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Female Submissive, 41, Atlanta, Georgia
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Female Submissive, 28, Atlanta, Georgia
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About FREE2gr8Domina
Service slave longing to belong to a strict Goddess who enjoys training, humiliating, hugging, nurturing, laughing, and pushing limits. A Woman who kisses softly and whips mercilessly (although, canning is fine; I'm sensitive and not a heavy masochist). A strong Goddess who needs and can effectually form a Total Power Exchange/Female Led Relationship with me. A stern Goddess who revels in continually pushing me to deeper levels of trust in her and heightened levels of service to her. A confident Goddess, who embraces her superiority and authority within the relationship, and loves training me to act in ways that please her... often, the subtlest of ways because the sincerity of service can often be seen in the details. Further, a Better half to entrust with everything. To surrender to. And subsequently, to learn to follow her protocols with precision, and to endlessly improve upon my responsiveness to her subtlest direction, as well as my capacity to subjugate myself, without respite, to her demands. One whom I continually crave, more.... and more... and more... to make happy and proud of me.
While describing what a gift control is and how symbiotic a D/s dynamic can be is simple, nothing has been more challenging than finding a Goddess to serve and make proud for the rest of my life. I envision being in a D/s relationship in which the connection is so strong it actualizes a deep, abiding, purpose for my life (i.e., pleasing my Goddess). Simply, I'm not capable of going through life with only a vanilla connection (indeed, past efforts at such have proven as much to me). I feel it in the pit of my stomach: I need to worship, adore, pamper, and please a true Goddess. I'm capable of functioning well in vanilla contexts; but even those would infinitely improve if there were a D/s undercurrent: a powerful subtext that continually forces me to remember that I am owned, that I must remain focused on my Goddess, and that whenever she snaps or points her fingers, I must obey her--whether vanilla onlookers notice or question my seemingly silly or over-the-top behavior, or not.
Many people hope for a ring on their finger. I crave a collar around my neck and, eventually, to be marked as owned property. Indeed, such acts would signify the most extraordinary connection possible, not because of the physical control that collars, chastity, and the like provide, but rather because of how they reify my complete trust in my Goddess and explicate my eternal surrender to her. Another (hopefully not too whimsical) way of stating it would be, my true self belongs to another. I cannot fully know who I am until my Goddess makes me into what I must be... for her and for me. And upon receiving restrictive devices, rules, and protocols, how I will cling to them as emblematic of what I really am; and how I will adore my Goddess who gives my life purpose and who saved me from never knowing myself and with whom I derive the strength to be more than I ever imagined. So if You know who I am--as I never could, without You--please help.
Put differently, I yearn for an Owner Who loves and needs control. A Superior Goddess Who will accept nothing less than complete control of every aspect of my life in a level 4+ FLR. While You may or may not micromanage everything, You always reserve the right to. Not because I’m incapable of making decisions, but rather, so W/we both know and feel that You have absolute power over me–and I need it that way (and look forward to being used to it that way). More than anything, I need to feel your superiority–and by extension, in inferiority. I long to be in permanent chastity, given regular discipline, restrained and/or caged regularly, and reminded of my place beneath You. However, this isn’t the result of a humiliation kink. It arises from my need to be humbled by You. To know, without question, that You are Superior in every way. To embrace the fact that my only pleasure comes from pleasing You. Not. Physical. To be reminded of the truth: that You are a Superior Goddess Who deserves reverence and selfless servitude. While I am an inferior slave that is lucky to have the honour of worshiping and being owned by a such a Powerful Goddess. And I should be eternally grateful to You, for forcing me to face how inadequate and incapable I am of ever pleasing You the way You deserve. Thus I would love–and need–the degradations You heap upon me, as they are actually truths I must embrace. These reminders may also allow me to appreciate how special it is, and how unimaginably fortunate I am, that such an otherworldly Goddess keeps me in Her service.
In other news, I can be fun and playful, but I'm never disrespectful. I'm an excellent cook, a good housekeeper, and a wonderful manicurist. Also, I fully embrace the fact that menial tasks are not for Goddesses. They are for slaves. So, I will quickly learn how to anticipate Your needs, while attending to myriad little things which are beneath You... and I'm always ready for You to inspect my work (and embrace getting punished to refocus my attention on You and to remind me that not meeting Your unimaginably high standards is unacceptable).
Finally, I always strive to be as open and honest as possible. Clearly, social norms dictate that I should not yearn for the type of D/s bond I do. Many fantasies and perversities can be embarrassing and difficult to voice. However, I know that the ultimate goal is complete trust, so You will always have a slave who is forthright about its imperfections, mistakes, and desires.
Thank-You very very much for reading this.
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You Are A Category All On Your Own:
Thus far in my search, i've seen many Dommes refer to themselves as real. i've yet to read any profiles in which Dommes claimed not to be real; however, i usually take "real" to mean that You have encountered fake sub/slaves--in which case i'm somewhat reassured (i.e., since real is relative, i know You're more willing to move a D/s relationship past internet correspondence than most).
