highwaymanrt66

I am a male Dominant living in a polyamorous relationship/ Leather family with my wife, a Female Dominant who is listed as LadyBadger here on Collarspace. I live in Southern California. I am an active member of the local community since 2000, though both my interest and exploration has been going on for a lot longer.

I am looking for a submissive woman who is into both service and heavy SM play. She would have to be polyamorous, with the full understanding of what that means. She would also have to integrate into my leather family which consists at this time of me, my previously mentioned wife and my female slave. I am looking for someone who would eventually become my collared slave, once the relationship had progressed to that level.

She should enjoy attending public events, such as munches, play parties, and leather events. She should also be comfortable with my partner playing with her at parties and, while she shall be collared to me, be able to take commands from my partner as service to me.

I am looking for someone who has a mind and a life of her own and can communicate who she is and what she wants. She must also have a need to serve, and the desire and willingness to give control over to her owner. While I expect obedience once we have committed to each other, I do not expect it, nor want it, at a first meeting. There is a large gulf between Dominance and domineering.

I am looking for someone local to the So Cal area. While email is useful for introductions and helping to keep communication flowing, getting to know someone for the type of relationship that I want can only be done in person. Furthermore, while we all have a past, encumbrances should be manageable.