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I am his girl friday.
I have been involved in the bdsm culture for over 7 years.
My journey was guided by amazing people.
They have taught me incredible lessons.
I am only interested in discussing educational information or requests for classes or event information.
I am in a committed monogamous relationship and focused on that now. I am not looking for play at this time.
I love all the ways I get to serve the community.
But, I'm also going to start serving myself...,
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Community items:
I host a couple of events upon request:
Submissives Sleepovers
Kinky Networking
Group I run:
Submissive Safe Haven
Classes I have taught:
Service with a Smile
Submission 101
The Heart of a Submissive
I am always looking for opportunities to work with others in educational areas.
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Play:
I have a variety of interests.
Bondage
Predicament bondage
Impact: Dragon tails, whips, single tail, floggers, as well as many other nice hitting implements.
A nice firm hand is always a good choice.
Violet wand
Wax Play
Multi Top scenes are really exciting.
In the past I have assisted newer rope Tops by being a living canvas to practice tying with.
It is rewarding to help them, I appreciate being able to give feedback on the ties in order to help them learn.
I have also been fortunate to be a demo bottom for rope, violet wand, wax play and fire play classes.
Educational conferences;
MsC
2011, 2012, and 2013
S.E.L.F.
2012 and 2013
Debauchery
2011, 2012, and 2013
Friend requests:
I love meeting new people. I am very fortunate to attend some great events.
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Why I am on collarme: I enjoy being a part of the BDSM community
It is important to me to do my part in providing information about events and learning opportunities to others.
The reason I think I should be on here is because I hope that I have information that might help others in their journey to meet others.
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?fyi: All of my photos are me.
Seriously. I would steal a hell of a lot better pictures if I were going to put up fake ones. ? ?
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The next generation comes in shapes, sizes, and ages.
They are the ones that will need guidance.
Helping hands
Valid information
Safe spaces to explore.
A couple years ago there was a lovely slave attending a class I was in at MsC
She talked about the TNG group they ran.
No age limit.
There the focus was to reach out to anyone new and help give them guidance.
Are there differences in a new 18 explorer and a 50 year old new explorer.
Sure.
But the basics safety measures and information are universal standards regardless of age.
Would 18 year olds benefit from a variety of opinions from older kinksters.
Yes, just as we would from them.
"TNG. the next generation doesn't have an age limit. "
The next generation of bdsm isn't guaranteed to come from the ranks of the under 35 crowd.
We need to keep some newcomer groups open enough for all ages to come in and receive an education in bdsm. |
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Service and why I need to be of service.
It gives me purpose.
Whether I'm serving a specific person or the community.
I need to use my varied and skills.
I love to give back to the community and help others explore safely and in a healthy manner.
Serving the one, that is the ultimate satisfaction and recognition of my worth.
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Something I found on a motivational site that I really liked.
Passionate
Transforming
Wellness
Worthy
Radiance
Renewal
Thriving
Purposeful
Exuberant
Energetic
Brilliance
Abundance
Align
Visionary
Luminous
Creativity
Discovery
Results
Love
Release
Peaceful
Growth
Imagination
Courageous
Serendipity
Grace
Harmonious
Visualize
Clarity
Focus
Persistence
Service
Philanthropy
Faith
Outrageous
Insightful
Unlimited
Unleash
Results
Uncover
Solutions
Quality
Power/Powerful
Compelling
Exciting
Accomplish
Instantaneous
Worthwhile
Succulent
Start today ? see how often and how many of these POWER WORDS you can include in your vocabulary. And I challenge you - TODAY - create your own POWER WORDS or EMPOWERING WORDS list. Words that invoke, delight, motivate and EMPOWER YOU.
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What I'm super busy with right now.
Submissive Safe Haven Symposium.
This is an event I have created to provide an educational event for submissives.
I have picked out amazing presenters and am working with my local playspace to host it at.
It is scary and a really big endeavor for me. I've hosted my Submissive Sleepovers for over a year now. They have been amazing.
You see. I'm not just here to perv or goof around.
I believe in helping my fellow slaves and subs enjoy a safe lifestyle adventure. |
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Dear NewYorkToo2015.
Do not send me a jackass email and then block me.
How immature. If you are going to throw accusations out at me, I should at least me able to reply.
Never mind. The message you sent was so ridiculous I'm not sure why I care to respond.
I have no clue why you sent what you did. I will assume it was not meant for me.
I normally don't give a shit about crank emails. But this bothered me. |
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I'm so excited. Attending my fourth Master slave conference this weekend.
This is a great chance to get recharged. |
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Tips for a good profile.
* do not use dark backgrounds in your about me section. It makes it impossible to read.
I know, you want it to stand out- but what it does is give someone a headache trying to see the tiny black words in a sea of red, green, or blue.
A simple white background is fine.
* paragraphs and indentations or "bullet points".
Formatting makes a huge difference. A huge run on paragraph is difficult to read.
Space it out.
* please don't spend a huge paragraph telling me how if I want to know you I have to ask.
Just tell me stuff. Something that makes you unique. Kink related or not.
You all have years of experience. You all want a no limits sub. You all are strict and very very dominant. Gotcha. What else. Where have you been. What's the most unusual kink you've witnessed.
* write journal entries. Give us some insight into you. What does being the dominant of a submissive mean to you.
* tell about events, classes, groups you've been a part of. Not many subs want a total recluse that they have to set up 43 safe calls to meet for coffee.
What do you do in the community.
How did you begun your journey.
Just a few ideas. We really do want to meet you guys. But it is so formulaic on kink sites for what Doms put in their profiles. Look at other dominate profiles. See the things you'd like to include in yours.
Ok. Back to skipping over the really possibly interesting guy with a horribly impossible to read profile. What a shame. I know a few subs that might like him. |
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slut, sub, slave
These are the names i have answered to for almost six years now.
Each of them played a key role and were an indicator of who i was at that moment...
slut.. i was the play thing, to fun toy to enjoy and i explored... i tried it all out. There were no rules to my behavior, i could be anything.
"slut, you better not bite me, that flogger is hungry for your ass... just saying.."
I spent my time on meeting, doing, and learning...
I fucked, I played, I was living the fantasies that i had merely read about on Literotica. They were my reality now. No holds barred. No regrets.
sub.... You are a submissive.
Umm, wait. This means what to me?
what do i do now? How can I be a sub, I am in charge. right.
i found peace. "sub, here, by my side.. let me show you things..."
I realized that something stirred inside me when "He" would speak.
I recognized a need that fucking and playing did not fill.
sub... i made me tingle. I could sit quietly and wait for Him to reach out for me.
I begged to submit to Him. I needed Him to want my submission, that meant the world to us.. to explore..
I found out what was expected of a sub. Respectful actions, taking into account what He wanted from me. I was no longer running willy nilly about fucking as much or playing as much as before.. as a slut.. That felt good.
Through my bondage of submission i found a comfortable freedom that i did not know existed.
"you are a slave"
huh? a what?
I am not .. no way.. I don't have my degree from submissive university yet, I don't know EVERYTHING there is to know about being a submissive... no way in heck i am a "slave creature".....
you are a slave.. you are my property. You are precious and valuable.
The day you surrendered to me, you were mine.
For me, being a slave is about the surrender. Not the destruction of who i am.
It is about me knowing the one that i surrender to values and will protect me.
I can trust them completely wit all of me. I can surrender and breath.
A Master has to master the mind of His slave and not to torment her body - only then He's worth the most precious gift that was given to Him - the slave herself! -- Sir Peter Mclaughlin
Being a slave allowed me to find new purpose for my life, not just in bdsm. To recognize this part of my personality was a key to unlocking new places for me to travel in my mind.
It felt right.
I am not a slave as defined by any other person. You can not say that i must be any particular type of slave or other.
Am i submissive, yes, being a slave does not necessariyl mean that you are submissive, two different animals.. I am submissive, i am a slave minded and service oriented woman.
These are my deors.
This is me.
i am a slutty little submissive slave, that will serve you with every ounce of her being.
this is a note for me. not an epic work of literary art. Just my thoughts.
every so often i question why i am in this lifestyle. I am not a pain slut, i am not a masochist in the traditional sense of the word.
I lose sight of the why and what of this world. It is a lot of work, it hurts sometimes, and other times it just sucks ass.
so, I sit and i talk to myself... i do a checklist of sorts.
I love being a slut, check.
I enjoy finding people that tweak my submissive side, check.
I found love and freedom in being a slave, check.
my note. TL:DR as young kids would say.... |
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Very simply asked....
What does it feel like,
That first time you knew,
That a submissive was yours for the taking,
That something in you, about you, exuded by your presence,
Has brought them to your side,
Made them need, You.
How did you know.
What was it like for You...
So.
My wonderful dominant friends.
What is it like to have another human being, kneel before you, asking you to take them as your own.
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Good day.
I'd like to welcome you to The Bank of Friday
I'm so pleased you've chosen to friend and get to know TB of F
The Bank of Friday was established in November 2008.
Since it's creation, TB of F has been through two different ownerships.
After a few hard times, TB of F has refocused its efforts on building it's infrastructure.
Stronger than ever, a firm operating model, looking for new or renewed contributors.
Let's discuss your account particulars.
For brand new contributors to TB of F
You will have an awarded starting balance of:
500 Trust Credits
For previous contributors in TB of F, your starting balance is:
1000 Trust Credits
Investors in TB of F, assisting in its expansion and growth receive an additional line of credit:
1000 Trust Credits
Plus!
100 Faith Credits!
Plus!
Two "No Penalty" Withdrawls.
You will be issued a debit card and nicely designed deposit slips.
With your lines of credit, there is potential for increased interest rates based on infrequent withdrawals.
The Bank of Friday is here for the community and fine people on TB of F's circle of contributors.
If the TB of F can improve your interactions and understanding of what constitutes heavy withdrawal penalties, please contact with your inquiries:
his_girl_friday COO of TB of F
I hope you've had and will continue having a pleasant experience with TB of F.
Good day.
Sorry, we ran out of toasters. |
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Dear dear Dominants.
You should read this:
from The Iron Gate website
http://www.the-iron-gate.com/essays/86
Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust Your Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves
Author: Norische
The BDSM lifestyle harbors many dangers, oddly enough most people think only about the dangers to the submissive or slave and not to those dangers present for the Dominant. Among the thousands of dedicated, hard working, honest and disciplined submissives and slaves there are those few that pose a danger. There are those that are users, manipulators, liars, gold diggers, wannabees, and scam artists. Unfortunately sometimes we do not see these individuals for what they truly are until it is too late.
Some individuals are under the impression that all it takes to be a submissive is to sit pretty and say "Yes, Master" or "Yes, Mistress". There is a lot more to being a submissive or slave that just knowing what to say or how to look good. Being a submissive is something that is deep within you, it is the core of your very nature, the idea of service is a dream or better yet a fantasy that you hold dear to your heart. Being a slave is taking the idea of submission and living the fantasy, there are many types of slaves and submissives just as there are many types of Dominants. Here are a few that may pose a problem to a loving and trusting Dominant.
Cyber slave/sub. This is someone that has gained most of his or her experience from the Internet, he or she normally has little or no real life experience.
