, after we get where we're ultimately going. I value friendship and love, and deeply enjoy fulfilling certain kinds of need, but my primary desire is a woman who longs to surrender complete control when the time is right. It's not that I expect deference immediately; I just want to know our needs are compatible before we begin the dance. I don't seek a wife, girlfriend, or lover. My hunt is for a captive, a prisoner ... a slave. |
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On Training:
I consider myself something of an expert in the art and science of effective slave training. For my first journal entries, I'll say just a bit about why.
Long ago, I trained animals. Over the last twenty years, I've discovered that the successful principles I learned apply directly to training human property. I do not think of a slave as an animal; I view human property as far more valuable, complex, and rewarding than any animal. But they have certain things in common.
In slave training, I've found it important to keep in mind that a slave's mental state is often such that she is functioning at a lower level than she might in other circumstances. This isn't because of any inferiority in the intelligence of slaves or women in general; in fact, intelligence is a great turn-on for me. But when I have a captive in training under my whip, locked in my chains, there are number of factors resulting from my punishment/reward approach and from the helplessness and perfection I require, which interfere with my captive's ability to think. These include simple fear and nervousness, and the complex fog commonly referred to as subspace. Even the strong desire on the part of a slave to obey and please her captor can ironically tend to prevent her from doing that as well as she might otherwise, when it is heightened to the point of desperation by the whip and certain other training methods.
So I've learned the importance of being very clear about what is required, avoiding contradictory rules and commands, progressing in small and simple steps, and the other basics of animal training, at least during the initial phases of slave training. This doesn't mean I won't deliberately confuse a slave or present her with an impossible challenge, but that would usually be outside of a training context, just for my own amusement. In later training phases, I might introduce conflicts or contradictions, but with the purpose of training my slave how to determine which rule or command should take priority over a conflicting one.
I've learned that with most slaves who've endured my training, it is most effective to combine extreme strictness and perfectionism with a certain amount of positive reward. This is probably obvious, but it needs to be done properly. For example, in may cases, delayed punishment is far less effective that an immediate, severe application of the whip. Particularly in early phases, I want my captive to learn not just in her brain, but in her very cells, that only instant, absolute obediance can prevent searing pain. My objective is to create, at the cellular level, an unthinking, instantaneous reflex action at the sound of my voice or a motion of my hand. While delayed punishment has its place, and the dread of anticipated punishment can be effective in correcting certain behaviors, I've found nothing nearly as effective in creating these reflexes as the liberal use of the single tail at the moment of the slightest disobedience. Inconsistency or delay in punishing undesirable behavior can wreck days or weeks of training effort.
On the other hand, consistency in positive reward is not as valuable. Intermittent gratification is a strong factor in certain addiction problems, often much stronger than consistent gratification, and I find that keeping rewards and gratifications unpredictable tends to increase my power and control and to keep my captive aware of her own helplessness and powerlessness.
Early in training, I provide my slave with a small booklet of a dozen basic rules of behavior, and require her to memorize it well enough to quote perfectly from memory when drilled. These rules cover not just expected behaviors and obedience, but also the basics of maintaining the health and safety of my property - that is, the slave herself. The rules are heirarchical - they have an order of priority. For example, if my slave realizes that a certain command or requirement from me would jeapordize her health or safety, the priority of the rule pertaining to care for my human property over the rule pertaining to obedience would often help her avoid punishment for failing to obey, provided she follows proper protocol in bringing the conflict to my attention. However, sometimes the lesson to be learned is that there are situations when punishment cannot be avoided even with perfect behavior.
I'll write more on training in one of my next entries, including the use of drills and protocols, the importance of restraints, and the standard order in which I proceed from initial to subsequent phases of training. Everything here, unless otherwise noted, is the result of extended training with three long-term slaves, as well as shorter sessions with others. |
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