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Male Switch, 27, chattanooga, Tennessee

Female Dominant, 30

Female Submissive, 37, york, Pennsylvania

I once had a person on this site who said she was a submissive ask me some questions.  She sent me a 5-page list of redundant questions reportedly given to her by a femail Domme to weed out the Doms who are not Doms. She says, in her journal, that she laughs about how many Doms cannot answer the questions, not thinking that some Doms simply will not answer these questions.  There is a large difference between cannot and will not.  I do not think she is a "submissive" at all.  More of a Domme, wish she would take up that pose.  She would be more comfortable. The questions revolved around the central issue of how I would be a good Dom for her.  As a "real" Dom, I can say that I am not in an interview frame of mind.  I am a Dom not a patsy to answer psuedo questions issued from some female "Domme" who says she is a Domme and yet submits to such inquisitions.  I do expect an interview process, talks, meetings, test performances, to find out where we are and where we need to adjust to each other and find our path for the journey. Redundant questions with the same answers given in different ways is not the way to go. I will get off my high-horse now and simply say you can talk to me, meet me, play with me.  If you do not like me, simply leave. No number of quizzes will out weigh a meeting.

I received an invitation froma relatively young lady to give her some orgasms.  Her husband had never given thm to her.  I, three pumps and out.  What a moron. I accepted the invitation and let her know how to dress. She called herself a BBW, which she was, though she was well formed. Nice large breasts with excellent big nipples.  I first saw them on our drive into the mountains.  She did not know she was submissive in nature until that moment when I told her to remove her top.  I could tell she was hesitant, after all we were on the open road.  But she complied and threw her top into the backseat as I instructed.  She blushed a little when I complimented her body. She did not know that we still had a small town to drive through.  One with a single stop light.  When we crossed the hill and she saw the town, she gasped and reached fro her top.  I made her stop, sit with her back arched and sit on her hands.  What a beauty. I thought she was not going to breath at all, such was her fright.  When she saw the light turn red just before we got there, I saw panick in her body.  I assured her that all was right and she was safe.  She just nodded, stiff as a board. There were a bunch of boys on the sidewalk.  They spotted her and crowded the passenger window.  She relaxed under their gaze and I knew she was ready to submit to me. We drove up into the forest to a spot where we could see the Cascades.  It wa a bare spot on top of a hill--a spot recently logged, the smell of Douglas Fir ripe around us.  She thought it was beautiful letting loose a different type of gasp.  My eyes were on her.  She was a beauty.  Long auburn hair half way down her back, a heart shaped face and nipples that banged out of her breasts just begging to be used.  I had her get out of the car.  Her 4-inch heels made her stumble a little and the mevement of her breasts almost made me spew in my pants.  She stood there, looking at the mountains, hands behind her back as I had instructed.  She looked at me when I told her to drop her skirt.  It was a look of absolute terror.  She realized she woud be revealing her complete body to me, here in nature, a natural act of submission.  Then she grinned a great big beaming smile and dropped the skirt. She was ready. I took her clothes and opened the trunk, taking out a heavy blanket and had her walk over to me.  What a creature--all sex in that walk.  I gave her her clothes and told her to put them in the trunk and close the lid.  She did so, willingly.  Her submission was complete. The blanket was spread and so were her legs.  I chewed her to her first orgasm, which was quiet and sensual.  Her nextm with my finger driving her was louder and her third with my cock plowing that soft furrow was a scream heard echoing through the gulley surrounding. She was spent, but I was not.  She was game for anything now and she sucked me to completion taking in her very first taste of cum.  She had not known the sensuality of sucking cock before.  She asked to do it a second time.  I let her.  She gasped as the cum slammed into the back of her throat.  The tase overwhelming.  She bowed to me and we got back into the car after I dressed.  She stayed naked as I drove her back to civilization-toward the non orgasmic sex she had always had before.  I stopped and got her clothes for her that she reluctantly put on.  I have not seen her since, though we have spoken now and again.  She went home and submitted to her husband.  He responded and all is well with them now.  Maybe she will blow me agian some time.  I am happt that everything worked out well for her. What a beauty.

