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If you don't meet my criteria....if you not exactly what I am looking for...please don't email me. I don't nee my ego feed or "i am every thing you want but married or poly", yada yada yada, either you or or you're nor. If you are please say so, if not please refrain from emailing me.
I am a single, straight, sexually submissive female, 39, green eyes, athletic build in search of a Dominant. My 'hard' relationship limits are polyamoruous people, smokers, swingers, all women and sub or switch , ir bisexual or transvestie men .i am not here to collect friends on my wall(please don't send me a request), or chat, or cybersex. i am seeking real time only. I am looking around the Altanta area but i am open to 200 mile radius.
i am sorry but i have not interest, if you are under 34 or over 49, poly or bi, married, smoker, do not want LTR, if you do not want kids, and if you don't make over 100K a year, if you are under 5'8 in height and if you are 8 inches( OR MORE is bad), in length, so UNDER OR LESS THAN 8 inches, as in not normal size. Small , me or largeis okya but porn stars or porn star size need not apply. please be respectful and refrain emailing me for considerations or for exceptions or editorizing me or critisizing me, you don't have to agree with my limits but you don't need to comment either, this is not the high school debate team. this is a dating site...if you made the cut, i will be thrilled to hear from you.
please keep in mind i am marriage minded and child oriented and i am only looking to date. To balance things out i am not looking for a velco training collar or an instant relationship. i believe all relationships should start NSA and unfold at their own pace. However i am only willing to date a man those is seeking monogomy, childern, LTR and are Dominant( no switches ) who is finiancially secure .....by that i mean who makes 100K a year or more. I have made those numbers and i was never comfortable making more than my man ( i was vanilla then) i noticed alot of Dom's say they are protectors and providers, i want to be with someone who does it better than i do myself. i prefer my man is a better earner, more intelligent, and more educated than I. This is thye type of man i will submit, too....not someone who has doned the titlle Dom and thinks that i will obey his very command with out queastion. lets say with are both pilots, if i am a better pilot than you...i will want to fly the plane,and at the same time will not be happy. i am delighted to be a co-pilot, that's where i am happy. i am in my core submissive, i would rather you be better at flying and I get to be co-pilot because i love being in the passive role. i am not a total submissive who like "Edith Buker" on "All in the Familly" who ran around submissive to every person and every circumstances and worring her her head off trying to please everyone. if my 100K income requirments offend you, remember you are a Dom and should be in control and refrain from sending me a hateful 'goldigger' email (really if i was a gold digger i would go for 7 digits not 6, please!!!!!) or refrain from sending me a "i don't make" email because you are not going to "Dom" me 24/7 ...by having me lick your boots and clean your trailer while you are out hanging drywall. all women what security(each has their own unique level) . i am just very open and upfront about it. i like susie orman. susie says if you cannot talk about money, then you are not capable of having a good relationship with your money. i also believe in no 'unsecured' debt and in having prudent reserves and retirement planning but i don't think i need to elaborate why.....because no one sends me hate email s over those issues. i think that women who use credit cards to buy Prada bags are clueless:):):)
i am minimalist when it comes to emails, chats, IM and texting
i need to see in your eyes and hear your voice to connect
As one can imagine, trust and respect are a major component so it will definitely take time to get to the point with someone. Therefore, please don't message me and immediately attempt to Dom me . Cyber sex is never going to happen, i have a web cam and will use it to converse....no nudity or kinky stuff for you or me.
I need a Dom who is generous in all things but above all his heart.
My friends say I am graceful, articulate, upbeat, honest, and appreciative. I have yet to be married and don't have any kids that I know of.....I do have 2 cats. You don't have to like my cats, but you must be able to say you have never kicked a kitten through a fan. Call me old fashioned and I'm sure 1,ooo hairy legged, vegan femminists will tar and feather me but I now believe in the seperation of roles. Yes, I believe men make better providers and protectors and drivers. No, I don't believe in women in combat....tar and feathers be damned, I said it:) I believe women are better healers,caregivers, and spirtual leaders. I believe if a man makes more than 100 K a year, a women should be a stay at home mom(or a stay at home sex slave). I am prefer to be both:):):). I am capable of an have started small businesses and also been part oof management teams of large corp and also been succesful in comiisioned sale prositions. I think women these days don't know which side is bread and which is butter, I know it took me a while to realize it. I use to be obsessed with a former career but it was costing me my femininity and men found it threatening. It was costing me relationship after relationship as I didn't have any time. You can't have 2 Captains on a ship. somebody needs to be happy being the 1st mate. So, I reavaluated my life and goals, sold a tiny business in NYC then to took a job in ATL with alot of flexability in sugical sales. I don't want to be the industry leader in the marathon of the rat race, i'm happy to be a supportive, flexable, submissive, appreciative , and understanding women on the sidelines. A sad truth is people divorce over sex or money. My grandma said when bills come in the front door....love goes out the back. I really get along with and respect business owners and former military guys. I'm not limited to that, don't know why I'm drawn to drived men, I just am. I believe men and women have become to independent. I want to build a relationship based on a healthy interdependance. (Not codependant neediness, not being a married man's mistress or rich mans penthouse pet) But a healthy financial and emotional and sexual interdependance. OK change the tar and feathers to being burnt at the stake but here goes, I think the Man should be the head of the house, BUT (before anyone lights a match let me finish)....BUT it is the WOMEN who is the heart of the house. Yin and Yang. Opposites but equals, the two should balance another and create harmony and hapiness.