Of those Dommes who are real, there are two main varieties (of course i don't mean to oversimplify Dommes, it's just the best way i can articulate my thoughts on my experience): those who want to dominate and be in control of their partners, and those who need and refuse to accept anything less than complete control over their slaves. Both groups represent extraordinary Women. The former is more common, but the latter represents the type of Domme to whom i need to belong. Indeed, given how undeniably cognitive ownership is for me, i need a Domme who demands slavery... who thrives on control... who feeds off Her slave's mental response to Her authority.
i recognize how uncommon Dommes who need slaves are, but i am beset by how powerful and awesome such Dommes are. It can't be easy to assume total control over another. You must possess extraordinary competence, perception, dependability, confidence, and strength (perhaps that's why You're so rare). You are truly the most extraordinary beings in existence, though. To not only control, but also subsume another's consciousness so that's it's attuned and obedient to Yours... to satiate Your sadistic desires with the right balance of selfishness and responsiveness that it drives Your slave further into slavery... to dangle Your satisfaction with Your slave's service in front of Your slave just right, so that he not only modifies his behavior, but is honored to do so... to be able to take an intelligent, thoughtful person--such as myself--and condition him to respond to You without thinking... Wow! i mean, wow! Just.
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The Humanization of Humiliation
So many "men" feel they must appear strong and be respected by others. Many even threaten physical violence if another person insults or humiliates them. They fear being perceived as weak and not being accepted by others. Perhaps that's why so many misunderstand humiliation within a D/s context.
Being humiliated as a slave may entail any number of acts--verbal and physical. Obviously, it can be powerful and erotic, subtle or overt. It can strengthen the bond between a Mistress and Her slave, and reify Her ownership. i love that. However, it can also help the slave let go of the dignity so many are terrified of losing--or appearing to have lost. It can provide a context within which a slave may be degraded, objectified, and debased. One in which he may comprehend the depths of humanity and apprehend his own humanity. One in which he is free to appear worthless.... to be vulnerable... to expose who he is: someone desperate for and lost without a powerful Mistress who will use him, push him, understand him, and embrace him without--and especially without--his dignity. Humiliation may not be for everyone, but it's unfortunate so many believe it's dehumanizing because of how it looks and sounds. In actuality, it can be precisely the opposite: humanizing. i need that. |
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Submissive versus slave
Many people have submitted definitions of and distinctions between the terms "submissive" and "slave." In most nations, however, slavery is illegal, so it becomes a question of consciousness and the underpinnings of connections between people engaged in D/s relationships. For me, the most succinctly i can differentiate the two terms, and articulate the type of slavery i long for is as such: submissives submit to the will of others, slaves surrender their own will. |
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One aspect of this site that has surprised me is how similar it is to the "vanilla" world. Perhaps I shouldn't be very surprised... but I am. What has taken me aback the most is the social dynamic here. Most of the message I've received have been from younger women that fit nicely into the commonplace social milieu of good-looking. Not that there's anything wrong with being young or with having air-brushed pictures. For me, the issue is when confidence derives from perceived attractiveness. I'm captivated by Dominas that, instead, derive their attractiveness from their confidence. I tend to be drawn to Dominas who are older than me and who have curves.
Obviously the mental connection is the most essential. So, I don't want to oversimplify what I'm attracted to in terms of size, shape, or age. What I will say is that I'm enchanted by maturity, not age per se. Most younger Dommes don't know what they want and have difficulty controlling themselves--let alone a slave. And, I know that trust can develop better when I know that my Domina not only knows Herself well, but also, that She has thought long and hard about what She truly wants and has come to the conclusion that She needs a slave to serve Her. Similarly, it may not be curves, themselves, that mesmerise me, but rather the brashness and sexiness of a Domina who knows how to use Her curves to tease, tantalize, and control me. |
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My interest is You!
I write that to explicate the ephemeral and malleable nature of my "interests" - most especially the kink-related ones. Essentially, my only real aspiration is to please You (my future Queen). And, as such, interests can change and the allure of various kinks can grow - depending on how much You like them. In the end, my goal is to experience pleasure vicariously, and to go as deep into slavery as You can take me. If, for example, You enjoy using me as a footrest, then my affinity for being obedient in such a manner would surge every single time I curled up in front of You. Often I desire intellectual stimulation. So, being caged or sitting quietly as a footrest could seem a bit monotonous. Nevertheless, I know that I would learn to long for the feeling of Your feet on my back/face/or wherever. I also know that, eventually, I would feel every micro-movement of Your feet on me, and I would develop remarkably subtle ways of enhancing the experience for You - and maximizing Your comfort. Additionally, I would develop immense pride in being Your footrest, as well as my ability to make You feel like the Goddess You are. So, ultimately, that is the extent of Your control over me: that, through Your demandingness and sheer Goddessness, You can change me.
At present, do certain perversities have more intrigue than others? Of course! And, admittedly, most of mine revolve around being treated like property and being abused in ways that many people would find very humiliating. However, I know that the allure only exists because, within my consciousness, such acts have become emblematic of being under the control of an astonishing powerful Domina. And, I know that the real intrigue is the feeling of submission that I feel when being utterly dominated... and the remarkable way that (of all things) trust can emerge from such a connection. |
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