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About FlrCandidate
I seek a Female Led Relationship and am prepared to devote myself to the Lady who seeks the same.
A monogamous, Ds FLR that encompasses structure and discipline if necessary.
I hope to find a Lady who is mature, assertive, intelligent and knowledgeable. Age, race, size or weight are not important as that essential chemistry.
I dont wish to bore you with endless words here but I am more than happy to answer any questions you may have.
Devotee
Why It Is Wise to Worship a Woman (I read this and it touched a nerve)
By Arunja Ardagh 2012
I have had many many great teachers in my life. A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep in my bed.
07292010 0612 am ET Updated Apr 26, 2012
A few days ago, after a particularly exquisite evening with my wife Chameli, I put this post up on Facebook before going to bed
I have had many, many great teachers in my life. A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep in the bedroom. My marriage has become the guru, the salvation, the muse, the crack through which the divine shines through.
When I woke up the next morning, there were the usual offerings of people who liked the post as well as comments. One man had the vulnerability and courage to post this on facebook
Thank you Arjuna for this sharing, I feel like Im in front of a choice which is between feeling envious of what you have and I dont, or instead to decide that I want that too, and, as you show, it is possible...
I was touched.
Over the next days, I got several more messages like this from men vulnerable men, honest men, rare and courageous men. They came in as private messages on Facebook or through our website, and they all said basically the same thing
I read your Facebook post. I want what you have. Show me how to get it.
So, friends, here it is. The short guide on how to worship a woman, and why its the wisest thing that a man can do. First of all, lets pop a few very understandable doubts that you might have. Im familiar with all of them.
1. Im wounded and damaged in my relationships to the feminine.
So am I, dear brother, so am I. My parents divorced in a messy way when I was four. I grew up alone with my mother. She did her very best to provide for me, but she was unhappy and insecure. By the time I started to have relationships with women myself in my early teens, I discovered that I had a mountain of resentments, fears, and separation in my relation to the feminine. The conscious practice of worship can become a part of healing the wounds.
2. Arjuna, youre lucky. Youve got an incredible partner. Im together with a woman whos not like Chameli.
I really dont have the ultimate answer to that doubt or question. It certainly could seem to be the case that Ive been lucky in finding a great woman, but heres how it happened for me. Ive had a lot of less lucky connections in my life. Ive experienced my share of the manipulative side of the feminine the victim, the rageful, the vengeful. And I have seen the ugly side of the masculine psyche in myself. A few weeks prior to meeting Chameli, my wife, something deep and profound shifted in me, which I believe can shift for anyone in the same way.
3. I dont have a partner at all, and I sometimes doubt if Ill ever meet anybody.
Being with a partner where worship is not flowing, or not being with a partner at all, are basically two aspects of the same situation youve had an intuition or a glimpse of the possibilities of a deeper love, and you want more of it. The solutions are the same.
4. I feel my heart is closed down. I live in my head a lot, and I wouldnt even know what worship was if it broke into my house at 2 oclock in the morning and held me at gunpoint.
Thats where the whole thing starts for all of us, when we realize that we dont yet know how to love. And thats that the big question that you have to consider Is that okay with me? Never mind how much money you make, or how many friends you have on Facebook, no matter how nice a house you live in, or no matter how big a car you drive, no matter how impressive your partners bust size, or how much you meditate and become spiritual... have you loved for real, in a total and undefended way? If not, and heres where you have to be honest with yourself, is that OK with you? Is it OK to die one day without the hearts gift having been fully given?
Eight or nine years ago, I came to that question in myself, exactly that, and I discovered that the answer was, if I was was raw and vulnerable and uncomplicated, that it was actually not OK. If I died one day without having fully loved, it would not have truly been a life well lived.
Many many years ago, I went to Bali for a vacation, on my own. I met up with some other young travelers there and we hired a Jeep to take us on a tour of the island. We drove up right to the highest point of the island, where Tourists dont usually go. Our guide took us to one of the most sacred temples. It was surrounded by a big brick wall with an ornate entrance. After removing our shoes and wrapping scarves around our heads, we stepped together through this entrance. Inside, there was a short courtyard and then another brick wall with another entrance. After more preparations of lighting incense and giving offerings, we stepped through the second entrance. We were allowed to go through the opening in one more wall, but that was it. All together there were ten walls around the deity in the middle. Hindus could go beyond the fourth wall. Devotees of that particular deity could go beyond the fifth wall, and so it went on. The only people allowed to approach the deity directly were those who had given their lives completely and totally to its worship. Everyone else could come a little closer, a little closer, to the innermost beauty, but not all the way to the center.
Im not a big believer of the worship of statues, but theres a beautiful symbolism to what I saw there, because a womans heart is just like that. At the essence of every womans heart is the divine feminine. It contains everything that has ever been beautiful, or lovely, or inspiring, in any woman, anywhere, at any time. The very essence of every womans heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of inspiration, the peak of sexual desirability, the peak of soothing, healing love. The peak of everything. But its protected, for good reason, by a series of concentric walls. To move inwardly from one wall to the next requires that you intensify your capacity to devotion, and as you do so, you are rewarded with Grace. This is not something you can negotiate verbally with a woman. She doesnt even know consciously how to open those gates herself. They are opened magically and invisibly by the keys of worship.
If you stand on the outside of the outermost wall, all you have available to you, like many other unfortunate men, is pornography. For 1.99 a minute, you can see her breasts, maybe her vagina, and you can stimulate yourself in a sad longing for deeper love.
Step through another gate, and she will show you her outer gift-wrapping. Shell look at you with a certain twinkle in her eye. Shell answer your questions coyly. Shell give you just the faintest hint that there is more available.
Step through another gate with your commitment, with your attention, with the small seedlings of devotion, and shell open her heart to you more. Shell share with you her insecurities, the way that shes been hurt, her deepest longings. Some men will back away at this point. They realize that the price they must pay to go deeper is more than they are willing to give. They start to feel a responsibility. But for those few who step though another gate, they come to discover he |
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