I'm geniune, in and out. No fake contacts, no fake boobs, no botox, no bleached teeth or fake hair. No tatoos or piercings. (i hear that women like to put up pictures that make them 10 years younger and 30 pounds thinner, so as an act of good faith i posted my last 3 drivers license pictures)I don't bend and morph to what I think I guy wants....I know what I want and who I am. I don't give advice, I don't state my opinion unless I am asked, then I will speak. I am easy going, flexable,and happy yet not a doormat.
They say behind every good man is a good women and behind every good women is a guy.....checking out her ass :):):):)
I am marriage and family oriented. I am committed to staying in great shape my whole life, when i'm in my 60's I plan on looking like Cher or Tina Turner, 70's Sofia Loren, 50's Kim Bassinger, 40's like Demi Moore or Nicollette Sheridan. It can be done. I like the phrase "trophy wife", femminists be damned!!
I am an avid reader and a life longer learner.
I am a glass is half full person. I believe happiness is a choice and a skill. I love to laugh and have fun. I just need the right guy with the magic to make it all come together for us.
I believe a woman should be adored, cherished and made to feel secure in her life. When she feels those things she can truely give a man herself in a way that most vanilla men can't handle.
What I'm looking for:
I am looking for best friend and lover who is also family oriented. The number risk factor in divorce is an age difference greater than 8 years...by the time there is a 15 year difference the divorce rate goes to 90%. I am unwaiving about dating in my age range (34-49) I value honesty more than any other triait. I beileve honest , open cummunication is a two way street and a foundation for a healthy relationship. Even if it means that NY style of 'brutal honesty'. Somebody with the kind of integrity, that they keep their promises big and small...... the "if I give my word" kinda of guy. An alpha male, someone who is a take charge kinda guy without being overbearing or disrespectul or hurtful or a control freak:):):)
Strong but caring, generous, well mannered, protector, provider, mentor, well spoken, funny and most important trustworthy. Someone who really enjoys pleasing the right women. Someone who is sucessfull in life yet hasn't forgotten the simple joys that money cannot buy. A man who really, really, gets off making a one women happy. A geniune desire to make who he cares about happy, it should give him great personnal pride and delight to know he is a man that knows how to please and care for his women.
Looks are not important to me. As long as my man is well groomed and tries to stay in reasonable shape, he doesn't need to be an underwear model. I don't care about the size of his nose or his waistline, love handles or beer belly...not a problem ( NOT obese) i don't care how much hair is on or not on his head. What matters to me is how he makes me feel when I am with him. I am going to reinterate for emphasis. That is what truely matters to me, how my man makes me feel when I am with him...not how he looks but the feelings he can create that tie me to him.
I need a strong man with a soft spot in his heart of the right women.
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I may be a newbie, but I realize not alot of people "get" this lifesystle. I tell people I think is just like church people(our supposed nemimis). Both peoples talk the talk, think they really got it, preach about it unebashed almost as unebashed as they openly critize others........but in actual practie.... like walking the talk, like living the walk, as lifestyle they are living and not 'aspiring' to get there.....really practing not only in action but in there heart and soul. Very very few do it and most don't just fall short, they fuck it up royally.
Like the anti gay, nationally , renowed preacher against gay marriage, gays in workforce, gays as church members, you name it...ani-gay poster child of a peacher. Was caught with male prostitute. Then he spent 2 months in desert a bunch of men.... to be 'cured of being gay' by God and power of prayer. And is acutally regaining the high of power and respect he lost.
I think if you combine church people and BDSM ers into one group and do a comparasion study to politicians that (comparitively speaking) that politicians have more credibility! :):):)
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A REAL MAN
A REAL MAN ISN'T AFRAID TO WORK
HE KNOWS THAT LOVE AND LIFE, LABOR
WITHOUT LABOR THERE IS NO LOVE-NO LIFE!
A REAL MAN ISN'T
ASHAMED OF WHO HE IS .
DOESN'T MIND THE COMPANY
OF A GOOD WOMAN
ONE WHO IS LEVEL HEADED AND
STRONG MINDED!
A REAL MAN WILL
PROVIDE AND PROTECT HIS FAMILY.
HE KNOWS THAT A PART OF
REAL LIFE IS TO
LOVE AND NURTURE.
