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I am a 36 year old submissive male from the UK. I am married to a kink-friendly wife who enjoys BDSM but doesn't have the time or drive to make it actually happen. We are looking for a Trainer/Owner/Master/Mistress to help me find the inner peace that comes from being controlled, humiliated and dominated.
I say these things at the start of my ad so there are no misunderstandings.
About Me
I'm 6'2”, a little overweight at 220 lbs (although I carry it pretty well) with short brown hair and a goatee. I'm not a muscle guy, that's for sure. Slightly hairy body, with couple of tattoos.
My cock size varies anywhere from tiny (1” when very cold and wet), to average (around 5” long when hard). I'm a grower, not a shower. I have pics if this is your core concern.
My interests are wide and varied, but a consistent theme is the gradual pushing of limits and the element of being controlled (either through physical restraint, or by other emotional/psychological means.
I'm looking for someone with a huge imagination, clever and original, who has a passion for the psychological aspect of BDSM as much as the physical.
Ideally, you would be in the UK (although not essential), and online very often. For the right person, I would be happy to meet in real life, possibly regularly, but I would like to explore our relationship online to begin with.
My Situation
Being married puts so many people off making contact, but honestly, for the right person, it can be a big plus. As I said, my wife is kink-friendly, and has knows just about all my kinks (there's a lot!), but she doesn't have the time, imagination or perhaps inclination to control me how I need. She understands and recognises my need for a 3rd party to take control.
For the right person, she would make an ideal assistant when you are not physically present, a remote set of hands if you will. More than likely, if you were to become a focal point in my life, she would become your friend too.
The Other Big Issue
My slave. A woman in America who is my 'slave'. Being a sub myself, our relationship has grown & evolved to the point where it is now 95% vanilla. Although we talk online most days, usually just for a few minutes at a time, there's an element of respect that is still there and she visits for a few months to stay with my wife and me, every couple of years. As my trainer/master/mistress, you would take priority.
One stipulation of any potential relationship would be to not force me to sever that connection, and to not assume that by chain of command she is yours to play with by default. Sorry to have to stipulate that - but others have unfortunately tried.
My Interests
I'm not into the pain that comes from physical blows, (caning, spanking, paddling, whipping, hitting, etc), yet I am incredibly turned on by torture. The kind that gradually increases while you maintain endorphin flow, possibly through masturbation and teasing.
With the right endorphin flow, I am fine with needles, flat nipple clamps, urethral play, anal stretching, clothespins, etc, but hit my balls and its playtime over.
I have a fascination for things which lace shut, particularly corsets and hoods, as well as gradually pushing the limits of the human body, such as ball stretching, anal stretching (dildos/fisting), vacuum pumping (although I haven't done much of this one yet).
When it comes to bondage, I love redundant security, such as the act of putting a padlock on a hood when I'm already straitjacketed, or multiple layers of bondage. Leather and steel are great for this.
I'm also interested in humiliation, which many people assume means public humiliation, but it doesn't. I'm fascinated by stories of sissymaids who have a limited set of male clothes to wear out to work etc, but are forced into maid outfits with girdles, panties, etc the minute they step in the door at home.
For a while my wife expressed an interest in having me sleep beside her in a nightie and panties every night, but when it wasn't enforced, we both soon lost interest.
I have an interest in chastity (although definitely not long-term, more short-to-medium term). Being a “grower” not a “shower”, I found the most success with a Birdlocked Mini (their smallest model) in pink, but also investigating other options.
I have a number of toys, and would be interested in acquiring more, particularly anything out of the ordinary or extreme. I enjoy degradation, both verbal and physical, and am quite attracted to the 'pig' mentality.
I love head bondage, and nothing will put me in subspace faster than a good tight hood and/or gag. I have an interest in being objectified, and stored away somewhere (a box, cupboard, etc).
I've had both my nipples pierced (three times in fact). Never had my cock pierced, but might consider it. Again, fascinated by those who stretch piercings to ridiculous sizes. I'm quite interested in the extremeness of it.
I'm also interested in the psychological control of hypnosis and subliminal training, mental conditioning.
Finishing up
So that's me. There's hopefully a lot of room to work within if you're interested. If you're male, I've never been with a guy in person before, so that'll be an interesting one, but I'm quite open to the idea. Although some of my interests are on the extreme side, I do insist on safe play.
My big influences are
Authors: JG Leathers, Thndrshark
Websites: Insex, Device Bondage
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