The Professional Victim slave/sub. This is someone that spends a great deal of time making others feel sorry for them, they are always telling others about how they were abuse or victimized by someone. One thing that I have noticed with this individual is that they never take responsibility for any thing; it is always someone else\'s fault. They will knowingly put themselves in danger or in situations where there is sure to be a problem, and then blame the other party. They never learn from their mistakes, mainly because they don\'t want to they love the pity parties and the attention.
The Show Piece slave/sub. This is someone that thinks the only thing they need to do is look good. They can\'t scrub the floors because they might mess up their manicure; they can\'t take out the trash because it smells funny and will make them smell funny too. This is an individual that will wear the most dazzling leather outfit to the club but refuse to scene because it might muss his or her hair. This person will spend hours at the gym, and tanning salon as well as spend their entire paycheck on clothes. This individual is into BDSM mainly because of the really cool outfits and he or she just looks so damn good in leather.
The Fetish-Freak slave/sub. This is someone that is just into kink, any and all kinks, if it is strange and unusual they like it. They have a tendency to try something for a while and then move onto the next new kink. These individuals are out for the thrill; they love the shock factor and will try anything once, maybe twice just to make sure they really didn\'t like it. They have a tendency to find a Dominant and make a big show of commitment but leave him or her when a new freakier friend shows up.
The Gold Digger slave/sub. This is someone that will be the perfect slave or submissive as long as the Dominant is willing to pay the way. He or she will do anything the Dominant wants but if the money runs out they are out the door. This person chooses their Dominant carefully; they will come into the relationship with the full knowledge that they plan to be spoiled. The minute they enter the Dominant\'s life this slave/sub will expect him or her to flip the bill for everything; new clothes, car payments, manicures, the list never stops. They will insist that they live with the Dominant. They also very seldom have an outside job, the excuse for this is quite simple, if they worked outside the home then they would not have the time to serve their Dominant.
The Excuse slave/sub. This is someone that has an excuse for everything. This person may or may not do what you ask, and if not you can bet your bottom dollar there is a good excuse for why they didn\'t do what you asked them to. They border on what I would call lazy, they are artist at getting out of doing anything. If you desperately need something done then you had better find someone else to do it.
The Legal Eagle slave/sub. This is someone that will report you to the authorities at the drop of a hat. This slave/sub may agree to scene with you, talk about everything that you plan to do, and agree to it. Then the next day take themselves to the emergency room and claim you abused them, or worse that you raped them. This individual is dangerous not only to those involved with them but to the BDSM society in general, it is this individual that will go to the press or police and tell everything they know about anyone they know.
The Everyday Thief slave/sub. This is someone that will work their way into your life and then just when they have earned your trust they rob you blind. It may be slowly and subtly at first, a few dollars here or there, and if found out there is always a reasonable explanation. However if not caught soon enough this slave/sub will wipe you out, and leave a terribly bitter taste in your mouth for quite some time.
The above are just examples of the different types of undesirable slaves/subs, these examples are by no means the majority of individuals, in fact they are truly the minority.
All submissives and slaves are unique and it is this uniqueness that makes them interesting, however if you believe an individual you are involved with may fit into one of the above categories then perhaps you should look into reevaluating your relationship with him or her.
When we are in a relationship we tend to over look many warning signs, although in retrospect we can clearly see what was once oblivious to our minds. Here are a few questions you should ask yourself and remember to answer them honestly, when you have finished go back and look at the questions again, also look at the way you answered them.
* Does the slave/sub demand expensive gifts?
* Does the slave/sub get overly emotional when they don\'t get his or her way?
* Does the slave/sub demand all of your time, not allowing you to spend time with friends or family?
* Does the slave/sub threaten to leave you when ever you tell them No!
* Does the slave/sub demand your attention even when you are too tired or too sick to do as they wish?
* Does the slave/sub spend an unusual amount of time preening or looking at him or her self in the mirror?
* Does the slave/sub constantly beg for new clothes, shoes, jewelry, or gifts?
* Does the slave/sub frequently compare you with other relationships that he or she has had?
* Have you caught the slave/sub in a lie?
* Has the slave/sub ever made you feel guilty about questioning his or her actions?
* Has the slave/sub ever used tears to influence your actions?
* Has the slave/sub ever told you that you are ugly or criticized you about your appearance?
* Has the slave/sub ever told you that he or she didn\'t wish to be seen publicly with you?
* When you are at a group function does the slave/sub wander off the minute that he or she steps in the door?
* Has the slave/sub ever told you to shut up?
* Has the slave/sub ever cussed you out or yelled at you?
* Has the slave/sub ever refused to have physical relations with you just to get back at you for something?
* Has the slave/sub ever threatened to have you arrested?
* Has the slave/sub ever called the police on you?
* Has the slave/sub ever made you feel guilty about asking them to do minor housework?
* Has the slave/sub ever make up stories about you or told others things that should be kept within the relationship?
* Have you ever had to do without something just to be able to buy the slave/sub something they want, this does not include basic needs?
* Have you ever felt like the slave/sub is hiding something important?
* Have you ever come home unexpected and found the slave/sub missing and when he or she finally shows up they are unwilling to tell you where they were?
* Have you ever dreaded talking to the slave/sub because you honestly didn\'t want to get into a fight?
* Have you ever dreaded coming home, because of the slave/sub?
* Have you been depressed or anxious since the slave/sub has become part of your life?
* Have you found things missing unexpectedly?
* Have you noticed unusual charges on your credit cards, or associated with your checking account?
* Has the slave/sub ever struck out at you or attempted any form of physical violence against you?
* Has the slave/sub ever demanded to know where you are or called to check up on you?
* Has the slave/sub ever nagged you to do something?
* Have others told you that your slave/sub has behaved in an unacceptable manner?
* Does the slave/sub frequently make excuses for not getting something done, even if they know it is important?
* Has the slave/sub ever betrayed your trust?
* Has the slave/sub ever threatened to commit suicide just to get his or her way?
* Does the slave/sub participate in illegal activities; this does include the use of illegal drugs?
* Does the slave/sub drink to excess or drink often?
* Does the slave/sub quit talking to you or ignore you as a means of punishing you?
* Does the slave/sub get jealous whenever others are around?
* Have you ever felt lonely even when you are with your slave/sub?
* Have you ever avoided asking the slave/sub to do something just because it would be easier to do it yourself?
* Has the slave/sub refused to speak about his or her past?
* When question does he or she avoid giving prompt, thorough answers?
* Does the slave/sub get upset if he or she is not the center of attention?
* Does the slave/sub seem to spend your money faster than you can make it?
* Have you ever second-guessed your decision to get into the relationship?
* Has the slave/sub ever begged or coerced you into doing something that you are not interested in doing?
* Has the slave/sub ever asked you to cross your own personal limits or boundaries?
* Does the slave/sub constantly want to know where you were or where you\'re going?
* Did the slave/sub beg you to be his or her Dominant after only knowing them for a short time?
* Did the slave/sub start following you around, joining groups you belong to even getting a job at where you work, before you were in a permanent relationship?
* Does the slave/sub make you feel uneasy at times?
These questions are designed to range in a wide variety of areas and severities. Read each question carefully and remember that everything is relative. If the slave/sub has gotten upset with you and pouted for a little while it is ok: if he or she has thrown a fit and refused to talk to you for a week then you probably need to reevaluate your currant arrangement. Look at your combination of answers, did you answer yes to those involving possible control or discipline issues, perhaps all that is necessary is a reassertion of who is the Dominant in the relationship. If you answered yes to issues that involve high emotions, financial or legal issues then perhaps you need to take a step back and look at things a little closer.
Every BDSM relationship is different, just as every Dominant, Master or Mistress is different. We all expect something different from out slave/sub, however when we get into a relationship with another individual normally we take the time to examine what the role of each individual will be. Some relationships allow a great deal of independence and flexibility, others are structured and demand obedience, neither is wrong by any means they are just different. The main issue is whether or not the relationship that we find ourselves in is the same one we agreed to. As a Dominant, are you getting everything out of the relationship that you expected to have? Do you question your slave/sub\'s loyalty, honesty, or integrity?
When I originally started writing this article I thought of all the Dominants that I have ever known, specifically those that have been involved in bad relationships, I must say that there were quite a few. I would like to say however there were far more that were happy, healthy relationships. There are some individuals out there that will seek out others to use, manipulate, abuse, or take advantage of, both in BDSM as well as vanilla relationships, so do not think that this is common only to the BDSM lifestyle.
Being a submissive/slave takes honor, loyalty, service, obedience, integrity, intelligence, and an open mind. There is no room for greed, laziness, egos, jealousy, dishonesty, threats, or secrets. I have found from my experience that a good submissive/slave is worth their weight in gold; at times I would not know what to do without my slave.
A few months ago I had major surgery, and I had to travel over 600 miles away from home to have this surgery, the trip took a total of 5 days. None of my family was there, not my sisters, or my daughters, no one…….no one except my slave. I must say that through the pain of coming out of surgery, thought the confusion and the fear there was never a more beautiful site than the face of my slave smiling down at me as she brushed the hair out of my eyes. Knowing she was there made it all seem a little better. Since then she has been there to make sure I took my medicine, to make sure that I didn\'t exert myself and to walk me though each challenge. She patiently waited until I was able to scene with her, without ever once making me feel bad or guilty about not being able to give her the attention I knew she so desperately wanted.
I tell you this so that you do not go away after reading this article thinking that all slaves/subs are bad or dangerous. Simply look over the questions I have listed, if you answered yes to a question, look at it again. Is the action or behavior something that was done one time or were there special circumstances surrounding the event. If so then perhaps you should answer that question as no, or ignore it. If you see a trend in your answers perhaps you should sit down and talk to your submissive/slave as to those things that you feel are disturbing. If you feel the relationship is unhealthy or dangerous perhaps you should step back and reevaluate. |
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Christmas gift suggestions:
To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect. ~Oren Arnold
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Take care.
When you first venture out into this lifestyle it can be very overwhelming or disappointing depending on what you "think" will happen.
Do you expect to immediately out the big blue sky have the perfect man or woman just drop into your lap. Simply by posting a profile.
This site is primarily for the BDSM lifestyle.
Not exactly a "dating site".. If you follow the website name.
Collarme- Subs seeking a Dominant to form a D/s or M/s dynamic
They hope some day to be collared, commited to One.
The level is as binding emotionally as being married.
To be collared is that statement that you have completely submitted
For a slave it is their surrender given physical form.
A collar on their neck or some other symbol.
I am curious about how everyone does on here that are seeking bedroom bdsm only.
I like reaching out to new people and to share event information when I can.
Not sure this would necessarily be the way if search for a dominant. Not based simply on their profile. Dominance to me is a reaction... A feeling.
So it's hard to know from black words on a white screen whether that exists.
But this and other sites do give a snap shot.
For me. I love seeing profiles that are active with personal journals.
Discussions about view points on the lifestyle.
It's crucial to get out from in front of the computer though and go out into the local community.
Ok. Sunday blah blah blah.
- be honest about what you know
-be honest about what you want
-be honest about your personality. |
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Dear Unethical Whores
You. The one that has no respect for yourself and sure as hell no respect for others.
You. The one that has no regard for feelings of others. That you just go after what you see you want to take.
No regard.
No control.
No thought to anyone else.
Thanks. |
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What is 24/7 to me...
It means when I wake up in the morning, I wonder how you slept.
It means as I deal with tough situations at work I think of your arms holding me close.