A REAL MAN KNOWS
THAT IF THERE ARE NO
FINANCES THERE IS NO ROMANCE.
A REAL MAN WILL WALK
TO THE ENDS OF THE EARTH
FOR HIS KIDS .
STAND ON HIS OWN TWO FEET
WITHOUT THE LIES AND LAME
EXCUSES!
She DOESN'T WANT A MAN
WHO LOOKS LIKE A MAN BUT
ACTS LIKE A BOY!
She DOESN'T WANT A BOY WHO TALKS
LIKE A MAN BUT WALKS LIKE A BOY.
She WANTS A REAL MAN
WHO WILL DO RIGHT BY Her AND
THier KIDS.
A MAN WHO WILL WORK WITH Her
NOT AGAINST Her.
WALK BESIDE Her AND
LEAD Her.
LOVE Her NOT DECEIVE Her.
ADORE Her CHERISH Her OWN her
A REAL MAN IS WHAT women SEEK
WHAT she WANTS AND NEEDS.
A MAN WILLING TO WORK TO
SUPPORT AND CARE FOR THIS FAMILY.
A REAL MAN IS WHAT women WANT
AND NEED.
ONE WHO KNOWS THAT LOVE
LABORS.
REAL MEN AREN'T STAY AT HOME DADS.
REAL MEN ARE THE HEADS OF THEIR
HOUSEHOLDS
EXCEPT AS THEIR RESPONSIBILITY TO
PROVIDE AND LEAD.
She APPRECIATES EVERYTHING HE DOES
AND TRUSTS IN HIM. She WILL FOLLOW
HIS LEAD, SECURE IN HIS DOMINANCE
HE IS A REAL MAN.
HE KNOWS THAT LOVE AND LIFE, LABOR
~~~~copied with permission from "realitymaster007" |
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What submission is to me. I trust that my man is a considerate leader. He takes the opinions and desires of his partner seriously and always tries to make decisions for the good of his family. Sometimes those decisions won't be popular but they are for the best. He evaluates his needs, my needs, how his decision effects our relationship and our goals. He wants to hear my opinion. After weighting all the information, he makes a decision. Accordingly, as his partner, I trust and believe in his leadership will follow his lead an lead my support. Not blindly or ignorantly but secure in the idea that he is looking out for us. Yes, at times he will make mistakes. As long as he hears me out, I will follow...even if it wouldn't been my choice. Life has ups and downs, twists and turns, good choices and mistakes. What submission means to me, is that He and I have a united front against the world. When I follow his lead, there is no strife between us. We are one in our success and failures. I want to always see the ONE as my ally. Our views may differ but we have a united front. I enjoy power exchange. Power struggles are destructive and raut with problems. Total power exhange is not without its faults. But when I weigh the pro's and con's of both, I chose submission. |
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MY RANT ABOUT SEPARATION .........What is single?? Well to me, single means divorced. NOT as in the papers are signed but not filed. i don't make exceptions. i don't care if you have been seperated for 15 years and live in different states, never had kids, and she is living with and having kids with somebody else. i don't care what a mistake marring 'vanilla' was. all i care about is that the divorce is final.
i don't want to hear about extenuating circumstances.....just refain from writing me until the divorce papers are FINALIZED. Until then in my mind you are married and i respect peoples commitment to eachother even if neither one of them do.
i only date single, divorced, or widowed who are open to a LTR. |
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MY RANT ON LIMITS..........Limits to me are limits. Hard limits are to never be crossed. Soft limits are things that under the right circumstances with enough trust and intimacy, the rules can bend.
i couldn't disagree more with the "no limits" mentality. and the hurling of the insult..."you're not a "true" submissive". if you said i had to let 6 guys fuck me up the ass. as your slave i would comply....please, just becuase i don't want to die of aids, doesn't mean i am not a submissive.
i need to be with a Dom that treats me and all people with courtesy and respect. i don't want to be with someone who thinks the definition of limits is ....stuff that i unrelently push you on, till i get my way...then i find something new. or if you ever said to a sub, "I will TELL you want your limits are!!!", trust me when i say....we are NOT a match. Even in war time, we have the Geniva Convention, to ensure we don't become insane extremists. I believe all healthy people have limits and boundaries. I think a lack of boundaries shows a dangerous lack of self esteem. I am emotionally healthy and capable of having a fullfilling relationship.
there is a difference between overbearing control freak and someone who can help me overcome my fears and inhibitions.
there is a difference between a selfish spoiled man who has to have his way all the time and someone who rules) in place. all kinds of rules, all players are expected to be
have sportsman like conduct.
in boxing, Tyson, got thrown out ...for stepping over a "hard limit", in boxing. His behaviour was insane. Doms who want "no limit subs" are like the Mike Tysons of D/s. They will never be allowed to play in my league.
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| Age: 24 |
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