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Thank you for taking time to read my profile.
I seek a relationship that combines the best aspect of the vanilla and the kinky.
First, the vanilla side of me. I write for a living, and am successful at it. I am fortunate to make my own hours and be my own boss, while having the pleasure of doing intellectually stimulating and creative work.
I am very physically active. I go to the gym 5 or 6 days a week -- I lift weights; do cardio; and go to yoga, pilates and ab classes. I stand 5'11", 170, with a slender, fit, toned physique.
I am involved in many activities. I love adventure and in the last year have ski-dive; gone cave kayaking, river rafting, and on and on. I also enjoy hiking, biking, museums, lectures. I do a lot of volunteer work, and that nourishes my soul.
My philosophy when it comes to BDSM is, in the terms of my favorite books, "passion, humility and gratitude." I think a sub should possess these traits in abundance, and they should define his relationship with his domme.
I believe in passion in all aspect of life, but particularly with a domme. I also believe that a sub should truly be humble and grateful always. For example, many men think that going down on a woman is a gift he gives to her. I feel the opposite. If a domme I care about has a wonderful orgasm, that is a gift she gives to me, and I should truly thank her for it. Thinking of and exploring more ways for her to come more fully should always be on my mind, if she enjoys receiving oral sex.
While I enjoy many kinky activities, I don't believe in listing them as a laundry list of desires. If you like, I will honestly tell you what kinky things I like and what I dislike. I think the second piece of information is as valuable as the first. It gives you the turns to reward, train, tease and punish me as you see first. I understand that punishment should not be sought as a kinky pleasure, because that defeats the purpose.
I will list certain activities because I think they have important philosophically.
Chastity and tease-and-denial keep a man focused, alert, and attentive. They are not always pleasurable, but that is not the point. I appreciate that if I have given myself to a woman I care about, I have given her control of whether not I come. If she decides I should not -- either to train me; keep me focused; or simply because it amuses the woman to see me in agony -- that is a gift.
I am seeking a woman I can connect with on all levels. I realize this is long, but I hoped to give a good sense of whom I am beyond kink.
I do not post photos publically for work reasons but will be happy to send you some.
Thank you for reading this.
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