It means my movements and actions reflect directly on you.
It means I feel you with me when I'm alone or frightened.
We aren't always in the same room or building or city.
But you are in my heart, my head, and my life twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.
I feel you. Breath you. Need you.
Like no one else. |
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Public Service Announcement:
Penis Pics
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=s4VbgyI09-M#!
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My main profile picture.
It is a "collar"
It signifies the ownership and property relationship I share with the Master I serve
I realize many on here do not understand, recognize, or accept these concepts.
That's totally fine.
But I do live a Master and slave life.
I find great comfort and pleasure in the trust and control I have given to him.
Please be respectful.
If you are a dominant or Master please contact him first before starting conversations beyond simple comments.
I'm not looking for a new Master
I am here to share information about learning opportunities.
Also, this is a comfortable place for me to write.
His profile is blackheartmagick on collarme.
Thank you
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It's really quite special how people that have much more than others, just can't appreciate it.
They aren't ever satisfied. There's always a greener piece just waiting for them.
They have what many spend their vanilla or kink life searching for.
But it's just not good enough.
They want something else and neglect what anyone else would love to have.
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KISS
Keep
It
Simple
Stupid
That's how we keep our sanity
Stop over complicating your life.
Learn to take a deep breath.
Enjoy the sensations and experiences available through this lifestyle.
Don't allow "drop down arrows" define who you are.
It's ok to be totally unsure of what you want.
Just keep it simple.
What interests you
What feels good
What feels right
We control the path we follow.
So just take time to stop and smell the roses along the way.
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I'm ok
I'm ok with the fact I am 46 years old
I'm ok with the wrinkles and lines in my face
I'm ok with my gray hairs, even though they fall victim to dye. I like auburn hair
I'm ok with my curves and bulges. Do I want to get some focus on better health.
Yes. But due to weight loss of 150 lbs. I will never be tight and toned looking. That's ok. I'll just work on getting my muscles and flexibility at the top of their game.
I do post pictures that many don't find the particularly appealing.
For me, I don't post them to entice a partner. I post things I've done that meant something to me or exhibits a skill or time I enjoyed bottoming.
I know a lot of girls that only post the "laying back on bed, wide eyed shots". But nothing of their body or how their face looks without the aid of gravity.
Why don't I want someone to know what i look like. If you meet, they are going to kind of see the whole package.
Honestly. I'm ok with skin bulging through the tight rope on my body.
It's the rope and the visionary that are important.
I'm just the doll being dressed in hemp, duct tape, of other bondage material.
As long as my body still allows myself and my partners to have a fun time, I'm ok. |
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Losing it...
I've been so tied up in external things that I've lost a grasp on what excited me in the past about bdsm.
I used to love to play. I am a very good bottom...
But now... I have lost touch with so much that is a part the fun in bdsm |
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Slave
The taboo of the "lifestyle" world.
Mindless. Weak. Gullible.
No more more valued than a broken down truck in the driveway.
Heard it all. And then some. |
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Happy New Years to my fellow kinksters.
Resolution.
To become the person I can be.
Better health
More education in my personal and kink life
Offering my knowledge to others
I am blessed to be able to attend major kink events.
It is important that this year I share the knowledge that I've gained.
Motto for 2013;
Each one, teach one
I will make the effort to enhance the journeys of other slaves, submissives and even Dominants. Yeah. Dominants could learn a lot from listening to a little ol slave like myself.
Trust me: I'm one truly sadistic little shit.
Just kidding.... not.
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Dominance.
That spark a sub feels coming from someone.
Regardless of how they self identify.
There's just something there.
I have actually recognized a little zing from fellow slaves.
They are typically a power slave. It has nothing to do with their sex.
It's an unusual reaction. But it is what it is.
I tend to grow closer to them simply because that spark means they are strong people.
It's not that I want to submit to them. I just respect how I perceive them and hope to learn from them.
Identified Dominants. There have been a few that I've met in my travels that I had an immediate reaction
The sense that I should really just shut up and be mindful of my movement.
That spark starts the friendship on a path of earned respect.
The spark is not enough. They earn my respect for them as a dominant or especially a Master.
If I feel compelled to call someone "Sir" or "Master"... They have shown themselves a worthy member of this community.
On occasion, a person I've come to respect, loses it.
I hate it, but I don't give respect on this level at a whim.
Dominants. Do you ever meet someone. Labeled a dominant or a submissive and self that they are "sparking as a dominant" to you?
Do you ever sense a sort of pecking order?
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Submission.
What does submission look like.
How do you know that you are being submitted to...ugh...bad sentence.
Is it measurable?
Is it specific acts or speech?
Is there some checklist a dominant fills out on "the submissive" that says - yep, they are submitting to my will.
How do you know when they have truly allowed themselves to submit
I can play the submissive game, anyone can.
But it's a charade. Just an act. If my soul isn't in it.
Just because I offer to get you a drink or put away your trash.
That's not submitting. That's being helpful.
For me.
My submission is deep inside somewhere.
It's a need to live it. (makes no sense I know)
I grow and learn from my submission. To help anothers needs
To enjoy the fullness of my being through submission.
Dominants, have you been in a situation where someone begged to submit.
They played the part beautifully. But it wasn't real.
How was it apparent to you that they weren't vested in giving it to you.
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What does submissive look for:
Natural dominance. When you walk up to her, she gets that cold shiver down her spine
It's a mixture of fear and immediate understanding that you will control her
Confidence. Someone that is secure in who they are and what they need.
Honorable and trustworthy. We put our lives in your hands. To do that we have to know you will protect us fully.
In control. You have your personal ducks in a row. Your life is stable- not perfect- but only the normal craziness.
Present and future. You live in this moment. Not soley your past. You have goals for your future. The drive to accomplish them.
Need. You need a submissive. You need to feed her desire to submit to you.
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Leather.
What do you know and understand about the Leather Lifestyle?
Is it only for the "founding fathers" of BDSM?
Is it only gay males meeting in bars?
Do you have an idea about how the Leather lifestyle impacts the BDSM lifestyle?
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Balance
We see Masters and Dominants have multiple subs or slaves.
Ok.
What about the sub or slave having a secondary dominant in their life.
How does it work?
Could you handle being the secondary. What could that role entail?
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If you were asked......
What's the one thing right now that you Do Not want to tell me...
How would you feel and how you react?
Panic? Comfortable with expressing yourself?
Is this strictly a one sided question?
Could a slave or sub ask their Master or Dominant?
I attended an amazing class at MsC this year and this question a part of the teacher and slaves bedtime ritual. He will ask his slave after they've done there other things preparing for bed...
So. Any thoughts?
I am not asking for you to express what that one thing is, this is just something that really struck a chord. |
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How to offer an Apology
* "I regret the hurt I caused you, it is inexcusable and it will never happen again."
* "Is there anything I can do to make it up to you?"
There you go, feel free to use as needed.
What? It's too hard.....
Why, why is it so difficult to say:
## "I am sorry"
"Three words that few know how to say...."
When should you say them?
Why is it so important to hear them?
Should you ever refuse to say them?
If someone says them to you, how do you receive them?
## "I am sorry."
Three words that can be as powerful in any part of your life.
Do you say "I'm sorry" without really owning responsibility?
How do you know when you really need to apologize.
Are you prepared for the one you apologize to, to not accept it.
So. Thoughts.
Right this minute do you feel like you owe someone an apology?
Right this minute do you feel someone owes you an apology
Does this put a strain on your regular interaction if they are someone you see often.
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"oops.. I... did it again"
Do you have a behavior. Not even a kink related behavior that your Master or *slave* is/has been helping you work on correcting?
Maybe you clink your spoon in the coffee cup incessantly and don't realize it.
Maybe you arent practicing active listening techniques, and you forget vital details.
Is there a personal behavior that:
Your Master/slave has pointed out
You recognize in yourself a behaviour you don't like
...... Did you come up with an effective plan to correct the issue.
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Right.
No limits.
......"but, I have limits"
...... "but, I have triggers"
...... "but, I'm the Dominant".... So it can't be...
Thoughts?
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I've said it before, I'll say once more.
If you are only on here to perv the pictures and jerk off.
No problem.
If you are on here to really find someone that "completes" you.
Great.
If you are brand spanking new- please have a profile with honest information.
Understand what you are looking for, whether it's sex of power exchange.
Also, please consider having something other than a cock picture right up front.
To be honest, I automatically judge you as just a player looking for easy sex.
It is hard to take someone seriously if all I have for information is what their cock looks like.
I'm not saying don't post cock pics. That's totally your choice. Just understand the available subs I know are not turned on by it and driven to delve deeper.
Have a profile. Even if you're new. Talk about who you are, why you're here
Something that let's us see a glimpse of you as a person. Not just a body part. |
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Tonight in Raleigh, NC:
Raleigh Rope Bite
"Rope Bottoms Roundtable"
I will enjoy sharing my experiences growing with bondage. |
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It's been ages since I've updated pics. Hopefully this weekend. |
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In a weird "don't give a slave fuck mood....."
"The last man on Earth sat alone in a room. There was a knock on the door." |
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I am currently attending the Master slave Conference in DC.
This is my second time, last year I had too little time and got overwhelmed.
For this years conference we arrived a day early and we are just helping out and relaxing.
The classes start Saturday. I can't wait.
You should check it out.
MsC. Amazing world class presenters.
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How my code directs me in interactions.
Dominants
I will be polite, regardless of designation.
If I am aware of there title or status, I will be polite. But not above the level acceptable to Master.
If I have an established relationship or friendship with a dominant. I will be prepared and pleased to help in a service capacity if Master directs me in such a way.
Once a dominant has earned my respect and or Master respect, I may choose to refer to them as "Sir". This is a title of respect that I do bestow on them. I do not take titles lightly.
I expect that Dominants will remember my place beside Master.
Respect that I am not their slave. They may respectfully request my service from Master. No offense is meant if I decline to perform a task I do not know would be approved.
It is my nature to want to serve when someone needs it. I must refrain from reacting to every request as it may effect my ability to serve Master.
I will pay close attention to those in a Dominants life. Showing an understanding of their dynamic. |
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This is a path. This an unfolding journey.
First - How these apply to myself and Master
For myself:
I will continue to improve my confidence when it comes to expressing my needs and desires with Master.?
I will strive to dress and attend to my appearance and be pleasing to Master in the way I dress even in vanilla settings.?
Remaining healthy is very important to the health of our relationship. I will continue to work towards increasing my physical exercise as he requests.?
I will treasure serving, even in the smallest ways.?
I seeking?guidance from more experienced slaves is acceptable and important when I am not able to find necessary answers.?
For Master
I am owned. ?His property. I will strive to please Him with my body and desire to be used for His pleasure.?
Master?s needs are my focus. I am to provide comfort and relief to him and make his life more comfortable. ?
I will constantly work on bettering my ability to abide by the rules set by Master.?
I will help create a home environment that is comfortable and inviting to Master and his guests.? |
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Slave Training Folder
I have a lot of growth to do i am starting work on my Training Folder.
Categories/Files I will be working on:
- Slave Code of Ethics.
These will outline my expectations for my personal attitude, behaviours, and interactions with fellow slaves or Dominants.
- Class list
Topics which I want to find classes to attend to learn more about the subject.
