HYBTreated

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	About HYBTreated I've had a number of BDSM relationships in the past, and while they were all very enjoyable, they did not go the direction I had hoped. Today I am looking to start a new relationship with a submissive/slave with hopes of it being a very LTR. I'm looking for a submissive who enjoys some of the extremes of the mental aspects of the BDSM spectrum. A specific type of 1950s/misogynistic submissive who is task oriented, even perhaps a slave/slave tendencies. A pleaser. A self proclaimed slut, looking for an outlet for her sexuality, or a desire to be guided in that direction. A submissive looking for a Power Exchange. A submissive who thrives on humiliation and degradation. The thing that is the most important to me: Trust The thing I hate the most: Jealousy Contrary to many guys, I guess, the one thing I am not looking for is a 1 night stand, or simply Friends With Benefits. In my experience, these types of activities only get better with time, and honestly it's a lot of work starting from scratch. Quite bluntly - what I am looking for is a girl who strives to be completely, and 100% mine, both inside and outside of the bedroom. I want her to live to be my little play toy, and I want to be the one she trusts explicitly to take her on an amazing erotic journey of submission. I want us to be each other's constant emotional distraction, the anchor that keeps us from just floating aimlessly throughout the work day. Always communicating, exchanging ideas, and adjusting to improve the relationship. Letting me know what is working, and suggesting what could work better. Showing interest in new ideas, being open to pushing soft limits, and building to the excitement of our next new experience. To allow her to be able to express her true submissive self, and prove to me her willingness and deep desire to be the pleaser she knows in her heart she is.

Self-reflection is a humbling process.

The other night I was replying to an email. It was from a girl who was in an open marriage, and her husband let her play with other doms. For her, BDSM was a chance for an outlet to her stressfull daily life, and just wanted to give over control from time to time. And she wasn't looking for strings, or to change her 'current situation'. She was young. She was cute. She had breasts that looked like they really needed to be played with. She lived pretty close, and was willing to drive down to be used, and possibly an a recurring basis.

But I was perplexed. After reading the whole email 3 or 4 times, I couldn't figure out why I wasn't jumping all over this opportunity to invite her over, grab this new girl by the throat, throw her on the bed, tie her to to rails, and fuck her brains out like she was asking for. Then send her on her way, and go about the rest of my week.

I stretched my fingers a bit, and started to type away at the email. "What BDSM is to me" - her question she wanted me to answer. I sat there typing freely from my stream of conscience. Before I knew it, I had written 3 full paragraphs, without a definitive end point in site. Great insight material, but I'll be honest, it probably wasn't on point. But rather than just delete it all, I copied the writings to a blank personal document to save for later reference. Now I started again. Again, 3 more paragraphs of amazing information about myself, but not that singular answer she was looking for. I continued the process, just letting my whole history pour out onto paper. I gave examples of things I like doing, and have done in my past relationships. I sited things I hate most about vanilla relations ships, and why I chose the alternative. I wrote down specific reasons from my past that have shaped what I am looking for in my perfect future D/s relationship. I voiced my frustration at traditional dating sites, and how I have constantly had to try to force a square peg into a round dating profile.

By the time all was said and done, I had written over 3 full pages :

Who I was
What I wanted
Why I wanted it.

I read it. I reread it. I tweaked it. I moved paragraphs around.

I liked it.

The long and short of it: These days I can pretty much take any woman back to my place and say “You like it rough, don't you, you little slut?” (And to that I reference any woman who expresses interest in going back to my place.. the neighbors live to close and would be alarmed to see me dragging one out of my trunk) But finding a woman who is truly submissive and wants the incorporation into our daily lives is an amazing thing that I miss to the point that I don't think I'll be happy without having it again be a full time part of my life. This girl answered to her husband. I am not looking to take a back seat to anyone. I want the devotion, commitment and desire given by a true D/s relationship.

I gleaned a LOT for about myself from it than just that - but it's an amazing exercise I'd suggest to anyone who hasn't taken the time to actually do so.

And with that, I'll leave you with this link to a blog from a girl on this site:
http://darkmekare.tumblr.com/post/131864626645/self-reflection-is-a-humbling-process-its

My ideal BDSM Relationship

Things we do In the bedroom, things we do outside of the bedroom, and mental/emotional submission.
These are things I've done that I enjoyed, but for instance the 'extent' of the micromanagement tasks varies based on the sub/slave.

Tasks/Rules Given:

Nightly Mantra
Food / Drink Restrictions
Medication Updates (verify they are taken (if applicable))
Diet / Exercise Updates
Notification of Waking up or Going to Sleep
Notification of leaving the house
Requesting permission to do things outside of the set schedule
Eye contact restrictions
Vocabulary modification

Just Random Things I've done outside the bedroom that I want to do again:

I made my girl lift her skirt and show her breasts as we traveled in our car. I would purposely pull up to truck drivers and finger her while they watched.
We were out at the bar, and I met a really nice guy. I offered to follow him home and let him fuck/share my girl with me.
I posted an ad on CL, and found a guy to come over and fuck my girl while I watched. I planned the whole thing without her. She loved it.
My girl found another girl who came over and spent the night with us. We both had a great time.
Went to a friends house, who was hosting a “toy party”, we ended up in their hot tub naked with a number or strangers... good times ensued.
I took my girl to the bar wearing a remote control vibrator. I Passed the Controller to 'trusted' friends. We all enjoyed the night.

Kinks I have enjoyed in the bedroom:

Deep Throat / Training
Face Fucking
Speech Control/Restrictions
Eye Contact Restrictions
Bondage / Cuffs
Collars
Cages
Anal Training/Anal Sex
Spanking
Slapping
Choking
Ball Gags
Blind Folds
Group Sex / 3 Somes

Not Enjoyed (have not done/no interest):

Diapers/Stuffed animals/Blanket Forts/Coloring books
Brats
Scat
Blood play / cutting /needles

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HYBTreated

About HYBTreated

My ideal BDSM Relationship