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THE FIRST MEET

A TIME OF NERVOUS EXCITMENT

FIRST MEETS CAN BE A MAJOR ISSUE FOR THE NOVICE

THE PROTECTION OF THE INTERNET IS NO LONGER THERE TO KEEP YOU SAFE

YOUR PUTTING YOURSELFE ON THE LINE
RISKING REJECTION ,DISAPOINTMENT ,OR
MEETING A NUTTER

IF DONT PROPERLY YOU CAN KEEP YOURSELFE SAFE

THE FIRST MEETING DOS AND DONTS

DONTS

DONT MEET AT HIS HOUSE
DONT MEET AT YOUR HOUSE
DONT MEET IN A CAR PARK
DONT BE INTOXICATED
DONT AGREE TO PERFROMING ANY SEXUAL ACT BEFORE THE MEET
DONT DRINK TOO MUCH
DONT LET YOUR DRINK OUT OF YOUR SIGHT DATE RAPE DRUGS ARE REAL

DOS

DO MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE COFFEE SHOP OR BAR

DO CALL SOMEONE TO LET THEM KNOW YOUR MEETING SOMEONE

DO THIS INFRONT OF THE PERSON SO THEY CAN HEAR YOU AND TELL YOUR FRIEND YOU WILL CALL BACK AFTER A SET TIME
IF YOU DONT HAVE ANYONE TO CALL PRETEND YOU ARE MAKING A CALL HE WONT KNOW
DO END THE MEET QUICKLY IF YOUR NOT HAPPY OR COMFORABLE WITH WHO YOU HAVE MEET

FANTASY v REALITY !

THIS IS THE HARDEST THING FOR THE NOVICE TO ACCPET

THE FANTASY

BEFORE WE JOIN THESE SITES WE HAVE AN IMAGE IN OUR HEADS OF THE "ONE " WE ARE LOOKING FOR

THIS IMAGE MAY HAVE BEEN REFINED AND DEVELOPED OVER MANY YEARS .
FUELED BY EROTIC STORIES, VIDEOS AND PHOTOS

THAT SPECIAL ONE WHO WILL TAME YOU
THE PERFECT DOM WHOS THE PERFECT GENT
RICH & POWERFULL, CHARMING ,INTELLIGENT WITTY ,STRONG ,THE ALPHA MALE. WHO INSTANTLY KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED AND DESIRE WHO AFTER THE FIRST INSTANT CAN GET INSIDE YOUR HEAD ETC

THIS IMAGE IS THE FANTASY


THE REALITY

THE REALITY IS A COMPROMISE
IN TRUTH NO ONE CAN MEASURE UP TO THIS IMAGE

NO ONE IS PERFECT
 WE ALL HAVE OUR FAULTS

 NOT TALL ENOUGH
TOO TALL
TOO FAT
TOO THIN
WRONG COLOUR EYES
WRONG COLOUR HAIR
TOO YOUNG
TOO OLD
TOO VANILLA
TOO DOM
MAD
DANGEROUS
HES MARRIED
 AND SO ON

TO PURSUE SOMETHING THAT DOES NOT EXSIT IS PURE FOLLY WILL CAUSE NOTHING BUT MISERY AND DESPAIR
FRUSTRATION AND DEPRESSION

IT ONLY TAKES A FEW MINS OF LOOKING AT THE PROFILES ON DATING SITES TO SEE THE SAME FACES YEAR AFTER YEAR AFTER YEAR
"LOOKING FOR MY ONE "


ALL REALTIONSHIPS ARE BASED ON A TRUST
AND THE CHEMISTRY

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS RARELY LAST

AS WE GET OLDER OUR OPTIONS DECREASE


SET THE STANDARD AT A REALISTIC LEVEL


 

THE NEXT STEP



SO YOU HAVE MADE CONTACT WITH SOMEONE YOUR INTERESTED IN .

YOU EXCHANGE A FEW MESSAGES MAYBE SOME IM ON HERE

WHATS NEXT ?

I RECOMMEND YOU MOVE ONTO MSN OR YAHOO ETC

ENGAGE IN FURTHER CHAT DONT BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS LISTERN CAREFULLY TO WHAT YOUR TOLD
LOOK OUT FOR ANY INCONSITANCES IN THE CONVERSTATIONS
DOES IT FEEL RIGHT ?

WEBCAMS ARE BY FAR THE BEST WAY TO FIND OUT WHOS WHO

WEBCAMS COST AS LITTLE AS £6.99 IN PC WORLD

ANYONE SERIOUSLY LOOKING WILL  OR SHOULD HAVE ONE.

IF NOT WHY NOT ?

PHOTOS ARE THE NEXT WAY BUT CAN BE FAKED.

ASK FOR A PHOTO WITH THEM HOLDING A SHEET OF WHITE PAPER BELOW THIER FACE WITH A WORD YOU ASK FOR WRITTERN ON IT.

ITS 2009 WE ALL HAVE MOBILE PHONES MOST HAVE CAMERAS DIGITAL CAMS HAVE BEEN AROUND FOR YEARS.

NO PHOTO WHY ?


NEVER EVER MEET ANYONE IF YOUR ARE NOT TOTALY SURE WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE.

EVERYONE HAS A STOREY OF SOMEONE THEY MEET WHO SAID THEY WERE AVERAGE BUILD AND 36
ONLY TO FIND OUT THEY WERE VERY OVER WIEGHT AND 56 !!!

