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Hetero Female Submissive, 43,  Oxford, United Kingdom
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Exeter based,
Guys, guys guys please do not launch into an immediate sexual discussion. Would you ask someone at a bus stop if they preferred a flogger to a well don't do that to me either! Have a modicum of class please. "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom" -Anais Nin

If you are married, a smoker, bald, shorter than 5 ft 9, disingenuous or attached, please pass on by. We all have to set some sort of anti time wasting parameter so I would say you should be under 50ish to catch my interest please. Single post graduate, curvy, sometimes feisty, warm, minxy, loyal, discreet, big smile, buxom, honest, feminine, perceptive, intuitive, sensual a real girl. Hoping to enhance my already busy life with something that little bit more 'thrilling'. I see D/s as an addition to a normal, fun, already healthy and functioning relationship. I have a very vanilla identity, long may that continue. Seeking someone who wants to have a few giggles as we shut the world out & our imaginations in. I seek one on one, an intensely personal experience,sharing & challenging. Don't bother mailing to insult me or call me fussy, if you don't reach for the stars you don't get what you want. I don't give a fXXk what anyone else thinks, this is my profile so you can bog off if you don't like it. I am the vanilla end of the kinky spectrum, however do not think that this makes the desire any less valid. I suppose I seek my partner in every sense of the word, quid pro quo, my equal, someone to stimulate me as much mentally as physically. My long term Dom partner and best friend is Cavallera69 or rlbayern413 should you need proof that I am female. My "ideal" man: I prefer men who are dark haired, generally considered attractive, clean shaven. I don't seek a father figure or older man in any sense, would sooner have a cup of cocoa. You need to understand this is as much about a cerebral process as it is physical for me, I am looking to have you dig around a little in my mind & awaken new senses, challenge me gently. I have a real strength of character, and depth as a person. People might call me lovely, but I am also gritty and often feel things far more deeply than I let show. Are you able to hold me with your mind, your presence & eventually capture my heart without the bind of ropes? That said what better way than to relax than with the right company & a decent quantity of rope! Bondage of all forms is a key interest as are fun games and tasks. The challenge for you is knowing what buttons to press. I don't want D/s to be the foundation of our relationship, that should be rapport, trust and respect, nonetheless I see D/s as an integral part of who I am. Beware, I do have switchy moments when "No" means little to me and the fight for supremacy starts! Great believer that a good Dom should know how it feels from the flip side of the coin....that sad am happiest when submitting...just a bad sub who might need tuition.
I hope to be coaxed into submission, encouraged not bullied or shamed, berated or to have my character squashed or heavily moulded. Just gently led in the right direction, training offered where interest is shown. Slowly, with tactility and mutual awareness. Looking for a man who seeks a one on one relationship. A gentleman, intelligent, relaxed in his demeanour, conversant in the ways of women (read understands the need for shoes, chocolate & lipgloss), interesting & interested, ethical, gentle with his dominance, sensual, strong but caring, cultured & most of all an articulate man, with decent shibari/bondage skills? Whilst I am no 'princess' I want to be treasured as the little gem that I am. Wry smile and lowered eyes!! I would venture to say you need to be quite an exceptional person, bit of a romantic, but subtly so, a one off. You would have to enjoy watching Top Gear snuggled up on the sofa & be equally entertained by the trio & their antics. Hope you will have me bound & protesting (or gagged) whilst I show my wrath as you block my view. (one way or another!) I jokingly call my wish list 'vanilla with spice' but that is just what I seek. I am strong, capable, independent, feisty, intelligent & balanced in my outlook. Seek a partner to compliment me. I have learnt never to suffer second best in life, to reject mediocrity & know my inner strengths, which are considerable. Strive for what I seek, love with all of my heart even if it one day breaks it. Live life to the full because you never know when the merry-go-round will stop. *** on a personal note *** I enjoy walking, F1 and am very well informed (try a hogtie during a race & watch me fight back) & other forms of motorsport, rugby, cooking, museums, car shows, am a regular little Nigella, bit of a foodie, love dinning out, shopping, love history, foreign travel, visiting places of interest, swimming, the theatre, cinema and all things al fresco (Coughs) ....really have a wanderlust at the moment. Life doesn't stand still really. Potential female friends are welcomed or possible Doms, please come and say hello.... I don't bite on first contact. However, I won't respond if I don't feel attraction or if I feel we do not have the basis for a friendship.

The difference between perseverance and obstinacy is that one comes from a strong will, and the other from a strong won't.Henry Ward Beecher













 Submissive Female


 United Kingdom

 Willing to Relocate

 5' 5"

 160 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Male

Submissive Female

Switch Men


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Journal Entries:
5/13/2014 1:16:11 AM

The human race tends to remember the abuse to which it has been subjected, rather than the endearments.  What is left of kisses, wounds however leave scars. 

Bertolt Brecht 

5/12/2014 1:04:49 AM

Freedom makes a huge requirement of every human being. With freedom comes responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up, the person who does not want to carry his own weight, this is a frightening prospect.  Therefore they just ignore, switch off and create endless excuses which no one other than themselves believe.  I believe it is a psychological , but in my world it is just called bullshit.  


This can also apply to D/s relationships, the dom who can never empathise with another or even try and feel what they might feel is as shallow as a puddle and never worthy of the submission that he so craves.  He doesn't seek submission, he seeks self glory and a doll to abuse in an attempt to make himself feel better and cover his own inadequacies.  He looks in his mirror and sees perfect, but it isn't the same mirror I look in.  Here is the narcissist, who will suck you in like a prince, make endless promises and spit you out like an unpleasant taste.


In my opinion, that is no man, let alone a dom....he is an emotional terrorist who will suck you in and spit you out like the dirt under his shoes. 


What are we left with as subs, having trusted, loved, endured and tried to please...nothing but unanswered questions and a sense of why, what did I do to deserve this, to be treated worse than he would want to treat an animal? 


Why, his own self glory, remorseless at the cost of another.

7/25/2009 6:48:00 AM

George Carlin wrote this, if only I could write with such soul and depth.

"The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little,
drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space.

We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the
stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going
to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to
you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you because that is the only
treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. Remember,
to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind"


3/28/2009 10:34:15 AM
It is a truth universally acknowledged that when one part of your life starts going okay, another falls spectacularly to pieces.

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