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First of all, let me be clear. I am not seeking men here on this site. This is not a statement about anyone in particular, but I am a lesbian, and I would ask that you respect that.

I have known I was submissive since I was a young child. I'd always felt a secret thrill when my teachers growing up were women. I would work harder and push myself to extremes to earn their praise. I'd get weak in the knees around self assured women who seemed to not only give me tasks, but praise me when I did well. When I was old enough, I found the same feelings for bosses that were women at my work. It got to the point where I would seek out emplyoment in places where I was assured being a subordient to a woman.

Obviously, this meant two things. One, that I was submissive, and two, that I needed a better way to express that desire. Ever since then, I have been involving myself as much as possible with the Lifestyle.

I'm seeking a Mistress who will take me under her wing. I tend to do better the more strict and all encompassing the submission is. I have a deep seeded and primal urge to give myself wholly to another and serve them. I am willing to relocate for the right person. In a perfect world, this would include not just physical domination, but mental as well. I love the idea of being molded both in spirit, personality, and form. (please note my interest in things like hypnosis to get an idea of what I am talking about). I would be more than happy to serve both in a personal as well as professional sense (maid, secretary, driver etc).

I know that such a relationship takes time to develop. I will not entertain such an arrangement until we've gotten to know each other and the necessary trust and chemistry is obvious to us both. I am looking for other Women who are clever, intelligent, wicked and serious about exploring this lifestyle, and all the myriad possibilities it can afford us.

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I am currently unowned

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9/24/2009 3:16:04 PM
Just to be clear.  I am single.

12/16/2008 10:31:02 AM
I met a woman this week through collarme, and she has been nothing short of amazing.   I will refer to her as "Amante" and she has started open door and expose me to ideas that are literally blowing my mind.

She's been sending me bedtimes stories for me to listen to before bed.  I've been leaving them on loop so they play while I sleep.  The dreams they have inspired are....exquisite.  It's been almost impossible to focus on anything else.  She's been systematically getting in my head and emptying it of anything else but thoughts of her, or what I want do to her and for her.  It's a rush.  I delightful rush.  I can't wait to continue more with her.

She is by far, one of the most unique souls I've met here.

4/23/2008 11:55:15 AM
So, I've been here on Collarme for a few weeks now. It's been interesting. I've been in contact with a few interesting people and had to deal with some rather strange people. All in all, I have to say, I'm pretty pleased. However, I'm finding that it seems that a lot of people here are lacking something that I find so crucial to real D/s relationship, and that's an understannding of some of the mental aspects of what goes on during power exchange.

I'm going to talk from a submissives's point of view, since that's where I'm coming from. Many people have latched onto the fact that I am very much into the idea of hypnosis as a means to explore submission. But they seem use it like a caveman uses a club.

I had one person explain to me that they would like to use hypnosis to make me come on command. That would lead me to becoming addicted to their power and thus feel more submissive. I won't go into the fact she thought this would be be done after 5 minutes of trance. What confused me is why hypnosis was important here. Orgasm is not something I need a trance to achieve. I have hands, I have vibrators, I have an imagination. All these are effective tools for reaching orgasm. At the same time, most people I know can orgasm without becoming a drug addict. That's why vibrators are not a controlled substance.

I had another who wanted to "make" me like being humilated. Again, she tried a simple a trance and then simply said "You like being humilated. You are a dirty slut". While I think the idea is interesting, it smacked of "caveman club" mentaility. Again, there was nothing happenning that I think took advantage of what hypnosis is so useful. I think people are under the impression that hypnosis works along these lines.

1. Trance a subject
2. Tell them something makes them horney
3. Pat self on back for being Dominant.

It takes all the fun out of a D/s relationship first of all. There's no training. There's no journey. Hypnosis does not allow you to skip any steps you would normally have to go through for training. What it allows you to do is expand the territory you are able to cover. Let me give you an example.

I was talking to a lovely young woman who was into puppy play. She loved training her subs to act and behave like puppies. This was never my thing. I had never given much thought to it. But as we talked, she asked me to bark for her in text chat. Nothing big, just a simple “bark”. I did, and although I didn't get a charge out of it, it was fun. We started talking about it more and more, along with my interest in hypnosis. And like every other fetish I love or come in contact with, I started breaking down what I like about it.

With puppy play, the more I thought about it the more I realized I liked the idea that it was essentially me becoming something else at the direction of another. Soemone was “turning” me into a puppy. The problem, of course, was that I am not actually a puppy. When I bark, it's not because I am a puppy, but because I am barking like a puppy. I will never actually be a puppy of course, so there will be hard limit to just how far this transformation can be taken.

This is where I think hypnosis is such a boon to any Dominat and sub's tool box. With hypnosis, my mental state could be trained and tweaked to go along with the puppy play. Triggers and mindsets programmed so that when it was time to bark, in my head, I was much less me and more of a puppy.


Slowing my congnitive thought, increasing my desire for simpler things, decreasing inhibitions. Through hypnosis, my mind can be trained to work differently. I can be trained to have a harder time acting like me, or remembering who I am, or caring who I am. I can be trained to think more like what I think a puppy would. My IQ temporarily lowered, my desires stripped down to “sniff feet, eat, and bark!” None of it permenent, but enough for a much more intense play session. When I bark, it would be because in my head, I have no other reason to do otherwise. I'm not doing it for pleasure, or for orgasm, but because I have been tranced and program to be more puppy like. All these things can be combined with more traditional to really further the puppy play experience.

Hypnosis can take a person out of their own head. It takes time, training and someone who likes to weld that kind of control over someone. It's not stand alone, but works in tandem with tradtional play to broaden the horizons of what's possible.


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littlespankee
 
 Age: 26
 Tema, South Africa