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	About hillman321 Male Master seeking 24/7/365 TPE submissive/slave for a possible long term relationship. I am an experienced Dominant. I am consistent and clear with my requirements of service. I understand the mind of a true submissive. I slowly expand the experiences. I know to expect tests of my Dominance as the sub becomes more comfortable going to the next level. The sub needs reassurance that I will be there when they let go and proceed on in the submission. Submission is much more than sex. Many do not "get" that. Sex is a big part of our psyche so it is naturally involved and much of BDSM is focused on the sex organs but the act of submission truly happens in the mind not in any single sexual organ. For this reason I focus on the mind of the submission. After all, the largest sexual organ is the brain. "Control the head and the body will follow." This is NOT a game, I do not engage in "scenes" or "play". If one fishes on the weekend they do have a fishing li plays golf once a week, they do not have a golfing lifestyle - professional golfers do. IF you SMOKE, use illegal drugs, or drink to excess. Do NOT waste my time. I do NOT like the smell of ashtrays, human or otherwise.

Signs of a scammer on a profile.

The inclusion of a chat messenger address in the profile. Sure sign that the writer knows he (yes he) is going to be reported soon.

The location is non-existent.

They WERE in that location but their Master took them to Africa/London/whereever then died.

They list a weight of a 5 to 7 year old.

Their English grammar is typical of someone learning English as a second or third language.

They claim to have been born and raised in the USA yet persist in using the spelling common in the UK (and former territories in West Africa).

Definition: LIFESTYLE : A person's pattern of living as expressed in his or her activities, interests, and opinions.

This clearly eliminates the part time weekend players from honestly being able to claim their leisure activities as a lifestyle. The definition describes the usual activities day in and day out not the hobby as most people practice it. An avid weekend fisherman is not in the lifestyle of fishing as the commercial fisherman is. The weekend golfer does not carry a PGA tour card.

People may WISH they lived a BDSM lifestyle as some do but WISHES do not make it true.

The people that want to be parasites on the time and knowledge of others never fails to amaze me. Teach me but do not expect anything in return. How can one be submissive or learn to be submissive when they only want to TAKE from another. Submission is about GIVING without expecting something in return.

I constantly get amused by the "subs" that have children but insist they want to serve a Master. HOWEVER, the Master must know he cannot be first in her life. He will not be second either. Of course the mother has a responsibility to the children. The falsehood they hold in their minds is that they think they can be "submissive" to a man only when it is convenient for them.

I cannot accept someone who claims a "lifestyle" when they do something for a few hours every other Saturday night. (when the kids are with the other parent). The weekend golfer is not a "lifestyle" golfer as a professional is who lives it everyday of the week.

For a "lifestyle" that claims to be based on complete honesty, one has to stop lying to themselves as well as others. I have no problem with wannabes, you have to want to be before you can be. But, wishes and desires do not make things real. The saddest part is that these people are deluding themselves. They think something is wrong with everyone else instead of honestly seeing that they are not offering what they would like to think they can.

Gifts -

It amuses me when women talk about "gifts". Some even claim to be heaven sent. The same ones then complain about men that act if they are god's gift to women! Just another example of hypocrisy.

I find it amusing that women list themselves as subs but use slave in their name or viceversa. It shows that they do not know what they are or want. When that is the case, the Dominant has no chance to be right and every chance to be wrong. No true Dominant will accept having to guess what he can or cannot do. Entering into such a relationship is a sure recipe for TOTAL DISASTER. The latest is one that incorporates Old Guard Slavery in the name yet lists themself as a SUB!!!! Women wonder why a man does not meet their needs.... how could one, when the woman does not know herself?

I find it interesting when a slave says she wants a TPE then lists HARD LIMITS or DISLIKES

If she IS a slave, she has NO HARD LIMITS and her likes and dislikes make no difference since a slave supposedly LIKES what the Master likes and dislikes what the Master dislikes. Why bother making that entry.... it suggests to me that she is NOT really a slave in her heart or mind if she thinks such things are relevent. She is just another game player. She wants the illusion of slavery while maintaining control of the whole situation.

It has been a while, I keep getting contacted by people that do not understand BDSM as a true lifestyle. One keeps coming back, when I tell her EXACTLY what I want she says she wants it differently. She wants to date as vanillas do. She insists on dinner, movies, coffee dates. She offers NOTHING but a vague possibility of something later. I tell her to go away, stay away. She always comes back. Why is it that "subs" think they can decide what a Dominant "should" want? A friend of mine told me long ago, "marriage is just legalized prostitution, a man pays for the sex one way or another. A prostitute is honest, a coy woman is not. The prostitute puts a fair price on her service. A wife keeps increasing her price for less service. The prostitute wants you to be satisifed and come back. The wife/girl friend think they have you and will ask more and more for less and less." He is completely correct. BDSM is give and take but the Dominant does not give everything. However he does risk everything. At any time a sub can claim "rape". One thing that seals a deal is for me to hear the word "rape" If a sub suggests that she MIGHT use the term, she will no longer be considered for anything except a permanent BLOCK.