- Conferences and Events
Locate upcoming or reoccurring Training conferences or events
Set up calendar and budgeting for finances and vacation time
- Reading List
Establish a list of books I should read to better personal understanding of being a
slave
Collect articles and writings that inspire or give me direction
- BDSM Checklist
Keep an updated copy of the checklist. Standard checklist.
- Online Training Resources
Find free online training in areas that help expand my knowledge.
Topics can be greatly varied I.e. Foreign language, formal serving, ironing, etc...
- Create Resume
Contain information regarding past experiences and training.
- Community service
My involvement with community- teaching, volunteering
Groups I lead or assist with
- Associations
Groups/organizations that I am active in as a member
There's more.... But still developing. |
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To let anothers actions cause such reactions.
Insecurity
Fear
Doubt
Shyness
Self doubt
Diminished
Dismantled
I believe in being proactive instead staying in defensive reaction mode.
But things occur and in a moment you just...slide down a dark hole.
I will always dig my way out. Lots if dirt under these nails.
But that downward slide. The falling is terrifying.
Lies
Deceit
Half truths
Secrecy
These are the rocks that line the path of decent.
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FYI to newbies:
Just because you are male, does not mean you have to be dominant.
Just because you are female does not mean you are submissive.
It's ok to totally a combination of both or none.
Be honest. Do you really understand D/s relationships.
Do you really want that responsibility.
Or do you just want some kinky bedroom fun.
It's ok.
If you only want to find the "dirty little slut girl/boy" that's ready, willing and able to all the fun perverse sexual fantasies you have.... Say that.
Don't dance around the truth about what you really want.
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MAsT Greensboro today!
Great topics.
Great group.
3-6 pm. Private room.
Tex and Shirleys Family Restaurant
708 Pembroke Road
Greensboro, Nc
This is a discussion group that focuses on the various needs of power exchange dynamics.
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Tonight in Greensboro, Nc
IHOP. Lanada Drive location.
People start arriving around 11 pm, we are usually there until 2 am...
Lots of fun kinky people.
Come on out. |
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Looking forward to the weekend. Three very unique activities.
All three in Greensboro. |
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"Dear Dominants and Masters"
Please. Open your eyes. Look beyond the surface of those begging your lead.
Look at not just the surface. Not just what is at the moment.
See the potential.
Be who you say you are. An owner. A Dominant. A Master.
Do what you are supposed to do.
Lead. Mold. Create. Help them become.
I know I've posted the following writing before. But I love it.
The Touch...of a Master's Hand?
"Twas battered and scarred, and the auctioneer?
Thought it scarcely worth his while?
To waste much time on the old violin,?
But he held it up with a smile:?
"What am I bidden, good folks," he cried,?
"Who'll start the bidding for me?"?
"A dollar, a dollar"; then, "Two!" "Only two??
Two dollars, and who'll make it three??
Three dollars, once; three dollars, twice;?
Going for three..." But no,?
From the room, far back, a gray-haired man?
Came forward and picked up the bow;?
Then, wiping the dust from the old violin,?
and tightening the loose strings,?
He played a melody pure and sweet?
As a caroling angel sings.?
The music ceased, and the auctioneer,?
With a voice that was quiet and low,?
Said: "What am I bid for the old violin?"?
And he held it up with the bow.?
"A thousand dollars, and who'll make it two??
Two thousand; and who'll make it three??
Three thousand, once, three thousand, twice,?
And going, and gone," said he.?
The people cheered, but some of them cried,?
"We simply do not understand?
What changed its worth." Swift came the reply:?
"The touch of a master's hand".?
And many a man, with life out of tune,?
And battered and scarred with sin,?
Is auctioned cheap to the thoughtless crowd,?
Much like the old violin.?
A "mess of pottage," a glass of wine;?
A game...and he travels on.?
He is "going" once, and "going" twice,?
But the Master comes, and the foolish crowd?
Never can quite understand?
The worth of a soul and the change of what's wrought?
By the touch of a master's hand.?
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"it's Ok"
It's perfectly fine to not smile sometimes. To just not be able to muster up happy happy joy joy thoughts.
We have so many opportunities to do things within this lifestyle. But that really isn't a promise of ever present joy
It's ok to just take a hard, labored breath, and hold back the tears.
Or just have an off day. It's not indicative of how every day forward will be. I think that sometimes we need a period of blue.
I smile a lot. I hide a lot. I don't like bringing people down. I'd much rather make you feel better.
But we all need a moment to just be sad. To be needy and self centered.
How to deal with these sad times.
Write constructively. Focus on something neutral. Realize that you can limit how long you allow the sadness to remain.
Today. I can mope. Tomorrow-nope.
I'll look for reasons to pull myself out of the dump.
-signs of blue-
Don't want to talk friends.
Sleepy all the time.
Snacks are very appealing, more so than real food.
Aggressive responses to topics.
I'll be careful with what I post during this time. Try to keep rational.
So. Blue. Yes. Sad. Yes. Ok. Yes.
(updated part below)
I haven't quite figured out why we expect to be happy all the time. That we are entitled. What, just because I'm kinky makes me a chosen one that can never have bad things happen? I wish. If getting spanked kept me from ever being sad or doubtful----- Nope------ I wouldn't take that deal.
Having pain and emotion teaches us compassion.
Teaches us to have a heart.
I know my pain. I can only imagine yours.
But we share the ability to feel.
I choose to feel. I was numb for 18 years.
It was safe. I never hurt. I just kept going and going.
Now when I hurt the most, I remember the non person I was in this world.
So. My answer to this day.
An ice cold diet mountain dew. |
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"Do you understand these words coming out of my mouth"
*** my thoughts. My definitions. Not fancy. Just words put together in a string.
Dominance.
A personal feeling within a person. Male. Female. No difference.
There is some strength that just exists inside. A need to have power exchange between themselves and another human being.
It is impossible to say why it is such a variation between one person to the next. What I respond to is not the same energy that you might.
Dominance isnt presented simply by how bad ass someone can be. How aggressive or "sadistic".
Actually for me- I sense something when I meet people.
There is this kind of spark. Something stirs inside me. There are very few that have trigger my submissive side. Before someone even opens their mouth, I can get this sense of who they are. The quiet power that resides inside them.
It's as quick as knowing if they smell yummy.
I've at times responded to an unknown dominance in someone. They have no clue I'm tweaked by them. My subbie sense is jumping.
Confidence. Character. Personal strength. Desire to explore power exchange.
Submission.
See above. Seriously. Submission is the mirror image of dominance.
It isn't about getting hit. Or taking pain. That's just things people do.
Submission is this deep craving to give. To give To fulfill the unique needs of another. It hides inside the strongest body. It can be very sneaky.
Powerful people in the vanilla world figure out they have this special side to their personality.
Confidence. Character. Personal strength. Desire to explore power exchange.
We want a leader. We need to follow. The urge to give ourselves can be as imperative as breathing.
Top/Service Top
"what do you feel like doing?"
They derive their pleasure from making someone else feel good.
Their goal is to get to know what you crave, and ride the ride with you.
It's limited in scope. Usually a scene. But for the moment they are with you. It's intense. A give and take from both sides.
Bottom
You know what you want. You do not have to be submissive at all. You can simply be someone that craves certain things. Things that make your boat float. You treat play as a type of entertainment. Personal entertainment. There can be power exchange. But not necessary. You want something. They want something. Everybody gets what they want.
Slave
Yeah. Right. I'm really going to be able to explain.
Here's my two cents.
Its some thing that pulls us in a different way than our submission. A slave may or may not be submissive. It's not a graduated submissive- you don't grow up to be a slave. It's just a calling to your soul.
Master
Later I'll tackle this.
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Upcoming events in area:
Tonight in Raleigh.
Triangle Munch Group. Kinky people having dinner and coversation
Crazy Fire Mongolian Grill. Buck Jones rd. 7 pm.
June 30th.
8 am- 6 pm.
Want to learn some things----
Check out Kinky Kollege.
Being held in Greensboro area-
All day long classes on just about everything.
I'll be doing two presentations.
Any questions about more details- send me a message.
But hurry, it's almost time!
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Ok. You're new to BDSM. You're new to north Carolina.
Either case.
Here's a strong suggestion:
Contact me about an event being held May 12
It's termed Newcomers Discussion Roundtable
But I really think it could apply to those in the lifestyle that are wanting to learn more.
Contact me for additional info.
It is the Burlington area. Private space.
2-6 pm. May 12th. |
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Headed to Krankies E.3rd street. Winston Salem.
A fun group. Usually there until about 8 pm. Then go out for dinner.
Come out and join us.
Say "friday" sent you.... Lol |
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Tex and Shirley's Family Restaurant
708 Pembroke Road
Greensboro, NC
3-6 pm. Just ask for group in private room
MAsT Greensboro, NC?
Meeting?
What is it?
Masters
And
slaves
Together
Uht oh.....but you don't identify as a Master or a slave?
No Worries!!!!!
This MAsT Greensboro group is primarily about education and understanding.
Yes. You need to recognize that there are different dynamics out there.
Master and slave is just one of them.
If you have an issue with the M/s dynamic, well this may not be the group for you.
There will be a large variety of topics that span across the wide landscape of BDSM.
But at our core, this is about furthering the Master and slave.
You can be any gender, sexual choice, in a dynamic or not.
You can be brand spanking new. No clue what you are yet--
Just be open to others ideas and ways of doing this thing we do.
We have a private room at the restaurant.
Come at least once- check it out. I think you'll find it interesting conversation and valuable information.
Ok. ?MAsT Greensboro meeting?
April 15th.?
Tex and Shirleys Family Restaurant
Pembroke road?
If you have any questions- feel free to message me.?
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News alert!
This is CollarMe.
Do you know what that means?
It is supposed to be a site that allows people to connect and hopefully form lasting dynamic relationships.
Do you know what a collar is and what it represents? |
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Define Perfect.
I see profiles looking for the perfect sub. The perect pet. The perfect slave.
Whatever.
Does perfect exist?
Are there perfect Masters and Doms?
What's the fun in perfect.
Growing. Learning. Molding.
That seems so much more reasonable a goal.
I'm not now, or ever will be perfect.
My goal is to serve and submit to the best of my ability.
I'm human.
I'm a woman.
I'm emotional
And every so often pretty irrational.
It adds character.
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Honesty.
Say what you want.
Know what you need.
Believe you are worth it all
Take care of You first
Be honest about what makes you happy.
Yes. We are supposed to be happy.
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Today:
MAsT Greensboro meeting
3-6 pm
Tex and Shirleys Family Restaurant
708 Pembroke Road
Greensboro, NC
Come out. Private room
NOT a Munch-this is a strong, smart discussion group focusing on the power exchanges in this lifestyle.
All are welcome. Come with an interest in the things outside the dungeon play.
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Tonight in Raleigh, NC
Rocky Horror Picture Show!!
Midnight at the Rialto.
Come on out-- group of kinky people going.
Blackheartmagick is easy to recognize. He will be there-- his profile is on here as well. |
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..Just a fantasy writing....
.... I could be your Mistress, Mommy, Ma'am or Domme.
You can be male or female....it only matters in the shower.,
I know what you need
Love- yes, there will be love
Respect
Trust
Nurturing
Honesty
Openness
Support
Growth
Personal life
Submission- you need that outlet?