On the issue of exhibitionism, I am all for it.  I believe it is important for a sub to exhibit herself and her Dom.  All eyes go to the sub.  That is one of the charismatic elements of submission.  However, submission is an evolving state.  A sub in training cannot be asked to move nude through a room of strangers.  All subs have been trained to hide their assets.  Once they recognize thier submissive natures it is essential that they find a Dom who will gradually dismiss all hesitancy to exhibit thier bodies and souls to others.  It is the Dom's duty to expose and enhance the communicative aspects of the sub's human nature.  This is a daunting task for both the Dom and the sub.  It is only through their combined personality that such a journey can be accomplished.  After all, the sub and Dom together are asking each to expose thier assets and their flaws to the world with no reservations. I have seen times when this has met with derission.  Such comments as: she's too fat or look at that little dick are uncalled for and will only serve to send one who is seeking to shed the boundaries set by thier society back to the dark world of solitude.  This is an unfortunate aspect of our society--to put others down to elevate the "self." No one has ever derided me.  I do not have that much, only 7 inches, but every lady I have been with has waxed poetic about the hardness and girth.  Only my subs have been able to get it down the throat to find my balls bouncing on their chins, accepting all of me, submitting totally to my will.  This usually takes months of practice before accomplishing.  But once the technique is learned, all my subs have been able to take all others all the way down (I once watched as one of my subs took 13 inches all the way down.  She said it was more flexible and easier to take, did not fill her throat so completely as mine.  And that sub had trouble, when she started her training, even being nude before me let alone others).  The point is, when attending an event where some subs and Doms are exhibiting for the first time, it is important to encourage rather than deride.  These people are exploring a very important part of their nature.  So back off!!

There are some Doms and subs here that think you can have the submissive lifestyle with no sexual content.  I am not one of those Doms and my choices for subs are not of that mind.  Actually, I call this playing at submission.  Nothing complete, just some acts that may or may not be actually submissive or Dominant. Taking and giving beatings, pain, or humiliation are just mind ticklers--no more. I have been around long enough to know the difference.  A few spankings, a couple hours bound, keeping the eyes averted, do not a sub make nor a Dom create. Why do we feel that a marriage is not complete without the consumation?  Why is rape such a horrendous crime?  Both answers are rooted in the same cause. Our sexuality is such a fundamental part of us that we cannot function properly without it.  Each of us knows what our sexuality means to the "self" and hold it close to our chests.  To not surrender it is to withold a fundamental portion of our "selves" from the "other."  Thus, a marriage is not a true marriage until the sharing of our sexuality is complete.  And a rape is the ripping of a fundamental part of our "selves" by the "other" without the permission or submission of the "self."  The invasion of a hard cock into someone who does not submit is a crime against the spirit and body.  I will not perform such an act, though I have felt the need No, to submit to a little pain or humiliation is just playing at submitting.  It means nothing, does nothing, and examines nothing.  Those who do so are only surface creatures who do not delve into the "self" and certainly do not submit to the "other."  They are only playing. I have experienced enough of the world to know that complete submission or Dominance is the only true mechanism to find the true nature of the "self."  And submission without surrender of sexuality is not a complete submission.

I can remember when any discussion of Dominance or submission was frowned upon and even dismissed a perverse and abhorant.  Thus, in those times, those things which we here hold in high regard were relegated to the cheap motel rooms and remote dungeons. Today we can celebrate our sexuality with each other.  What a change a sexual revolution and a couple decades make. Of the five subs (my wife being the very best because she was wise of my needs and I ws very knowing of hers) I have trained over the years, all have found rewarding relationships beyond those in this market.  They have become wives and mothers and concerned parents guarding their neighborhoods and yet able to hold onto that ever elusive garment of sexuality.  How many stuffy people do I know that will condemn what we do and yet take advantage (whether sexually, economically, or spiritually) of others who do not have the will to stand against thier wind?  Many. It is my considered hope that no one in this venue considers themselves above others. True Doms know that it merely their natue to dominate others, but not to coerce. Keep the Faith.

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