Once again. kindness and understanding have backfired. One is kind in one instance. Understanding in another. It becomes expected in all circumstances no matter what. When one calls a halt to it they suddenly are no longer understanding or kind. A flippant "you will just have to correct me" suggests that the correction process really means nothing. That revelation leads to the logical conclusion that the whole relationship means nothing. It is only meaningful when things are convenient. It has been said that the first time one shows kindness they will be perceived as weak. When one first shows "understanding" it becomes understood that the phrase can be used to excuse anything at anytime. "You understood last time, why do not understand now... you are being unreasonable"

Well no more...

Another rant of sorts. It amazes me about women. F irst they say they are close to asking to submit, then they say they have changed their minds and want "to be just friends". The request shows a lack of true understanding about the mindset of a Master. No Master is looking for woman "friends." Wimps accept being "only friends." Vanillas accept being "only friends." It is against the nature of a Master to be "friends" after a "submissive" has decided that she is not compatible. I have seen men fight then go have a beer. I have seem women fight and carry a grudge to the grave. They cannot "just be friends" then, how possibly can they think a Master would accept that?

There is a difference between being "friendly" and being a "friend." Friendliness is based in civility. Friendship goes much further than that. True friends do things for each other. I doubt that a "just friend" intends to do that.

One should be able to expect a civil relationship without asking for it. The act of asking suggests that the requestor does not think it is merited but needs to be asked for without making whatever amends they think is really due to maintain the relationship. The requestor is asking to be absolved without earning it.

END OF RANT

I just read a profile that would be hilarious if it were not so pathetic. A sub takes pride in testing and pushing the patience of the Dom. She wants a handsome, rich and patient "Dominant". All she offers is aggravation and frustration until the end. Then she ads the capper.. she has 2 young children that she expects him to assume the responsibility for!!!

She wants EVERYTHING from him and offers NOTHING in return. Nice job if you can get it.

I love the "dignified, respectful and integrity laden" subs that feel the need to resort to name calling. They do not see the hypocrisy. Same for the BBW's that do not like large men. Hypocrisy is rampant.

I read the lamentations of some subs/slaves with amused interest. They rail on about how no Master really takes charge. They have either forgotten or never thought that the Master is at a very great risk. It is he who will go to jail when the sub/slave decides that he violated her limits and decides she was raped. It is he that is at risk for "inserting a foreign object" into the various places. Not even Dommes have this worry. (It is assumed that a woman would not rape another female).

A Master has to be very, very careful these days. A simple whim can turn a Master into a sex offender. Once the sub makes that accusation he is branded forever. She will be? pitied, offered counseling and returned to her life. He will not.

Amazing.. the vituperitiveness of those that have their submissiveness questioned when their writings are demanding, angry, challenging and even insulting. They lament because they cannot find the match they DEMAND. They even insult the Dominants who choose not to want them. It is as if they think that only THEY have the choice. (which proves the lack of a submissive nature and the correctness of the choice to leave them by the wayside). They should read their own writing, they would not choose themselves.

BRATS!!! How can someone be "Asnobbishbrat" and be considered submissive in any way? Brats signal that they will never completely submit. The claim itself negates submission. Many seem to think it is "cute" True submission is a mental state that a 'snob' or "brat" just does not have and never will.

more... First..Politically Correct is social terrorism. That said, I will discuss BBW. Every overweight sub/slave/wannabe uses this term. I truly have seen some large women that are, indeed, beautiful but they are ,like the rest of the population, a rare occurence. When I see the picture of most of the rest I have to doubt them greatly. If they look in the mirror and really think they have a right to claim outer beauty I wonder about the validity of their claim to anything else , especially sumission. A true BDSM relationship hinges on honesty. Honestly ladies, most of the BBW's are the first and the last but not the middle. If you falsely advertise you set the stage for doubts in other areas. Many say look at the inner beauty, SORRY there is no INNER beauty, it all comes OUT in words and deeds. If a person is not real about the easily verifiable physical how can you trust what they say about the unseen? TRUST ME? Some say that is Yiddish for SCR*W YOU!!

Another rant... the submissives that state that they want to exist to serve a Master in all his needs, that he will come first..... AS LONG AS THEY GET THEIRS TOO!!! How possibly is that putting HIM first, if you are always checking to see if you are getting YOURS? If HIS pleasure is REALLY your pleasure, the "sub" would not have to add anything about getting theirs. Recently a "slave" went to be with a Master only to leave in 24 hours, seems he only had one towel and that freaked her out. Like he could not go buy another one.... She is now ranting about how immature and insecure another Master is for not immediately taking her on the rebound. (This is after she was planning to go another "Master" who disappeared before she went to the first guy I mentioned.)

I find it interesting and even bordering on amazing to read the entries from "slaves" and " deep submissives" that list limits such as "will not be the queen of a double wide" or have other such limits. If you are a slave you do not have such limits in my mind. The "instant submissives" are a hoot. They get adament that one should take them NOW. It is as if they think they should be in charge of the relationship. Again not a submissive attitude. The focus on the possessions and things physical demonstrates the lack of understanding of the true dynamic of submission. If the submissive truly focuses on pleasing the Master/Dom, they would not be concerned with the accomodations or their wants desires, pleasures.

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