I know by meeting these needs you will grow ...and my pride in being your Dominant will inspire me to push myself even harder to meet your needs.?
There will be expectations. ?But none that I wouldn't live myself.
As your Dominant, I will guide you and require you you to excel, not only in your submission, but throughout your life.?
You are strong and intelligent. ?I would have no less. ?
I will never claim to be all- knowing. ?
There will be mistakes on both sides.?
You will learn, so will I. ?
Your devotion and the honor of you submitting is intoxicating.?
I promise to remember that as we go through those traditional growing pains.?
I understand that your submission is as vital to your existence, as Dominance is crucial to me.?
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THIS slave is
Strong
Amazing
Smart
Silly
Honorable
Trustworthy
Deserving
Caring
Precious
Supportive
Resourceful
Inquisitive
THIS slave should be?
cherished
Respected
Protected
Needed
Wanted?
Desired?
Taken
Owned
THIS slave is unique
There is no other like her
No definition completely describes what her true worth is.?
But THIS slave knows. ?
If we do not honor and cherish ourselves, if we do not value what we offer. ?
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Ok everyone. I constantly hear from friends how difficult it is to meet people in the lifestyle.
Well, here's your chance!
We are hosting a Speed Dating Event at LaFortress!
Date: Jan 21st
Time: 3-5 pm?
This event serves two purposes.
Let people meet and learn about each other. It is also a fundraiser for LaFortress.
There will be a small donation, I'll announce as soon as it is settled. ?
If you plan on staying for the social after the event, you need to RSVP! There are the standard requirements.
If you are interested in participating you need to email me:
simply_slutty@yahoo.com.
I will need to know what your designation is, whether you are attending as a Top type or Bottom type.
I also need to know your scene name from .. so i know who you are...that will help.
If you have someone you would like to attend with you, give me their information as well.
This is not just to find play partners, but also it will help people find someone special.
I will post more details.
The basics are: You come, spend five minutes with each person of the opposite type, confidentially you will fill out a card as you meet people. You will say yes, no, maybe.
We will determine which cards match up.
If Top A chooses Bottom B, and Bottom B also picked them- then contact information will be exchanged.
You will only be notified of complete matches- no rejection.
You say yes, they say yes, Yeah!
Ok.
Email me! Pass the word. If you know of someone that would be interested- give them my email.
You Must RSVP to my private email from above by
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Well. Here it is once again.
I am hosting a BDSM styled "Speed dating" event.
The purpose is simply to help Tops and bottoms open up discussions.
I hear so often how difficult it is to meet "real" people.
That is why I did the first event.
Last time around I had 40 people participate
This time....hopefully same or larger.
The event offers a safe, no pressure way to meet several people that could become something big...or just a new friend.
The event:
January 21st
3-5 pm
At a local playspace near Greensboro...email me.
There will be a small cost- this is a fund raiser for the playspace.
But it will not be much- most likely 15.00....
It's worth it.
I'll post more details as I have them. |
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It's that time again....
Poly Munch
Great group of people. Don't have to be poly, just open and understanding.
Meet tonight at IHOP in Burlington, Nc.
7:30-?
Off of Exit 141
We sit in "alans" section. |
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I think I should post a picture of me grimacing like I'm sooo pissed off....
Then I can be a "dominant"?
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So many on here complain about all of the wannabes and fakers on this site.
I agree.
There are a lot.
I see everything from the college boy who found this site by accident. They usually identify as "dominant"... Have no clue what that is. They normally have a bathroom picture shot of amazing abs. Yum. But...umm...this isn't really the playground for them...or maybe....
And cutting to the chase.
There are the fuckers. Not knocking their pursuit of fucking multiple people on a regular basis. Go for it. But not with me.
See. I'm a slave. I live this life of mine in certain pursuits.
Bettering myself in service to Master and community.
There are real people here....just gotta figure out what kind of real you want.
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˙?٠?●♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥
The Worth of a Slave
- Author: Sir Wolfr1
The Play Party had run it's course
The floggers were stored with care
The last guest had been seen to the door;
No more this night to share
As Master of the House I locked the door
and looked about the play room floor
I soon found that which my eyes did search
My slave, curled up and asleep, asI had seen her a moment before.
I stood for a moment just looking at her
And to marvel at what I did see
For though sound asleep, her bottom still glowed...
Proudly wearing her collar, saying she belonged to me.
I thought of the power I have over this slave...
The power that she had granted only unto me.
I thought of the love, and the trust in her eyes
How, on my order, she would risk life or limb, or bend a knee.
I know that the power to own another's soul
Is not something to be taken, or to be bought
And to be worthy of the trust that she places into my hands...
Was the goal that every true Dom sought.
She stirred and muttered there, in her sleep
And then called aloud my name
I picked her up, and held her close
As a single tear fell like a soft gentle rain.
She looked up into my eyes, the eyes of the man
Whom she calls her Master, her lover and friend.
And she lay her head upon my breast
And wished the moment would never end.
"Master" she whispered as I held her close
"Why do you shed a tear?
The thought that I might have failed
My Lord, it is more than I can bear"
"Failed me my pet"? I asked
As I stroked her hair soothing away her fears.
"I could not be happier then I am this day
If I lived a thousand years"
"I see you wear my collar pet
As I mold your heart, mind, body and soul.
And to see the trust that shines forth from your eyes, my love
Can any man have a more worthy goal"?
"Come my pet, the night is short
And you must have your sleep.
Rest your head, calm your fears...
As over you, a watch I keep."
As I tucked her into bed
I looked down upon her sleeping form
I shook my head, I smiled and thought
Of what the 'nallias called "the norm"
And thought in sadness of where they were now,
A lifetime ago I had stood
And how the path that I had traveled since
Not one in a thousand could
I am a Dom" he thought proudly to himself
The one she kneels to, of her own desire
With the power she grants me to love,honor, correct and control
Is a power as pure and strong as her own inner fire
To own this woman...to make her mine
What man could ask for more.
To see her kneel at my feet each day
To know such freedom, as for me in the clouds she soars
I could ask for no other life
And would accept no other to call my own
I thought of the sweetness,the passon, the tears and the joy
And smiled, For my slave was the sweetest harvest that I could have ever sown.
For we are the Yen and the Yang, the Dom and the sub
Each giving what the other doth yearn to take
Each of us with a hunger...a bright burning need...
That none save the other could ever hope to slake.
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Ok. Feeling insane. I'm supposed to teach my first class next weekend at Debauchery, major bdsm educational and play event being held in Greensboro.
I'm nervous as hell and don't think it will go well. Terrified to let anyone down.
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Tomorrow Night.......
Midnight Meet and Greet at IHOP in Greensboro. The Lanada drive location, right off Wendover. Starts at 11 pm. We sit in "Tiffany's" area.
Come on out for food and great conversation.
Good way to meet other kinksters of every type.
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Poly Dinner get together tonight in Burlington.
Starts around 7.
Where: Ihop at exit 141.
Fun talk. Good people.
You dont have to be poly, just friendly.
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September 24th
Fetish Art Show in Raleigh.
Performances, art, music, and lots of people.
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Tonight- September 10, 2011
Triad midnight meet and greet in Greensboro.
Meeting at IHOP 1101 lanada rd., Greensboro, Nc
People start arriving about 11 p.m. And stay until after 1 a.m.
We sit in Tiffany's area- usually a pretty good sized group and quite diverse.
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Next week----
MsC!
Master slave Conference!!!!!!
Can't wait!!!! |
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Tonight-
PUSH
Durham at Motorco Music Hall
Fetish wear--- 10.00
All black "nice" clothes. 30.00
Street clothes- jeans and tshirt kinda stuff- not allowed.
This event is amazing and tons of fun.
Probably close to 200 people attending.
You can get details at Motorco website.
There will be fun.... |
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Monthly Triad Meet and Greet
August 12th
Starts at 11 pm--- ends when you leave- we are usually there until about 3 a.m.
It's held in Greensboro at the IHOP on Wendover (Lanada Drive location)
Large mix of kinksters- usually between 20-50 people.
We take over the front right corner of the restaurant.
Our wattress is Tiffany- just ask for her and they will get you to our area.
But really- it isn't hard to figure out.
This is a great group. Even if you've never been to a munch or whatever.
Very easy to meet and chat in this environment.
If you want- let me know you are coming and we can help introduce you to people.
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..laying there next to Him?
my head resting on His chest
not talking, quiet time
i begin tracing His body with my finger
slowly working my hand downward
light touches
slow
mindless
listening to His breathing
i start inching my way down His chest and belly
positioning my body eventually between His legs?
my head on His thigh
my fingers slowly caressing and exploring Him
worshipping every inch of Him
Knowing my gentle touch pleases
i encourage Him to spread his legs so that I might bite slightly on His inner thigh before I fully become involved in what I crave
Knowing His body?
Knowing how each thing i do will effect Him
It is something that I provide and I know warms His core
Tracing the cock so erect with my fingertips and tongue
slipping my warm mouth over the head, drawing Him deep into my throat
licking?
Swallowing
Drawing Him deeper
Time has taught me that it's the little things He enjoys
Teasing those special places on His body
It is a quiet time for U/us
To hear His breathing?
Feel His body move and react
This is not just a physical act between U/us
It is connection of mind and body
realizing this side of my service to Him
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Tonights the night....once again.
Krankies in Winston Salem.
-kinky people sitting in a grassy area by coffee shop talking about everything!
-starts about 530 pm, ends when we get hungry and go looking for food.
Come on out!
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Good night....
We finish our meal, I tried so hard to make it right. ?Cook the things He likes, work in the things he needs. ?After all this time I still seem to fall short when it comes to this part.?
Too many vegetables. ?Not enough meat. Too much or too little of something.?
I tell myself it is His way of keeping me on my toes. Making sure I don't get complacent.?
What it does is frustrate and hurt. ?
I care. ?I want it to be perfect.?
But I'm not, therefore neither will the meals. ?
I help him to the living room so that he can relax while I tend to my chores.?
Once he is settled in a comfortable position, I kneel and ask if there is any other service I can provide.?
No. ?
No he doesn't need a drink, no he doesn't need anything from me right now.?
I go back to the kitchen to straighten things up and clear the dishes.?
Washing the dishes gives me time to reflect on what could have been better. I make mental notes and pledge to try harder each time.?
The complaints will be the same.?
Its a learning process, even after all these years.?
When the work is done, I join him to spend some quality time.?
Quality.... Hmmm. ?
There's still clothes to do. ?That's quality. ?
The rooms could use dusting. ?That's quality.?
I'm a slave. ?These things are more important in my service to him than sitting at his feet, watching a movie or chatting. ?
So, I get myself to the tasks while he relaxes.?
Many years of service have taught me to enjoy the short breaths of time at His feet.?
Things to do now. ?
I notice he's fading a little, getting tired. ?Ive checked during the course of my rounds to make sure his needs are met. ?Drink. Snack. Remotes. Change the movie. ?
Now it's time to personally serve him. ?
Years ago that would mean helping him to the bedroom, slowly stripping our clothes off.?
Kneeling before Him and preparing to worship his body, or offer mine for His pleasure.?
Now, it's taking off his clothes and giving him a sponge bath while he reads.?
I still worship his body, not for sexual pleasure, but as my responsibilty. ?
It is my duty to make sure he is taken care of. ?
