GhostFacedKilla

OK, of all the movies that have a D/s underpinning, whether erotic or not, I find the hottest to be the Hannibal Lecter/Clarice relationship in Silence of the Lambs. People often ask me, "what are your kinks?", and as verbose as I can be, I am at a loss to explain it to them. Not because I do not have a full grasp of what it is, but it is so intangible, that I am at a loss to explain it in a way that can be understood. Can you imagine? "What are your kinks?". I respond, " I am into the Hannibal Lecter/Clarice Starling dynamic"... laffs. 

Images of me eating your kidneys with fava beans and a nice chiante fill your mind. Well Hannbal never touched clarice(other than a finger to finger caress), but he sure fucked her mind, and not in a haphazard way, he lead her, groomed her, nurtured her.. 

Hannibal Lecter: Tell me Clarice, would you ever say to me "Stop. If you loved me, you'd stop"?
Clarice Starling: Not in a thousand years.
Hannibal Lecter: "Not in a thousand years"... That's my girl. 

So, so fucking hot.

summer is here! Looking for a playmate/partner in crime.

I feel like a motorcycle ride today.

Restless today. Called in a mental health day from work. Feeling like I need to torment someone, laffs. But mainly just bored.

This bit of Cole Porter goodness has been rolling around my head lately...

 I used to fall in love with all those boys who maul the young cuties
But now I find I’m more inclined to keep my mind on my duties.

While tearing off a game of golf
I may make a play for the caddy
But when I do, I don’t follow through
‘cause my heart belongs to Daddy.

If I invite a boy some night
To dine on my fine finnan haddie
I just adore his asking for more
But my heart belongs to Daddy

Yes my heart belongs to Daddy
So I simply couldn’t be bad
Yes, my heart belongs to Daddy
Da-da-da, da-da-da, da-da-da
So I want to warn you, laddie
Though I know you’re perfectly swell
But my heart belongs to Daddy
‘cause my Daddy he treats it so well

There was a dame that a football game
Made long for the strong undergraddie
I never dream of making the team
‘cause my heart belongs to daddy

Yes, my heart belongs to Daddy
So I simply couldn’t be bad
Yes, my heart belongs to Daddy
Da-da-da, da-da-da, da-da-da
So I want to warn you, laddie
Though I know you’re perfectly swell
That my heart belongs to Daddy
‘cause my Daddy, he treats it so well

I am pragmatist. I did not come to BDSM/D.s lifestyle seeking an idealised , romanticised expression of my wants and needs. I came simply because I was hopeful that I would find a woman, or women, with whom what was so long sequestered inside me could find utterance. I have not been disappointed.

 The Internet has done many things for the BDSM and D/s lifestyles. The affect has been a mixture of both good and bad. Again, I am a pragmantist, and I can accept this and not lose sleep over it. I am not going to lament about the "good old days", or name capping or any of that. Life is fluid, it changes, it grows, and hopefully develops into something greater than it was. 

The biggest boon to the lifestyle, as I see it, is simply numbers. Large numbers of people have become active in the lifestyle, many of whom never would have done so were it not for the Internet. Some start out online and move quickly to real time, others only indulge in online play and relationships for a while before finally taking it to real time, and others, stay online, never to feel the leather or the touch of another in a BDSM relationship. To each there own, but these three groups, all play an active roll in shaping the BDSM lifestyle.

 You may think, OK, I can see how those that go real time shape the lifestyle, but what about those that never do go real time? Well, they are the first contact for many seeking answers and a "safe" foray into the lifestyle. The newcomers are immediately submerged in a mix of onlineisms and real time BDSM values  and protocols with no real compass to differentiate between the two. And thus is the way that online ideas are propogated into real time BDSM. By their sheer numbers, they are a force with which to be reckoned. When they do go real time, their online values are brought with them into the community. They may not be readily obvious, but more intimate interaction will reveal them. Is this a bad thing? Again, I am a pragmatist. I see both good and bad in it. Simply put, it is what it is.  For one, I dont' think just because it's real time, it's the right thing. There are plenty of fucked up things and ideas running around the real time community, just as there are on the online community. And now, the lines have blurred. Many who started out real time, are online in BDSM communities. We're all in this together, and , in my mind, it's still the best place to be.

Yes,  race play is hot. Laffs, that is all.

When a woman's  person's body becomes her their social currency, she  they are bankrupt, and operating at a severe deficit.

Edited do to a very thoughtful message. Thanks!

This morning I am home from work, I had a bit of a migraine yesterday evening, during the night, and this morning, but I feel better now. In any event, I've been thinking about the affects that the BDSM and D/s communitites are having on TTTWD. The thoughts are formulating just now. I've not posted anything for a while as I dont' post for the sake of posting. Feed back and your thoughts are greatly appreciated and welcome.

Now , so far, it has shaping up along these lines...Onlineisms and the D/s Dynamic: Paradigm Shift and The Fusion of Two Social Constructs. I'm not an authority, but I do have opinions as well as objective observations. Many people start out as wannabes and online only at first, online is their first experience, and a great deal also move into the R/T lifestyle, and they bring with them...internet values. They could go into it and then realise it' is not for them, or become commited lifestylers. I am not going to be able to condense this all into one post. I am going to pick a topic, and expound on that topic as it relates to the theme.

I am sure that many of you have thought, oh, that's just online, or that's an onlineism, but we take our ideas with us everywhere, in every situation, and sometimes the lines are not so clearly demarcated. We experience a kind of bleed over when ideas get mixed and tailored to our wants, needs and likes.

I will, of course, talk about my favorite subject first..submissives!!! But I'm still organising my thoughts, so I will continue in a bit.


Stay thirsty my friends

Playing hookie today and already bored. We'll see what the day brings though. Well, to be honest, not completely hookie. I've had an upset stomach since sunday night, so starting out the day with a latte  and a pepto chaser..

Last week or so has been tiring and weird. Now, on this most beautiful Saturday afternoon following a good night's sleep, I am bored. I've been reading a lot of collarme profiles, some of them quite nice and well thought out others... not so much. BTW, if you?re looking for your "One", you might want to take the pics down of three or four guys stuffing their cocks down your throat. Prince Charming may know you're not virgin, he but might get the wrong idea about your dedication to monogamy. Just saying...

    I'm also amazed by the degree of specificity expressed in some of them. It makes me wonder, are people really that specific in what they are seeking? Are they really that rigid? Apparently they are.

Anyway, other than that, the thing that's on my mind is "labels". I've heard said a lot, "I don?t like labels". Bah, I LOVE labels. Labels keep me alive. They help me tell poison from food, dangerous situations from safe ones, etc. What I don?t like, is MISLABELING. That's where the problems start. If something, or someone, is labeled by themselves, or others, as something that they're not, it's bad news.
At worst, it can kill you, at best; it causes a lot of drama and emotional upheaval.

There is a lot of common mislabeling in the lifestyle; Dom vs. Top, bottom vs. sub to name a couple. But the one that really rubs my rhubarb is slut and submissive.

A slut is very different from a submissive. As you can be a slut, and not be submissive at all and vice versa. Neither is confined to the lifestyle, but I hate to see when someone confuses being a slut with being a submissive. I've got nothing against sluts; some of my best friends are sluts... But sluts are pretty common. Submissives on the other hand, are a much rarer commodity. Laffs, I can hear the groans now, "....that's why I hate labels! I'm a slut AND a submissive". Ok, fair enough, you're a slutty submissive. Label still fits; you just require two words instead of one. You're a special snowflake.

So, embrace labels. Use them wisely and liberally, but use them accurately. They will serve you well.


Stay thirsty my friends.