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You can tell a lot about a guy from his porn..............................................
Seriously. If I were a female, I would always say, "so tell me about your porn". Very revealing, so I will tell you about mine-- grab a chair. Oh, I see you already have one.
I remember my first foray, almost 25 years ago now, into a porn store on 42nd St. in NYC. WOW, it was more than a bit scary; a real hole in the wall, yet it was the most fabulous place ever. Hundreds and hundreds of magazines-- girl on girl, black on white, fat on thin, girl on boy on boy on girl on horse- LOL- Truly every combo. Nothing was more riveting than the black and red leather clad Domina on the cover of some Femdom magazine. I couldn't even bring myself to look at it for more than 5 seconds. I kept walking around and coming back to it-- for another brief glimpse. I had never seen anything in my life like it-- well, maybe Catwoman, but She was fictional. I could feel my heart pounding. After about 5 passes I decided to stop at the small Femdom section which no other guy seemed very interested in. I was totally enthralled. I cursed that plastic wrapping which concealed the inside. I remember I couldn't even bring myself to buy it-- scared that the clerk  would call for a price check on "Leather Clad Dominas". I would die and wither on the spot. So I bought regular porn which was just so disappointing. At first, any porn was good porn...LOL...but I quickly found mainstream porn to be way too misogynistic. I found it hard to believe any woman wanted to be treated like that. Women were beautiful , mysterious Goddesses-- and they still are, thankfully. The leather-clad ones just took it to the next, and some like me would say logical, level.
Anyway, with a Herculean effort I went back for that mag on the next payday. Cursing the stupid tax on the magazine for I had to hold my shaking hand out for change. I had that mag for a long time hidden in my closet. I had to put a box on a chair in order to just reach it (since I'm tall I tend to hide things high). Through single times and committed (vanilla) relationships that was my first of many Femdom mags. I quickly steered away from the sneering Domme who was on that first cover (it must have been an Eighties thing-- think Billy Idol) to a mag called Love Bondage, which had a nice mix of everything, photos and believable stories. Unfortunately, it had a more Maledom bent than I would have liked, but these were real people doing real, kinky things. In the pre-internet days, it was encouraging to know other people were interested in what I was interested in since I just never met any man who deviated from the standard Cromagnon mentality--you know, the I'd-do-that-b*tch-in-a-minute-and-she-would-be-glad-about-it type of guy. I refused to let myself be dragged down to that level. Just so not me.
It's curious to wonder how many men went into that porn shop on 42nd St. and not only bought porn, but bought into the whole mainstream male porn fantasy. I think if I weren't smart, I would have. And perhaps, just perhaps, this is why the divorce rate is so high-- because males think this is what women want. Hmmm...just a theory.
Femdom was my secret world which I kept at arms length. Only now am I learning to truly embrace my submissive side. Ironically, it takes a strong guy to admit he's a submissive man. I refuse to, and see no reason to partition off those feelings anymore. Although I must admit I find it hard to write "I would love to paint Your toenails" on a mainstream dating site.
Now I've talked about porn, but technically what I like is erotica. Today, I buy Skin Two and Marquis now and then; showcases of the female form wrapped in various Goddess-enhancing coverings. I don't consider myself a fetishist since it is not the rubber or the leather or the foot that I find exciting, but the whole package-- the Goddess Herself. In fact, I find the entire BDSM lifestyle very fascinating-- playful, yet with limits; open, yet with boundaries; caring and, yes, even romantic. (I must write more about this romantic component in the future.)
My hard limits would be children and animals (nobody should harm children or animals-- one day I hope that will come to pass), blood and medical stuff (like organ donation..LOL), harsh verbal abuse (if you're yelling then something is wrong), age play (I hope diaper wearing is still decades off), and public displays (I would hate for parents to have to explain to their kids why the man is on a leash. Seems very rude to put the nice parents in that position.)
Thanks for reading.
Pic to come....mid-month or so.
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I think everyone would have to agree that Martha Stewart would make a great Domme. I can just see her making lovely and cruel little lifestyle toys for her devoted subbies. Ladies and gentlemen, is that not love?
"Today on the show I am going to show you how to make divine little cock and ball torture toys for your subbies. For example, I went down to the paint store and got the little wooden paint stirrers and painted them black and glued some rough sandpaper on one side for abrasion play. They look so evil, yet cost next to nothing. I plan to hit my sub until he stops calling his penis John Thomas, and starts calling it Benjamin Moore. And that's a good thing." |
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I wish Andy Rooney would do a segment on BDSM....................................
"Did you ever notice a cat-o-nine tails has more than nine tails??? What's with that? And my cat has a very soft tail, these aren't very soft at all. They're all dry and leathery."..............
"Why don't they ever use a tennis ball as a ball gag? It's about the right size. Is it because the vibrant yellow fuzz clashes with the black leather? And what's with all that drool when someone has a ball gag in their mouth? They can put a man on the moon, but they can't make a drool-less ball gag?"............
"What's with the word 'Domme'? Should it rhyme with Mommy?"...........
"Do slaves ever get ring around the collar? Maybe it's caused by all that ball gag drool. I bet you they get punished for it, too. Probably get hit with the cat-o-twenty dried out tails while their Mommy Domme says, 'Oh, those dirty rings!'" |
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I was thinking about the ubiquitous "Take a penny, leave a penny" tray found in most convenience stores. Do you think that most people who leave a penny are subs and, conversely, that most people who take a penny are Doms? If I was given a large government grant, then I would gladly do the research. |
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| Age: 34 |
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