A collar will not make you into something better than you are, deep inside. If a girl is nothing, who wants to own "nothing"? It is not meant to serve as an esteem booster. It will not assure you that men will see you of value. No steel is guaranteed for life: situations change. Fate happens, deaths happen, people evolve, men change their minds. That girl who's neck is bare, the one that you whisper is worthless because she's been in the lifestyle for six months without being owned? You may be in her place one day.

Worse yet... a collar is not the equivilant of going steady, wearing someone's class ring around your neck (literally). Can they truly own you, in a few days? Do they know who you are, deep down in your hidden alcoves of your soul and do you know the man you kneel before?

It is natural to want to be owned. It is natural to desire to progress in your journey. But if that is your sole reason for begging a collar... the collar will be ill fitting.

Being owned can be the most fulfilling emotion for a woman, if the collar is right. It is something that cannot be explained unless it is experienced firsthand. But to become collared for the wrong reasons can strip away some of the significance until all that remains is a pretty necklace with little or no value.

It is trusting him with her life.

But if you need a collar to validate the person you are - then look within - because there is something missing that a steel necklace cannot change.