I chose these duties when I gave my submission to this man.?
I choose to continue to honor my collar by doing my best to serve always. ?
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There's this young couple, Louise and Al, they've been married for about a year, and the bride isn't getting any sex. Just about every night hubby comes home, has a shower, gets changed and goes down to the pub. She's getting increasingly rampant as the days go on,
but each night she is disappointed.
Al comes home every night completely hammered and unfit for sexual activity. One particular night when Al gets in from work, Louise is seated provocatively on the sofa, wearing the skimpiest dress she has, suspenders, stockings, and very sexy lace panties and bra.
As is always the case, Al comes home runs upstairs, gets ready and goes to the pub. Once again Louise is rejected, so she sits back with a bottle of wine to console herself. Then at 11 pm (well before normal) she hears Al coming up the driveway and opening the front door. Louise re-adopts her sexually provocative pose on the sofa and to her surprise, Al's first words are, "Right woman, get upstairs - into the bedroom."
"YES!" she says under her breath as she runs upstairs, "This is the night, I'm gonna get some!"
When Louise reaches the bedroom, she removes her outer garments and sits on the edge of the bed in her black lace panties - ready for Al, as he stomps up the stairs. As Al pushes the bedroom door open he says, "Right, now get your clothes off!"
Louise doesn't need telling twice, it's off with everything. "Now get over in front of the mirror..,"
"Kinky!" she thinks. "Great!"
"and do a handstand..."
"Oh god, I've been waiting for this for ages," thinks Louise...
Al walks over to Louise, parts her legs and places his chin in her crotch... "Perhaps the guys at the bar were right, a beard would suit me!". |
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A flat-chested young lady goes to Dr. Smith for advice about breast enlargements.
He tells her, "Every day when you get out of the shower, rub the top of your breasts and say, '"Scooby dooby doobies, I want bigger boobies.'"
She did this every day faithfully and after several months, it worked! She grew great boobs!
One morning she was running late and she was on the bus when she realized she had forgotten her morning ritual.
At this point she loved her new boobs and didn't want to lose them, so she got up right in the middle of the bus and said, "Scooby dooby doobies, I want bigger boobies!"
A guy sitting nearby asked her, "Do you go to Dr. Smith by any chance?"
"Why, yes, I do. How did you know?"
"Hickory dickory dock"!
An old maid wanted to travel by bus to the pet cemetery with the remains of her cat.
As she boarded the bus, she whispered to the driver, "I have a dead pussy."
The driver pointed to the woman in the seat behind him and said, "Sit with my wife. You two have alot in common.".
Five Penises
Patient: Doctor,Doctor... I've got five penises!
Doctor: Well, how do your pants fit?
Patient: Like a glove!
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Winston Salem Tonight!
Krankies around 6 pm on the lawn for conversation and fun.
Then The Garage for live bands starting at 9 pm!
What could be better!
The group meeting at Krankies are the Twin City Kinksters.
Great people, intelligent and fun conversation.
Don't be afraid, you only have a 50/50 chance of us biting....pretty good odds depending on if you want to be or not.... |
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This Thursday night June 30th.
Winston Salem
First regular Krankies meetup, then....
Heavy Rebel Weekender Pre-Party at 9 p.m. at The Garage in Winston Salem.
Music....fun.....friends...
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This week in Winston Salem:
Krankies coffee shop informal get together - well sort of formal....actually just plan fun.
We start arriving at 5 pm and stay until we get hungry usually. Then some of us usually head over to Mellowushroom for food and more conversation.
We welcome new people all the time. It's very vanilla safe. It's very relaxed.
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Ok.
I get sick of hearing people complain about not getting to meet real lifestyle folk.
Here's the magic answer.
Get out from behind the computer!
There are really great events going on all around you.
But you have to attend.
That is the number one way to really meet others to share this lifestyle with.
If you live in NC and just "can't" find anything or anyone- I will gladly point you in the right direction.
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Great time at Krankies tonight in WS. Followed by good food at Mellow Mushroom.
Gotta love great conversation with fellow kinksters. |
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Greensboro NC and Winston Salem NC people...
We have some great very casual safe get togethers at private residences and public venues.
If interested. Let me know. |
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Good morning....
I wake at the same time I always have, no need for a real alarm clock, years have trained my body to wake just at the right moment.
The eyes open, I lay there listening. Making sure the sounds are even and clear, though shallow and occasionally labored.
Well, theres no time for lolligagging, I slip out of bed, make my way quietly to the kitchen. I follow my pattern of preparation, quickly the tea kettle whistles and place a fresh porcelain cup on the tray next to the beautiful tea pot I found at a local Goodwill.
I carefully place the small plates of food. Nothing extravagant, just a few favorite things. I slowly and as quietly as possible return to the bedroom with the breakfast tray. Setting it aside, I move to the bed.
"Master, it's time to wake up,I have your tea Sir".
"Tea, slave, what makes you think I wanted tea without asking?".
"Yes, Sir, would you prefer something else, I will get it right away."
"Forget it, tea will do since it's aleady here."
"Yes, Master".
The banter continues about what is on the tray, what isn't.
For more years than I can remember he's complained about the lack of hashbrowns. ?It's an ongoing battle, I refuse to make them. ?Always have, always will. ?But we "discuss" it ever morning. ?While he's "discussing" breakfast, I collect his slippers and place them by his side of the bed. ?These are his favorite pair, I bought several sets is them so he never does without his "favorite" ones. ?This part is a tad harder. ?
I move his chair close to the bed, but keep my body between it and his view. ?It's a difficult reminder of the years taking a toll on his body. ?For as long as I can each morning I let his body be as strong as the day we first met. ?It's important for him to stand on his own two feet. ?To feel the firmness of the floor. ?After he's finished his breakfast of tea, toast, and two crisp slices of bacon. ? My trade off for the hashbrowns. It's funny, I tell him I can't give him the hashbrowns on doctors orders, truth is, I could never make them to his standards. I'm terrified even after all this time to try to make them for him. ?They could never be good enough. ?So, my one white lie.?
I control my reaction to his weakened state so visible in his legs. I help his sit up and i guide his legs over the edge. The tricky time is now, slippers on feet, slowly rising. Standing. For this moment, the years are reversed. Just for a moment.
He eases into his chair and we head to the front porch. Our place. He sits for hours talking about the scenes and people we've known. I sit at his feet, he strokes my hair.
The floggers have been put away so long ago. The favorite toys are carefully stored, to be visited and reminisced over from time to time. My service to Him is so different now, but never more important and rewarding. The "play" stopped a long time ago, that's ok, it was never about play.
He is my Master, i am His slave. I will sit, and watch the world with him. At His feet for as long as he will have me as His.
Tomorrow, I'll wake up. I will listen for the shallow breaths. Begin again. Maybe tomorrow I'll bring a glass of milk. |
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Tonight----
There will be a group of us going to warehouse 29.
If you want details. Send me a message. I think.its I. Greensboro. |
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Tonight in Greensboro
Midnight Meet and Greet
Starts around 11pm. Goes until you leave.
We tend to get there right around midnight.
If interested contact me for details.
It's a public venue/restaurant.
Very casual.
Fun kinksters sitting around talking and eating.
Good group, safe way to meet new friends. |
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Cock worship-
What does it mean to you?
Are definitions different in the minds of the one doing and the one receiving? Meaning, I believe what I do is cock worship- but the receiver might just think it's a typical blow job?
The reason I consider what I do is cock worship is because the whole goal is to make you know without a doubt it's all about you.
I don't expect anything I return, just the abilty to worship not just the cock, but your whole body.
Not sure I do it "right" but there is nothing better than having the time to just suck, lick, and stroke....
Are there men that don't like cock worship?
Would you rather just have a fast hard paced suckfest blow job?
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Seeking a Dominant that meets the following-
Between 21-50ish.... experience and knowledge are what is important
HWP- a few extra pounds are fine, i am not model perfect. But i am quite physical and might give you a run for your money.
Race is not terribly important.
Have a definite skill set. Be prepared to say what it is, whether it is OTK spanking or single tails.
Understand- just because i am a masochist to a point, i am not going to be your slut.
Sexual play and sex is not a given when spending time with me.
I am simply looking for someone to enjoy some physical and mental exchange... not sex.
You must live near Greensboro. Must be able to host. Must be willing for my Master to be present.
I would love to find someone that could be a regular. Also someone with a personality that meshes with Master so that we can all hang out together at times.
This was rough and off the top of my head... please feel free to ask questions.
Ok..here is the shallow part. I have to have a physical attraction to person. Please attach some sort of photo of yourself. I am a cougar... so i tend to go for younger guys... but i absolutely adore bottoming for men my age or older.
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Informal get together of kinky people tonight in Winston Salem.
Starts about 5, ends around 730-800... Or when we get ready to go.
Nothing formal. Just fun conversation and good coffee or tea.
I personally bring a cold bottle of diet mountain dew....
If you are interested in joining us- it is at Krankies this evening.
There are usually about 10-15 people. We take over the outside covered seating area.
If you have further questions, drop me an email.
His girl,
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This is MY opinion. My journal. Ok?
I used to think submission was a gift. Something that I would offer up to a Dominant without any expectations. That is a gift. Give without expecting anything in return.
Me.
Submission is a part of me. It does not completely encompass who I am. I am still me, independent and strong.
Submission must be drawn out of me. A dominant that can earn my trust, my respect, my love and admiration- over time will help me be more and more comfortable opening up and exploring the D/s or M/s dynamic.
I will not offer my submission up on a silver platter.
You will have to work for it.
I'm sure that doesn't sit well with some.
But if my absolute devotion, service, and total submission is not worth your effort to help me grow and explore. Well. Ok.
There is no such thing as a "lazy Dom" in my world.
I will challenge you. I will drive you nuts. I will make you doubt who you think you are.
Then one day, You realize- I am Yours.
Your pride and joy. Your partner and mate.
Your strongest defender and biggest support system.
Yours.
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I wake at the same time I always have, no need for a real alarm clock, years have trained my body to wake just at the right moment.
The eyes open, I lay there listening. Making sure the sounds are even and clear, though shallow and occasionally labored.
Well, theres no time for lolligagging, I slip out of bed, make my way quietly to the kitchen. I follow my pattern of preparation, quickly the tea kettle whistles and place a fresh porcelain cup on the tray next to the beautiful tea pot I found at a local Goodwill.
I carefully place the small plates of food. Nothing extravagant, just a few favorite things. I slowly and as quietly as possible return to the bedroom with the breakfast tray. Setting it aside, I move to the bed.
"Master, it's time to wake up,I have your tea Sir".
"Tea, slave, what makes you think I wanted tea without asking?".
"Yes, Sir, would you prefer something else, I will get it right away."
"Forget it, tea will do since it's aleady here."
"Yes, Master".
The banter continues about what is on the tray, what isn't.
For more years than I can remember he's complained about the lack of hashbrowns. ?It's an ongoing battle, I refuse to make them. ?Always have, always will. ?But we "discuss" it ever morning. ?While he's "discussing" breakfast, I collect his slippers and place them by his side of the bed. ?These are his favorite pair, I bought several sets is them so he never does without his "favorite" ones. ?This part is a tad harder. ?
