I am looking for new friends in the lifestyle who might be interested in getting together for socializing. (I am not looking for a dom...I have been married to my dom for four years and I hope we have only scratched the surface of things to come.) I have had the opportunity to meet many people in the lifestyle and hope to meet many more. Some of the most interesting people I have ever met are BDSM people and kinky people and fetish people. There is so much variety in this community! Compared to many I have met, I'm a bit ho-hum, I suppose. But, what we have works for us and we are always looking for a new trick to put in the bag. I have learned as much from people who are into things I would NEVER want to try as I have from people who enjoy the same things I do. When I can no longer find anything new to learn, well, I just don't want to think about it!

I enjoy a good conversation. It seems the art of conversation has nearly been lost and is often reduced to one-line, text message/chat jargon. I am guilty of the :) thing, but I find it much easier to follow conversations made up of complete thoughts, an attempt at correct spelling, and adequate information rather than the all too common "how r u?" and "ttyl" remarks. If you say something that makes me smile, laugh, or wonder what the hell you mean, I will likely be guilty of :) or LOL or ??, but it is a bit of a time saver in some situations. In other words, I am old and don't follow all the abbreviated text message shorthand very well, nor do I see it as an indicator of someone I would want to converse with. We seldom pick up a pen and put it to paper to communicate these days, (unless it will fit on a sticky note), so the least we can do is try to remember all those words we learn to spell in 6th grade, right?


I understand there are those who find all they need from the time spent online. If that is your thing, that is fine by me. Just please don't waste time sending me a message expecting some online "scene" or service from me. I wish you luck in your quest for what you seek, but you won't find it with me.


To any of you "new" people who have made it this far in reading this: Be careful out there. Feelings you form for someone online are just as real as they would be if you were looking that person in the face. There are people here who are online only, and that is fine, but beware of the ones who are married or otherwise involved and this is just an outlet for their frustrations. Know what you seek and settle for nothing less, no matter how beautiful the words on the screen may be.