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I'm an older dom. I've been active in the local scene here in Madison for quite some time. My main social activity in the local scene is going to fetish and play nights at The Inferno, a dark and friendly goth club where creatures of the night can enjoy each others' company and be who we are among our own kind. I've been going there for nearly 10 years now and have sort of become part of the decor. (I'm the guy who usually wears a tux and carries a riding crop). Every now and again I attend meetings of Satyricon, an educational discussion group. But that scene is a little on the tame side and very couples heavy so I don't go there often.
My play style ranges from soft/romantic to the intense and kinky pain/pleasure thing. My favorite toys are a variety of spanking implements (leather belt, hair brush, ruler, wooden spoon, and riding crop - so far) and some additional kinky evil toys partcularly useful for pussy play. My overall style of play is dark/erotic - the pain thing being a means to arousing my partner and bringing her to climax. Multiple times, if possible.
Aside from BDSM, most of the rest of my social life is in the swing/lindy hop dance scene. I try to get out there dancing at least once a week and attend workshop weekends and national/regional get togethers as often as I can. I also DJ a dance about 6 times a year. So I'm pretty much into swing jazz and have an extensive collection of CDs and downloaded tracks. I'm also a film fanatic (used to book, promote and show movies at the local university some years back). And I have always had an interest in travel, particularly by train.
Professionally, my background is in theater, radio-tv-film, education and interactive media. Currently I am in training for a new career in event & meeting management.
My ideal person:
As to who I am looking for, I might as well admit i have a long history of dating younger (adult) women. A large part of this is that the majority of my social circle (at The Inferno and swing/lindy dance events) is a lot younger than I am. But I'd be lying if I said that I don't find young ladies attractive and don't enjoy the intellectual interplay and give and take that always happens whenever two people from different generations are in an intimate/romantic relationship.
At the same time, I have no upper age limit - it's mostly a matter of mutual synchrony of attitude and mindset, combined with mutual interests. (Along with all the other usual things we all take into consideration when looking for a good match.)
Things work out best for me if my partner is intelligent, a good conversationalist, has a good sense of humor, enjoys being a lady in public and has enough of a dirty mind, sex drive and wicked kinky imagination to be a lot of fun when the moment arises. An interest in occasional play in a secluded place out in the woods when the weather is right is a plus.
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