I move his chair close to the bed, but keep my body between it and his view. ?It's a difficult reminder of the years taking a toll on his body. ?For as long as I can each morning I let his body be as strong as the day we first met. ?It's important for him to stand on his own two feet. ?To feel the firmness of the floor. ?After he's finished his breakfast of tea, toast, and two crisp slices of bacon. ? My trade off for the hashbrowns. It's funny, I tell him I can't give him the hashbrowns on doctors orders, truth is, I could never make them to his standards. I'm terrified even after all this time to try to make them for him. ?They could never be good enough. ?So, my one white lie.?
I control my reaction to his weakened state so visible in his legs. I help his sit up and i guide his legs over the edge. The tricky time is now, slippers on feet, slowly rising. Standing. For this moment, the years are reversed. Just for a moment.
He eases into his chair and we head to the front porch. Our place. He sits for hours talking about the scenes and people we've known. I sit at his feet, he strokes my hair.
The floggers have been put away so long ago. The favorite toys are carefully stored, to be visited and reminisced over from time to time. My service to Him is so different now, but never more important and rewarding. The "play" stopped a long time ago, that's ok, it was never about play.
He is my Master, i am His slave. I will sit, and watch the world with him. At His feet for as long as he will have me as His.
Tomorrow, I'll wake up. I will listen for the shallow breaths. Begin again. Maybe tomorrow I'll bring a glass of milk. |
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Informal get together of kinky people this Thursday night in winston Salem. If interested or just curious, drop me a line. We will be drinking coffee or whatever and chatting. New faces are always welcome.
The thing I hate about collar me is the lack of event posting ability. I know CM is just a kinky dating resource. But I do try to get some info out there. My primary profile is at another site where networking is the focus. |
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SJW. May 6-8, mountains of Tennessee
Submissives Journey Weekend.
Absolutely an amazing opportunity whether you are a sub or a slave. Chances to work on skill sets such as service or even ironing techniques. The classes were awesome, the bonding with fellow slaves and subs truly wonderful. To know we are not alone in our fears and worries. To learn from others how to deal with these feelings and insecurities.
There are very few chances for submissive types to really learn and explore the spirituality of our inner selves. It's easy to find chances for tops to learn technical skills, but much more difficult for us little letter types to get the charge or recharge needed some times regarding our roles in this lifestyle we choose.
It was a time of new beginnings for some. A new understanding of our own paths.
What a great opportunity.
I'm aleady looking forward to next years journey.
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?Loneliness is never more cruel than when it is felt in close propinquity with someone who has ceased to communicate?
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?I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken, and the one that could always brighten up your day even if she couldn't brighten her own.?
Just a quote i saw and liked...it fairly effectively describes me.
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Can't wait until Saturday......
I will be participating in a Slave Hunt!
This will involve several "prey" running and hiding in the woods while "hunters" try to capture us by shooting us with paintball guns!
Tons of safety measures are in place to protect all involved.
The "prey" set their bounty which is offered up to the captor.
This should be interesting since I've never really played "hide and seek",especially in the woods.
It's exciting to do something new. Sir will be one of the hunters....I've been pointing out different bounties of other runners....I'm helpful like that.
Once captured, prey gets stripped and tied to a "whipping" post....of course all prey have the choice to opt out or modify that experience.
We are doing this to have fun...not terrorize anyone.
Woohoo. Only two more days..... |
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Tonight is the night....PUSH in Durham!
Over 100 kinky fetish people gathered having fun.
I'm sure there is a cross and a spanking bench with my name on it. |
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Saturday, April 23, 2011
time: 09:00 PM to 02:00 AM
where: Motorco Music Hall
address: 723 Rigsbee Ave, Durham, NC 27701 ?map
cost: $10 in fetish wear; $30 in all black
dress code: Fetish wear: latex, leather, vinyl, rubber, pvc, drag, anime, corset, pin-up, steampunk, uniforms, school girl, formal, kilts, etc. No admission in street or casual wear.
Description
The Newest Event in Durham. Push your Expectations. Push your Limits. Push your PLEASURE. Push your PAIN.
A full fetish party with impact play, suspension, and dancing to the sounds of DJ Spider. And introducing Sub Kitty.
Let me know if you are going!!!! |
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Ugh!!!!!
Tried changing profile pics and everything fucked up.
Trying again tomorrow to upload some great fire play pics. |
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Hot damn!!!
Today's finally here....
I am a rope doll today for one of my favorite riggers for a group in Charlotte, NC.
I love the different headspace I get into when I am a doll. Not anything like doing a scene, it allows me to leave myself. It's the only time that modesty and self doubt leave my conscience. I am just a doll to be placed and used as they need.
Woohoo!!!
Demo over....fun fun fun
Showed the group just how quick you can put a bottom in unmovable bondage, and all the fun that can be had.
Knife play, paddling, vibrators, and nice hair bondage attached to my crotch rope.
I adore rope with NC Bound. Total trust. Absolute faith in his skills.
And great friend.
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Pictures....
Ok. Hopefully overhauling my pictures on here today or tomorrow. I neglect this profile quite a bit because of my activity at another site. Time to freshen it up. My pictures are meant to share the experiences I have. Not to "sell" me on you...but to show the other side of bdsm that is not just about fucking everything that moves. I love fire, whips, spankings, rope...and just about anything that does not draw blood. Ok----clarification -my hard limits include the standard no scat, urine, kids, animals, and other non-consenting creatures. Although I have been doing some research about having someone urinate inside me while having anal sex....oh yep...I'm a pervert by the way. Major anal slut for Sir...
Wow...squirrel moment....
Anyhow. A couple of weeks ago I was the demo doll for a couple of friends of mine for Fire Play. Fire=good...
I aim to get at least pictures of the flash cotton and the Fire Flogging on here.
The fire flogging was fucking incredible!!!!
Phew. Need more caffeine?
This weekend in Charlotte I am a demo doll for a rope class in Charlotte---Can't Wait!!!!
Woohoo----Predicament bondage and all kinds of fun and information. Hopefully I'll get pictures of that class as well. |
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"sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me" |
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"companion"
i am tired of being the "companion"
the one to lean on, depend on, but not really need
i hurts beyond belief to serve no real purpose beyond the simplistic wants.
i am not shiny and new. you don't warrant seduction
that is saved for others.
this is my weakness. i will sit by starving, while other's toys get fed.
hoping that this will garner me favor.
so far....not going so well.
i am only worthy of being the sidekick...the helper...the companion apparently.
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"let me be your toy..."
something for you to play with
something for you to use
we don't want to be more
and this is all you need
no drama
no stress
no work
Just a simple thing to be enjoyed
toys have no expectations
no requests
just a toy
toys don't ask
toys don't need
they just are
Of course
There is nothing more rewarding
than being a new shiny toy
and nothing higher to strive for
their existence is to be passed
around
toys don't stay long
their shelf life is short
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FYI.
Ok someone recently sent me an email stating that i am the definition of "homely".
People. I know who and what I am. I'm no beauty queen, just a woman looking to have a lot of fun I'm this bdsm world.
I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Don't care to be.
I am middle aged woman that did not take the best care of themself when they were young. Now I pay the price for that.
My only suggestion to anyone is- if you don't like what you see- don't look.
Oh. The "gentleman" that sent the message made sure to tell me if I would send him titty pictures he might reconsider me as a person he'd be interested in.
Sorry. My boobs are homely too. |
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Hot damn!!! Going to see Rehab tonight at Amos Southend!!!!!!
Woohoo!!
Love Charlotte for all the stuff!! Just came from a great Interrogation Demo. |
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I've done quite a bit of rope play in public. My newest love is very creative predicament bondage.
What I've run into is outsiders looking in and seeing what I'm doing don't get that this is a "scene". They just see me tied up. I might be talking to the top, or just kind of riding the rope energy wave. Regardless of what state we are in, it seems appropriate to them to approach us or stand right in our "space". It's just rope- Right? Its not like I'm being flogged, cut, spanked and other "scene" kind of things. They don't quite understand how strong or deep a rope slut like me goes the minute the rope touches me. The intense energy flowing between myself and the Top. I guess unless you are screaming or something being hit, it's not real. Trust me, the predicament scenes I've been in were very real. Is it that they dont know how much goes into safe, but intense rope play? There are times I just want to look at them and start listing the various parts of my body that hate me at that moment.
I guess my rambling leads to the question.
Does rope play and bondage garner the same respect on the intensity meter as the more impact or edge play?
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The tinker toy set.
I have received a lot of inquiries about how the set in my profile pic was made.
Here's the basic lowdown.
There are no "plans"
he purchased kee klamps (?) and had pipe cut to meet the lengths he needed to use on the existing bondage table.
The table was custom for him.
The pipe started it's life as just normal pipe. For more specifics contact him please. He is MisterWizard on here. Or Mister_M on ..... That might get deleted by CM.
Anyways.
How he makes it work.
He keeps adding pipe in the angles he needs and until we can't wiggle.
Nothing scientific.
Just keeping the slave still is the motive.
Sorry. No cheat sheets. But seriously. Contact him. You will be shocked how easy it is. |
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Hard Limits.
I have hard limits. Most doms and subs do.
One of the strongest limits I have is "no intentional breaking of the skin".
Needles was the ultimate hard limit. Up there with the biggies- kids, animals, scat and urine.
Well. New Years Eve I did something.
A good and very talented friend jokingly said she was going to take my needle hard limit.
I think I shocked her when I didn't immediately say hell no.
We discussed it...a bit.
I agreed to 27's....did nor have any clue how many she had in mind.
It was decided that the New Years Eve party at our local playspace was the time and place.
So. We did it.
She helped me face a fear and conquer the pain.
It was supposed to be a butterfly-but we ran out of the needles I agreed to.
She held my hand.
Fifty needles.
25- of the 27 gauge?
25- of the 25 gauge?
And a quote. You can see it in the picture posted.
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"It's an essential part of training to provoke strong emotions. But as you know, one mark of a good slave is the ability to let the anger go and continue working, continue serving, continue offering respect and deference. Now, if the anger and shame and hurt can then change to love or affection or lust -- well, that's our mark as a sadomasochist, isn't it?" - From the Reunion by Laura Antoniou.
"Emotional masochists were the most infuriating toys to play with. Pay attention to them, leave them alone -- either way, they love it and hate it and come back for more." - Laura Antoniou from The Academy
"Slaves need to be beaten regularly. Not as punishment -- it's better if there's no particular reason, except to remind that slave of who and what he is. It's hard to stay focused on the idea that you're property, and a good beating brings that home to a slave's mind in a very direct and unmistakable way. Most slaves come to enjoy their beatings and to miss them if the routine is interrupted. In fact, it's a form of abuse to deny them that discipline, because nothing else seems to reinforce the special bond between Master ans lave, or slave and trainer, as well as a regular, expected beating. While you are being beaten, you have the full attention of the one beating you, and He has yours." - David Stein in he Academy. |
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Clarification:
I can not relocate.
I can not be a live in 24/7 slave/sub
My career and continuing family responsibilities prevent these from being possible.
I can commit quite a bit of time to a local relationship. |
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Seeking Sadists
is this how it should read? My "ad" to aid in my search for a play partner?
What i seek is someone strong enough to take control. Whether we are play partners or even dinner dates.
Control is not a sign of my weakness.
On the contrary.
It's a sign of my strength.
Control is gained in many ways, or should I say manifests itself in many ways.
