5/23/2017 10:25:19 AM:
If you read a journal entry from breakmetakeme73 you will think that he asked for a simple video chat verification and was denied.  

What he actually said was "So...before that happens, we would need to have a few actual conversations and video chats--please note that i am not saying sessions, but rather talks.  We could do that here or on skype--which do You prefer?"

I told him neither and moved on.  

For the few on here that can can read and comprehend I will explain.

First, this is not a hobby of mine and certainly not any kind of money maker.  I never ask for a dime.  However I do require something from you that will cost you money.  Beyond a few conversations through the site I do not offer anything else until you show up for an in-person interview.  

I understand that there are those on here who scam, yet I know of no scam that simply requires a visit.  Should I want you to visit so I can rob or hurt you there are things that I would promise in my profile that aren't offered - sex being able the main one.  My profile is too conservative to be a lure, I don't ask for payment or any other thing that benefits me and I don't ask you to make travel arrangements through me nor do I own a hotel so I am not benefitting from that either.

What has happened is that dozens of men have expressed interest and their only "requirement" has been getting to know each other through phone or video
chats.  The video chats aren't happening because I guard my identity fiercely.  This is one of the reasons I don't send pictures.  The other reason is that if my looks play into this at all you are using me as fantasy material not actually looking for someone to serve.  The phone conversations do not happen because they are time wasters (proven in the over 17 years I have been on this site).  I have had men visit following my rules and have never had one person follow through that I have talked to on the phone.  I have a hard time keeping in touch with friends and family - I am not burning precious hours with slave wannabes.

I will not be what 99.9% of you seek.  I realize that and I am fine with it.  My profiles are the only ones of their type on here (lovingbutfirm, parent4u, stabletrainer and needlehunter).  I have progressed and expanded during my time here and yet always stayed true to my core principals and that will never change.

If you are not willing to meet based on what is in my profiles and my personal messages you are the 99.9 and not who I am looking for.  I know what I seek is rare.  If you want what I don't offer it just means we aren't compatible.

I may die never having a slave and I am fine with that.  My life will be full and complete no matter what yet if you truly want to serve I can guarantee you that I offer a life unlike what you can experience anywhere else.




1/1/2016 9:32:53 PM:
Someone came up with a profile stablerudest - apparently I didn't jump through enough hoops to satisfy a whiner, lol. I would assume people could tell it is a fake but if you can't - now you know. Bless his heart - he got his feelings hurt and had to pout. The funny thing is I have no clue who he is. I get dozens of messages and I weed through people pretty quickly and some of that is my deleting messages without responding - if you are obviously not what I am looking for or send me dumb stuff I don't answer. For any that thinks that means I don't want a slave - you are right - I would rather not have anyone than have someone who doesn't share my values and goals. Later hater, lol

6/22/2011 6:16:12 PM:

I have not journalled in a long time.  Probably because I doubt CollarMe is ever going to match me with someone compatible. 

 

I don't know of a better vehicle to use to get where I want to go so while I understand I am different from many of the others on this site (not interested in a sex outside marriage relationship or a live-in) I stay here hoping someone also different from most on this site shows up (and I am not putting others' choices down just acknowledging we do not share the same beliefs or methods). 

 

So to amuse myself while I wait for slave Charming to appear I amuse myself by studying people's profiles.  Now don't think everytime I view a profile I am only seeking to make fun of people, because that isn't the case.  But at least one out of every three profiles makes me go - "seriously." 

 

So I was reading profiles the other night (hoping to find that special slave or slaves) and realized almost every profile mentioned "fake".  According to many this website is just a bunch of fakes.  I find people misrepresent themselves a lot, and I know most people aren't interested in a situation like mine (so when you send messages pointing out what I want is not the norm - hello, I knew that when I wrote my profile - that is why I put it in there.  If what I wanted was the norm - I would say "looking for just any normal slave" - just saying).  But what is a fake?  A fake diamond means it isn't a real diamond.  A fake or counterfeit bill means it isn't really money.  Both a diamond and money are easily defined and identified by people who know what they are doing.  So if I say you are a fake slave or you say I am a fake Domme then we are saying the other person isn't real.

 

But I am real.  I breathe, I eat, I feel, I sweat . . . you get the idea.  And I usually assume if you can type on a computer that you are real.  Of course to use my analogy of the diamond or the money we can also say a fake has no value.  But I do have value to someone and you also have value to someone. 

