I am here.  Looking.  Searching. The task is difficult, but worthwhile.  What I seek is difficult to define.  The picture in my mind is clear, she is easy to see, the picture clear, but bringing it to light, allowing the light of day to illuminate it is so very difficult. 

The vision is of her.  The little smile playing upon her face.  The lights in her downcast eyes.  The slight tension in her body as she kneel beautifully in front of me. 

Hearing the soft "Yes Master" as she responds to my commands.  The slight catch in her voice as she asks how she may serve me.

The vision does not show the unimportant things.  There is no hint to her level of experience because what matters is simply her overpowering desire to be commanded.  It does not show the physical her, for her skin color, age, height and weight are of no concern, only her need to be controlled. 

I know I am looking for someone local (within 100 miles or so).  I am not looking for 24/7 at this time, but with the right person and circumstances that does become a possibility.

What she sees is a 45 year old man, a professional in a  high stress job.  I have experience in many forms of BDSM.  My involvment has been ongoing for many years.  Always learning, finding the things that challenge me, learning more about my own self, my desires and needs, knowing that for a sub/slave to serve me the best that she can, I must make myself clear to her.  I cannot do that unless my needs are clear to me. 

She sees that I am married but that my wife knows of my activities, and indeed the long term hope is to find someone that we can both enjoy.  My wife is beautiful, bi and a switch.  We are very open and enjoy the poly lifestyle.  Activity with my wife is not a requirement, but as I said the long term hope is that we can all interact. 

I enjoy many facets of this lifestyle.  All starting with the mental aspects.  She will love feeling the strength and control she feels from me.  The mental challenges will excite her.  She will be intelligent but will know I am at the least  her equal in this area. 

The many physical aspects of BDSM that I enjoy include bondage, sometimes light, sometimes extremely strict.  She will enjoy penetration in all of her orifices.  She will know she will be allowed orgasm only at my whim, but knows she will often be teased without mercy for my pleasure. 

I am not a sadist but do enjoy the creation of sensations, many of them will be intense, but I do not deliver pain solely to give pain.  A great deal of attention will be given to her breasts and pussy.  She will enjoy and suffer clamps, ropes, soft and gentle sensations as well as some rather harsh sensation. 

I use paddles, canes, crops, floggers, whips as part of my play, but I don't spend hours mindlessly beating her. 

She knows she will be held to rigid standards and rules.  She understands, accepts and indeed desires to be punished when she does something contrary to the rules that have been set for her.

She loves knowing she is a treasured possesion.  She also knows that depending on my whims and mood she may be treated soft and gentle and at other times she will simple my object, my toy to play with, to pleasure myself with. 
Her duties will include daily journals of her thoughts, needs, wants and desires.  She may be called on to do errands for me.  She may be expected to cook, to clean, to do things that makes my life easier and more enjoyable.  And she will love being allowed to do these things, to focus herself on me, my needs and desires.

She knows down inside that for each little challenge she is given by me she will become stronger in her submission.  Those things that are the most difficult for  her are the things that bring her the most rewards.

Am I describing you?  Are you intrigued?  If so I want to hear from you.