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Male Dominant, 42, Portland, Oregon
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Male Dominant, 48, wichita, Kansas
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About firmhand4sub
I’m a retired engineer/group/project manager, devoted single father and a natural Dom. I’m tall, confident, self secure, open minded, physically fit, mentally alert, passionate and primal. My dark side has been expanding for decades, My Dominant character was forged early in life. I know what I expect from a submissive and am FIRM with those expectations. I’ve been in the lifestyle for over 25 years and have had the pleasure of engaging in various forms of play and relationships. Each relationship is different as each sub is unique and special in her own way. I respect a sub who understands the dynamics of true power exchange.
I have often engaged in/used age play (Daddy/daughter), humiliation, blindfolds, sensation play, sensory deprivation, bondage, caging, gags, flogging, rope, leather restraints, physical exams, exhibitionism, gangbangs, rough primal sex, spankings, orgasm control, fisting, collar and leash, mind fucks, suspension, photo shoots and more. I keep an equipped dungeon with a bondage/suspension bed, cage and spanking bench. I also enjoy integrating music, lighting and other effects during My scenes.
I’ve designed and built several pieces of BDSM furniture and equipment including a king size bondage/suspension bed. I enjoy collaborating with others on equipment design and implementation and am always happy to help friends build their own.
My scenes are usually individualized and unique, tailored to the interests and needs of the sub. I enjoy using the knowledge and power exchanged to push her buttons, tease her sexually and control the scene in such a way that gets her off with intensity. I’m always open to exploring other new areas of kink. In fact I get bored without new areas to explore so I’m always looking for new ways to expand and create.
“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” Lao Tzu |
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The Power Exchange of Love
Love is Power.
It takes strength and courage to open your heart to love. Love makes us venerable to others. To give someone else the power to hurt you so deeply at your core is the most intimate form of power exchange. When we truly love another we give them this most intimate power. The gift of love comes with power, one cannot separate the power from the love; they are intertwined. Few truly realize how much power they have been given by those that love them. Love is the ultimate form of power exchange. I believe Lao Tzu understood this concept well when he wrote: “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
This ultimate form of power exchange can often end in disaster as hearts are broken and lives changed. So why do we give away this power even when the risks are high? Exchanging the power of love builds our strength in our power to love, and we use this power to build the character of those we cherish now and in the future. We don’t stop loving because of the risks, without risk there is no life and without life there is no love. |
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In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of all Dominants. He loves His little girl with an undying passion. He always has his submissive's best interest in mind, even when it conflicts with his own personal desires. That doesn't mean that he gives into her every whim. There can be a huge difference in her desires and her real needs. He has to be able to make that sacrifice for her if needed. And yes, at times he does punish her. This usually hurts him just as much if not more than her, but he will always do what's best for her.
He helps her set and reach her goals in life, not just in the lifestyle, but in all aspects of her life. He helps her improve herself to be the best she can be, not for HIM but for her! He's not just looking to make her a better submissive, but a better person in general.
He becomes many things in her life, a mentor, a teacher, a protector, a guide, and a lover! He offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. He is consistent in his actions so that she knows what to expect from him, she knows she can depend on him!
He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing all along that he can't, it is up to him to prepare her for whatever life may through her way and be there to comfort her when things go wrong knowing she will run to him when she becomes overwhelmed or frightened by the harshness of life. The Daddy Dom will listen to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to him, to her they are real and he will help her confront them.
The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams, desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves him enough to open herself up so totally to him. He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and he loves her unconditionally.
There is nothing more satisfying to him than to see her succeed, to watch as she grows as a person. He revels in her daily accomplishments almost as much as she does herself. He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself he will whisper encouraging words for her. When she feels ugly he will reassure her how beautiful she is to him, when she is scared he will be her safety net, her medium against the world if need be. she is His pride and joy ... his main comfort in life ... his reason for living. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way he cares for her, she is the one that puts the twinkle in his eye! Even though she is all woman, she is his little girl and he is her Daddy!
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I usually don't post in my Journal, but today I found a profile that I was very impressed with.? In her journal subtlepractices posted the phrase "I do not guard my emotions because that is a limit which precludes intimacy" ? I found her statement to be very profound and true.? Thank you subtlepractices for sharing that. ?
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