 

The issue is that you can't put a definate definition or description on either slave nor Owner.  You can't be a slave like they were in the South before the Civil War - those people were enslaved against their will.  I can't own you like they did during that time either.  It is not acceptable in our culture to enslave people.  I can't take you out to the farm, make you live in the barn and make you work like crazy growing and harvesting a crop that will make me enough money to pay for what it costs to have you.  There are better ways to grow and harvest crops and what it costs to keep you is much higher than it was "back in the day".

 

BDSM as far as I know has its roots in a sexual movement.  It is an alternate lifestyle.  There is no black and white - it is all in shades of gray.  One slave or submissive (and I would so give him credit if I could remember who it was) had the most honest profile I have read - he said here is a list of kinks or my wants and I want to see which ones you will accomodate. 

 

That is exactly what happens - people on both sides of the coin have expectations, desires, talents, skills, abilities, resources and they have to try to match those up with the other side.  So if you don't want to be a slave the way I want a slave - it doesn't make you a "fake".  By the same token (pun intended) if I don't want to express being an Owner the way you think I should - it doesn't make me a "fake" - it simply means we are not going to accomodate each other. 

 

 

5/13/2010 7:45:56 AM:
Yeah, it's been awhile since I have "blogged" on here.  So now I have two seperate issues to vent.

First, Collarme is on my nerves.  I know technology is challenging and it is impossible for a website to be perfect but it seems like the glitches are increasing.  First I have a couple of profiles - two seperate interests and it seems better to keep them seperate (one for mentoring/reparenting and one for slave ownership), but I am honest about having both profiles and share that with people when they show an interest.  At least three times the people can't find the profile.  So I look like a fake when it is a glitch.  Now that I know it happens I can warn them and tell them to tell me if they can't find it and I will send them a message from that profile.

The latest glitch is not new to me but it just happened to me personally.  I knew that sometimes Collarme shows a woman profile as a man.  I had a lady interested in meeting me for reparenting and half the message she sent to me showed her as a submissive female and half of them started showing up as a submissive male.  I was annoyed when I first saw it and thought she/he/it was playing games - but I gave her the benefit of the doubt and when I met her she is all woman and wasn't doing anything to change her profile.  Well now my messages are doing that in someone else's box and it made her mad.  I don't blame her.  On a site with more deceptive people that genuine ones I can see how that would raise a red flag.

Now on to my second vent.  It cracks me up when someone with no experience doesn't like how I describe how I do things and then has the nerve to tell me that I don't know what I am doing.  The last person told me that I don't have enough details to be real.  I was honest with her.  Each relationship is different because each person is different.  There are a few very basic things that do not change no matter what but other than that it really depends on where the person I am disciplining is in his/her life and what we are working on. 

How is it I have eleven years of experience doing what I do and yet a "newbie" tells me I don't do things right.  Tell me you don't agree with what I say, but don't tell me I am not right.  The whole concept of "right" in this lifestyle cracks me up.  We have an interest in an alternate lifestyle but then we want to govern how people do the alternate lifestyle?  How is that freedom?

I am annoyed with Collarme over the goof up, but the language the person used when responding is enough to let me know that she isn't someone I would be interested in working with anyway.  But I hope Collarme straightens up so that if a truly quality person does come along that he/she won't be run off for Collarme making it look like I can't decide if I am a woman or a man.  I know that I am a woman - now Collarme just needs to reflect that - lol.

4/18/2010 8:26:18 PM:
Today's journal is about planoslaveboy.  Watch out for him dominant women - he is just another liar who pretends to want to serve under any conditions and then gets rude when he doesn't get what he wants.

We had many pleasant chats - he wanted to proceed through the process quickly.  AFTER he commits to come visit with no strings or conditions attached he then wants to do cam.  I shared a picture with him - he knows what I look like.  But he wants to chat more and talk on cam.  He's had weeks to "talk" and didn't have any reservations or concerns.

So he thinks he has me all buttered up and we will cyber for a week and then he won't come anyway. 

Here is a clue losers - eventually you get found out and all your insults and babyish acts when you don't get your way just proves that you are not worth messing with.  Your hateful words and insults say far more about you than me.  It's amazing how I am beautiful when a guy is trying to be impressive and then not good enough, fat or ugly when I maintain the same boundaries I was always honest about.  Go figure. 

I am actually thankful to be done with him - I always felt he was "too good to be true" and was a waste of time and now I have that confirmed.