Grabbing the hair and leading me to the dungeon or giving me that look-You know the one.
I started this tiny note referring to seeking a sadist
the reason being that many men feel dominant but don't have that itch to really dominate.
If the thought of a woman quivering in anticipation at your feet, waiting for your next move or command excites you.
Maybe...
P.s.
It's not all about play and pain. It's about love, honesty, respect, and friendship. When we are old and gray, and sitting in our wheelchairs- it's our conversations and devotion that will keep me Yours...
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FYI.
Every photo on my profile is really of me.
If I wanted to create a fake profile trust me- I'd be a busty, curvy, 23 yr old, stunning redhead. Not a 44 yr old saggy bottomed auburn haired slave.
I can tell you the reason behind every photo I've ever taken. The reason I take pictures is to capture my new journey. I really don't give a darn if anyone likes them. I do appreciate receiving complimentary feedback. But really, it's about me in this way.
Yes I am and always be a woman, with all the flaws and faults that life has given me. |
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this is not your typical post.
It isn't kinky in the least.
But i have no where else to write it that my friends won't read...
and for some reason.. i need to write it down.
December 23, 1989
one more week. then i can breath.
i can stop checking the doors twice.
i can stop watching for out of place stares.
every year i go through this
for about a month prior to the "anniversary"
i am torn apart.
Everything hurts.
this year i really wanted to break
the cycle.
the fear
the tears
i have the tears under control
but not the fear.
Things are compounded by the local news.
RIght now in Fayetteville NC a soldier is on trial.
He is suspected of 9 rapes.
He is a serial rapist.
I have experience with one of them.
He didn't kill me.
But he destroyed my life.
He changed my future.
i hate him for his sickness.
I hate him for what he stole from me.
I hate the memory
I still remember everything.
I remember your fist in my face
I remember your hand on my mouth.. whispering
"keep quiet or else"
I feel your hands on my throat, choking me.
I feel the gun against my head.
I don't know who you are.
You are just some sick fucker that deserved to die
I wasn't your only victim
I just hope that i was your last.
Douibt it.
So, one more week..
Then i can breath. |
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the doll....
You got what You wanted.
Me
You took me into Your arms. Assured me
i would be cherished
i would be loved.
i didn't know what You really wanted
was a porcelain doll
sitting on a shelf
for others to admire
"yes, she's mine, all mine"
Your pride in ownership
depends on my
blind eyes
silent painted lips
deaf ears
i sit upon Your shelf
a prize
once acquired
no longer desired
soulless
heartless
just a doll
no emotions
no sense of self
just a doll
Why did You need to possess me
couldn't we have just been friends
Now it's too late
i gave You my heart
so i will sit on this shelf
waiting for Your occassional visit
"yes, I own this, this is Mine"
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Ok. Editing my profile using an iPhone sucks. I apologize if my "about me" is disjointed. It's too darn cold to drag my booty out to the car to get my laptop. Yes. Lazy... But dang it's cold!
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alright. YOU insist on sending these types of messages.... SOOOOO... here is my response.
I am so sorry that you don't know how to read profiles and give a fuck about what is written in them.
I am sorry that you are going to waste two seconds copying and pasting the same message you have sent 100 other (girls or boys or both).
I am sorry that i will probably not fucking bother to respond, even though i do prefer to be polite, but seriously... I say very clearly that i don't entertain these types of messages...
What messages am i a fuming about....
OH>>>> baby... i want you to cum for me... i am your new Master of pleasure....oh.. you will get all wet and hot for my cock....
Oh.. i know... this is a form of kink for someone out there... but damn... aren't there enough good sluts out there that would love to get these messages?
Why waste your wad on emailing me... i am not going to respond... If i do it will probably be in total bitch mode...
I know it's not your fault this rings your bells... but damn.. please look at the sluts that want your attention... they would be glad to provide a nice dripping wet pussy for you to order to cum and all.....
NOT ME! Your cock is not long enough to reach through my dang computer and do the nasty things i need... so it isn't going to work... SORRY.... NOT!
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hello everyone ....no matter how you indentify... welcome to my profile.
I am fairly new to the lifestyle. I have learned and experienced quite a bit in the two short years i have been into BDSM. I know that it goes far beyond the physical. I thrive on Power Exchange and energy exchange. I do play with different people.. but i am very choosey... only in the way that there must be some kind of chemistry for us to go to phsyical areas ... NOT SEX.. i do not have sex with casual play partners... PERIOD.
I am very fortunate to have been aligned with some of the most incredible people in our community that have far more knowledge and experience than i have. I know what i know, and know what i don't know... and have no problem asking for help when needed.
ok... was just kind of bored tonight.. thought i might see if i can start my writing juices flowing again.
So just a little note.... |
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me:
a slave
submissive
loving
loyal
service oriented
respectful and respected
trusting to a fault at times
honorable
financially secure
my own home
determined
smart
giving
willing to learn and train in new things
I am not:
"add water, instant slave"
greedy
jealous
hateful
desperate
It may be a long time, or never, before I submit again. Who knows. For now focusing on figuring out how to be a better me. Then I can be the best if it does ever happen again.
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You:
strong mentally and physically
intelligent and engaging
Master of your own life
Single
monogomous in love, open to just "play" with others
financially secure.
A home - domicile.
Curious
talented
knows your skills well, continually grow in them and new areas
trustworthy
height/ weight proportionate - not Atlas- but in reasonable physical shape
loving
dependable
respectable and respected
interested in exploring local events |
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Ok. No longer an owned slave... But still a slave.....
I am under his protection so I will be getting advice and guidance on any requests or communications.
I'll update the profile when I get my head straight
Right now I am only interested in hearing from local people to become friends with. The Raleigh, Durham, greensboro, and Winston Salem areas are my stomping grounds.
*****required-
picture. If you are serious about knowing anything about me- you must include a recent picture. I know people are concerned about privacy but this is my requiremnt. Pictures of scenes you have done are also great. But at the minium a body pic must be included.
Out of my range. If you don't live in my "zone" I am not interested. Those areas are listed above
If you are not a Master or strong level Dominant- it won't be much of a discusion. I have been with an amazing Master for 14 months and these will be big shoes to fill by any others.
I am looking to meet new friends. I am not interested in a Master/slave relationship at this time.
I am looking for those that have a good handle and understanding of what a slave is versus a submissive.
Be warned.... This is not "add water, instant slave". I am picky as hell. I am confident as hell in my ability to serve and love a Master.
I know. Not your typical "slave mindset".
But He has trained me well.
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Contact requirements.
Contact my OWNER first!
MisterWizard here on CM
Be from the Raleigh, Greensboro, Winston-Salem area. It is too difficult to arrange initial casual meetings when you leave several hours away.
Send a picture of YOU. i know people are uncomfortable sharing face pics, at least send a decent body shot- i did Not say cock shot- just a body shot so it gives us some sense you are real. It would be great to receive pictures of your handiwork- shots of play sessions. That's another "real" thing.
I will say this clearly.
No vaginal or anal penetration. Period.
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My interests and experience, some more experience with than others.
cell popping
surgical stapling
whips
single tails
dragontails
floggers
clothespin zippers
spanking
role play
violet wand
Saran wrap
restrictive bondage
rope
alternative bondage
biting
knife play/ sharp pointy things
gags
blindfolds
mind fucks
suspensions
fire
fire cupping
Curious about:
Tens unit
needles
i enjoy play with men and women. Co-topping is welcomed.
And that's the tip of the iceburg....
Location: i live equally close to Raleigh and Greensboro.
Hard limits:
scat/ urine
animals and children
cutting/ blood play
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did my first needle today.. and only needle today...
trust me... BIG BIG step!
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struit insidias lacrimis cum femina plorat...
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Emails:
i suck at corresponding on a regular basis. Sorry. Life gets in the
way. i will try to talk with APPROVED Doms, and will gladly talk with
fellow submissives and slaves. But, honestly, i stink at keeping up
long time email strings unless we are working on something together
either for education or play.
i love helping others in any way i can with the lifestyle, i am NOT
perfect in any way. There are some things i have learned along the way.
If you are brand spanking new and need to email Him. Just tell him that you are not sure about how to do it. He will understand. Being brand new does not make you less desirable. It is kind of interesting to see someone at the beginning of their road, and how they progress. We may not be play partners, but can be friends.
Out of State emails. These are tougher.
Quite frankly, because my time is limited, i save my email communications for those that i share a common interest or live close enough to actually meet in person. So, i might talk with you (Doms-approval,remember) but be understanding if i am not super responsive all of the time.
Real life, real duties, real service come first.
slave stacie
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i hope that this isn't as offensive as it may seem.
i will not accept friend requests from male or female Doms that are not approved by Master.
If you are talking with Him, like you are supposed to, then that can be discussed.
The only reason i would accept at that point is if there is a friendship or play partner relationship beginning. i do not like being a part of someone's "collection", my friends are my real friends.
i understand it makes it easier to connect if there is a friend link, but this is my standard.
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seriously... please put something in your profiles.. Be brave. You can do it.
Nothing earth shattering, just honest.
If you are looking for sex partners..fine..say that.
If you want to learn new techniques of play..say that.
If you want to find someone to play with you or to play with ... in the normal sense of BDSM.. say it.
List your skills.. or what you have experienced, especially if you do not have up pictures of said activities.
Pictures.. Trust me. If you have a picture of your body without a clear facial shot, that will go a long way to be credible. Yes, it can be a fake.. but why the hell do that?
If you don't want your pictures up, and you are a Dom.. put up pictures of things you have done with others.
No need hiding your tastes, we will figure it out eventually.
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ok....
so who thinks they have the weirdest CM profile name... would you change it if you could?
Why did you choose it in the first place, what is the story behind it.
My first scene name was Emptysoul.. i have a profile on here still for that one... just recently added this profile to be consistent with another site i am on.
i chose Emptysoul because at the time i felt totally emotionless and empty. I was not happy, sad, angry... nothing.. just empty and existing.
his_girl_friday (how i wanted it to be) came from a friend of mine. It serves two purposes...
with them..i was a regular play partner on Friday's each week.. my day off from work.
for me...i see the name as meaning.. i am an organizer and a helper...i will assist my friends and Master in any way i can. I have not watched the original movie and don't identify with the character Hildy..other than she is spunky.. but think of my name as meaning.. kind of submissive jack of all trades.. making things run smoothly.
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A message to
"Romancefirst"
you send a nasty email to me.. then block me...i never solicited anything from you in any way. I am not bothered, but curious about why i so enraged you. But, oh well...
Thanks for the email, i will take these thoughts into consideration.
"Fat, disgusting, uneducated, and classless...you've got it all."
Sorry i evoked that response... not really.
Different strokes for different folks...i am obviously not your cup of tea.
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The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent
from the bottom. -- Joseph Bean
The true strength of a woman is not measured by her compliance to
being
shackled to a bed that becomes a fortress of solitude, but her
willingness
to submit her very heart and very soul. -- Ron
Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you
his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I
will tell you his valuation of himself..... The man who is proudly
certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can
find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to
conquer--because only the possession of a heroine will give him the
sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut. -- Ayn
Rand
Sometimes your nearness takes my breath away; and all the things I
want to say can find no voice. Then, in silence, I can only hope my
eyes will speak my heart. -- Robert Sexton
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| Age: 37 |
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