YES THAT INCULDES ME

ONCE YOUR HAPPY THE PERSON YOUR CHATTING TO IS REAL AND YOU FEL SAFE TO MEET

MOVE TO THE PHONE BEFORE THE FACE TO FACE.

THE VOICE CAN GIVE A LOT AWAY.
TALKING ON THE PHONE GIVES NO TIME FOR THINKING ABOUT ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
SO THE TRUER SIDE OF THAT PERSON WILL COME OUT.
THIER SENCE OF HUMOUR
 THIER SANITY
ARE THEY TELLING LIES

IF THIS GOES WELL THEN THE NEXT STEP IS THE FACE TO FACE MEET.

THE MESSAGE FILTER

THIS SITE HAS QUIT A GOOD MESSAGE FILTER SYSTEM.
IT ALLOWS YOU TO DIVERT MESSAGES FROM THOSE YOUR NOT INTERESTED IN TO YOUR BULK MAIL BOX.
YOU CAN STILL READ THEM IF WISH
BUT THEY WONT APEAR IN YOUR MAIN MAIL BOX

TAKE SOME TIME TO SET THE FILTER UP PROPERLY 

 IN YOUR MAIL BOX ON THE TOP RIGHT GO TO MAIL CONTROLS

SIMPLE TICK THE BOXES YOU DONT WONT MAIL FROM YOUR CAN SET AGE LIMITS AND 
SEXUAL ORIENTATION 

A FEW SECONDS SPENT HERE WILL SAVE HOURS OF TROLLING THROUGH MAIL FORM UNSUITABLES & UNDESIRED

THE "ON YOUR KNEES " MESSAGE


MANY SO CALLED DOMS & MASTER WILL SEND YOU A MESAGE ALONG THESE OR SIMULAR LINES.

" ON YOUR KNEES BITCH YOU ARE NOW MY SLAVE"

THIS IS THE THINKING OF A NEWBIE A PLAYER SOMEONE WHO THINKS A SUB IS A FREE
PROSTITUTE

SOMEONE WHO HAS NO IDEA WHAT THE d/S DYNAMIC IS

THEY THINK YOU ARE ALL SLUTS DESPERATE TO BE FUCKED

DO NOT RESPOND TO THESE SAD INADAQUATES

THE CHEATING MARRIED MAN
(I WAS ONE )

MANY ARE TAKEN IN BY THE MARRIED MAN
PRETENDING HES SINGLE OR SEPERATED.

HIS MOTIVATION IS SEXUAL ONLY HE CANNOT AND WILL NOT COMMIT TO ANYTHING BUT THIS.

HE WILL RARELY HAVE A FACE PHOTO ON THE SITE
HE WILL NEVER GIVE YOU HIS HOME LAND LINE NUMBER
HE WILL ONLY BE ONLINE LATE AT NIGHT
WHILE HIS WIFE AND KIDS ARE ASLEEP
HE WONT BE ABLE TO CAM DURING THE DAY
HE MAY HAVE 2 MOBILE PHONES WITH HIM
HIS PROFILE MAY COME & GO
HE WILL NEVER MEET YOU AT HIS HOUSE
HE WILL WANT TO MEET DURING THE DAY
HES ALWAYS BUSY AT THE WEEKEND

GULIBLE & NIEVE !

WHEN WE FIRST ENTER THE WORLD OF INTERENT DATING WE ARE EXCITED ABOUT MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND FINDING THAT SPECIAL ONE.

OUR JUDMENT IS CLOULDED
BY OUR DESIRES AND NEEDS

WE BELIVE ALL IS REAL
WE BELIVE WHAT WE READ IS TRUE
WE BELIVE EVERYONE IS WHO THEY CLAIM TO BE

 WE ARE GULIBLE AND NIEVE

AFTER A WHILE WE BECOME DOWN HEARTED AND FRUSTRATED BY THE TIME WASTER THE FAKES THE BLAGGERS THE PHOTO COLLECTORS
THE MARRIED MEN
THE NUTTERS
AND THE DAM RIGHT DANGEROUS

THIS IS WHEN MANY LEAVE NEVER TO RETURN

THERE A FEW FREE SITES FOR THE MALE TO MESSAGE THE FEMALE
THIS IS ONE OF THEM
BECAUSE OF THIS FACT THE SITE ATTARCTS ALL THE FANTASISTS FREAKS AND PSYCOS
THEY GET THIER JOLLYS BUT LIVING OUT THIER ONLINE ALTER EGOS
WHILE THE WIFES IN BED
OR MUMS DOWNSTAIRS WATCHING EASTENDERS

THERE ARE REAL DOMS HERE TOO MOST WILL HAVE PROFILES ON OTHER SITES TOO

SO SAFETY AND CAUTIONS ARE THE NEWBIES BUZZ WORDS

Dont judge a book by its cover.

The profile is how we first interact with other users on interent dating sites.

It is our window into that person. or is it ?

The profile is only what that person chooses to tell us.Its their avert to what they want or would like you the reader to think of them.

not all they say will be true
the male dom will say what ever he thinks he needs to say to get you to engage in conversation.

take what you read with a pinch of salt
men will exagerate about thier experience

Photos can be faked very easily. Cut and pasted from other web pages.

The only way to truely  know someone is to chat, talk and meet with them.

Dont be fooled by flashy profiles and photos.
grand titles or claims of 100s of subs trained.