HartOgold

I'm an experienced submissive who does not play or get involved with married men and there are no exceptions to this. The same goes for poly. I don't share well and if I am not enough woman for you than quite simply, I am not the woman for you.

I've been in both M/s and D/s relationships. I'm open to both and I don't believe a relationship is defined by anyone else's views and opinions other than the two people who form the relationship. I am now the proud owner of an empty nest, so I would consider 24/7 again but I wont rush into it as I'm happy on my own and I'm not looking for you to complete me. You shouldn't be either.

I'm together, confident, devoted, loyal, shy, a bit of a smart ass but never a brat, intelligent and I have a lot to offer. I have masochistic tendencies but I'm not all pain all the time. I like the trimmings but I don't have to have them. I have tried a lot of things and there are a lot of things I really want to try. A violet wand and fire play chief among them. I don't have the jaded been there done that attitude because while I might have done something I haven't done it with you and experiencing new things and learning are a few of my favorite things in life whether it is a place I haven't been or an implement I've never felt.

***Some of the following is repetitive I know but I'm adding it anyway because apparently I haven't made it clear enough***

I have no interest in men that are old enough to be my father or date my mother. You aren't going to change my perspective on this. I have dated younger men but I prefer within ten years of my age plus or minus. That isn't ironclad but if you are 10 or more years older or younger than me please respect my preferences and don't take them personally.

I do not submit online. I will not submit to just anyone. I have standards and you should too! I am seeking a relationship, one in which I chose to submit my will to a man I have come to respect, trust and care for. That doesn't happen within the space of a few emails. In fact, in my case it will never happen until we have interacted face to face. I do not allow myself to become attached emotionally to men I have never laid eyes on.

While common courtesy is a given, respect is earned or what value would it hold? I also do not believe my submission is a gift. Submission and dominance are two halves of a whole. It is a synergistic combination.

I do have a few pesky little requirements, such as being able to have conversations with you. Some shared interests and things in common would be lovely. If the sum total of your conversation skills is "hi" then we aren't going to get past an email. If I don't like you as a person and cannot connect to you as one we aren't ever going to progress to the BDSM. By the way, if you feel compelled to abbreviate simple 3 letter words like are and you, or write in text talk like "b4" please refrain as I speak English not bingo.


To hit the highlights: I prefer men that are relatively close to me in age as well as geographically. If you aren't certain whether or not you are close to me geographically, let me just add that I prefer intelligent men as well. Yes, I can be sarcastic!.

Absolutely no married or poly men. I don't make exceptions to this and no, not even for you. I really can't deal with smokers either. I smoked for a long time and quit 10 years ago and I just can't be around it, sorry. Alcoholism is also a limit unless you're committed to your sobriety. 420 doesn't bother me but other drugs are out.

I don't expect you to be Adonis however personal hygiene is absolutely essential. Kissing someone who doesn't have a more than passing acquaintance with their toothbrush is just ick.

Anyone who says looks don't matter is lying. They do. Are they the most important thing to me? Certainly not. However, if the spark isn't there, it isn't there and without a spark you can't have any fireworks!

If you are looking for a quick fuck you aren't going to find it here as I can quite happily provide for myself should the need arise. I will take quality over quantity any day!

I feel compelled to mention that while I am submissive, this does not mean that I will automatically be submissive to you. I don't submit online. I don't allow emotional attachments to form online either. Nothing is real until we have looked each other in the eyes. (no, webcams do not count)

I do not have patience for men that have yet to master themselves but believe they can still master another. I don't play games and I don't tolerate those that do.

Likes: Intelligence, honesty, humor, playfulness, passion, toe curling kisses, being bitten on the cords of the neck (Yum!), heavy thuddy floggers, being taken, board games, movies, the ocean, books, music, family, friends, bondage, blindfolds, Chinese food, Hawaii, swimming, canes, hair pulling, stability, structure, walking on the beach, the snow, exploring new places and things, movies and music.

Dislikes: Narcissists, childishness, ignorance, baby talk, poor hygiene, belts, men that think being domineering is the same as being dominant, immaturity, insecurity, bugs, people who don't realize that underneath it all it's still a relationship, pity whores, attention whores, drama queens.