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I seek a really good relationship which is uncomplicated, but not vacuous. I am looking for someone SINGLE, like me, around my own age who owns a toy bag which includes more than vibes, at least one flogger or five :)

I have a sense of humour, sometimes black and dry, but I can embrace the silly. That being said, I have been involved in BDSM for 15 years now and have experienced and enjoyed many wonderful moments. Although I was once very involved in the public scene, it does not interest me much anymore. Nor does a lot pf posturing and demands before we meet and feel a connection. In other words, you are not Sir until I call you so.

I seek someone I can talk to beyond the BDSM world. I have many interests and passions and love to talk about most things, except sports. I read a lot and follow current affairs both locally and internationally.

Please be more interested in a relationship with "play" than in just a "play relationship."
Intimate relationships involve the brain more than just the body. I seek total engagement. I want to be with someone with whom I can share the joys of the world beyond the bedroom. I want to be with someone with whom I can talk about things beyond His or my orgasms and sexual desires. I want to be with someone who does not believe all the energy in first establishing a relationship must come from me, however that works. I want to be with someone who does not feel that spending time with me getting to know me, is a waste of his valuable time and libido.

I am interested in meeting sooner rather than later to see if the attraction is there for both of us, on both the physical and mental levels. I have been online for quite a while, on and off, and notice that many Doms here seem to have attained an ability to never age and remain 55 or under forever. It seems that 55 is the magic number not to surpass. I am 57 and quite happy to be so. I work out, am active and engaged. What I offer is a good companion who is smart, funny, attentive and kinky. I can be both an intellectual equal and a good submissive. I am financially and emotionally stable, work professionally full time and seek a man to whom I would feel proud to submit. I am an excellent cook and love to entertain, am social but also love my down times. I am far from perfect, but I am real and not a time waster. Peter Pans need not apply.

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7/13/2011 11:52:01 PM

Life got totally crazy in the last month. I want to apologize to all I have talked to and the few that I was going to meet. Every time I thought I was going to be free and easy, another shoe dropped.


8/18/2009 2:12:16 PM
Just as I went to update my journal, I got the notice that audio/visual journals garner the most interest. AAAh well, I am happy to talk to the literate. It still amazes me how many people focus on the sexual aspects of me, and yet claim to want someone intelligent and classy......oh well

7/18/2009 9:14:04 PM
I have men and women in my search criteria. I am kind of curious about so called Dommes wanting tributes........why not lay it on the line, and just say Sugar Daddy.

As a female submissive, who is financially secure, I sure as hell wouldn't respond to a Dom who wanted money or even less overtly, to have me support him.

Why would Dommes think it's okay to demand financial remuneration? I feel for male subs.....probably the most difficult thing to be in this world we call ours, but those ladies who want money are not Dommes, they are akin to mercernaries. They are not real, just like the Doms who want to control one over the net.....yeesh

4/29/2009 6:44:06 PM
I see other journals, and I have to think, wtf?

A lot are really scary, are these women for real? No Limits? What about death and impailing? There is an incredibly fantastic romanticism happening on both ends of the whip. No limit sub wanted? What about the sub who is totally Fatally Attraction-esque?

Get a grip

12/31/2008 11:36:05 AM
Wow, I've read back my messages and I seem to take myself on and off the table pretty regularly.

I guess it's game on again!

6/30/2008 9:54:29 AM
Well, I am actively looking again, got a taste of what a good relationship can be and, although it didn't work out, it made me realize how much I miss the spending time with someone you like who also shares your kink and you can be totally open with.

I think I tend to let down my guard too soon, and care too much. However, the alternative is not something I want to become....untrusting, too careful.

This time I broke one of my own rules......it kind of boggles my mind that I sometimes throw out good sense, but then that's part of who I am and I am not totally willing to always hide on the side of too careful.....no risk, no gain in matters of the heart. Being open to love means being open to hurt as well.....a risk worth taking, I think



12/24/2007 1:57:02 PM
Well, it's been a helluva fall, professionally anyway. I teach now, but I don't think I have been as stretched time wise or work wise since I gave up my business 14 years ago. I suppose I could just stick to the basics but my entrepreneurial spirit hasn't totally gone so I have been expanding and building my program/business I run at the school.

As a result, I haven't really been looking for a capital R relationship. However, that seems to cause some confusion as I have been unable to meet someone who wants to take the time to meet before play. I can assure you that I am no prude, and have had my share of those exciting meet and play sessions. Maybe because I have experienced those, they no longer hold the same appeal.

So, I guess what I am looking for is a comfortable friendship that involves both good conversation and great play. Finding play is dead easy, it's the friend part that seems difficult and I just don't want to compromise on one for the other. As a result, I have been celibate for almost eight months....a near record for me :) I know that there are many marrieds and attacheds who might be able to fill the void, the problem is that with our busy lives, it's hard enough to find the time without having to factor in another person, and that's quite apart from my moral issues with that.

3/5/2007 5:16:10 PM
When I look back at where I was, when I first took that first step....actually, I was drawn in, almost without knowing, I can't quite believe the journey I have taken.

I'm of an age, where professionally I had to fight for every position I had, because I was a woman. I was refused a position in a three star kitchen because "women caused problems in the kitchen" Mind you, I was hired by the same chef 2 years later because his g/f and business partner said I was really good. I can actually remember buying the first issue of Ms, and thinking.....aaah yes.

It was a battle, 23 or so years later, to acknowledge my submissive tendencies, and a huge battle to accept that they were okay. But I did, and the joy my submission gives me, the sexual freedom it allows me, is something I would never have discovered if I held onto that control. I'm still smart, I'm still a smart mouthed bitch, and I still like to rock the boat sometimes, but I love it when I can let go and just be His.

12/29/2006 4:12:58 AM
I'm not sure that one can be a strong woman and yet deeply submit, and at the same time totally maintain one's equilibrum, at least not in my experience. Certainly I can separate my work life, my family life from my submissive life, but in that submissive role, the self-sufficient person I am daily seems to disintegrate. It's a wonderful experience to become so vulnerable, and yet scary. I find I have a need for aftercare, not immediately after a play session but two or three days after, without that, I become unsure and suffer really bad sub drop.Aftercare for me is a time of reassurance, a touching base, a simple conversation that lets me know it's all good. It builds trust and shows caring, it allows the walls that have come down, to go back up against the world. It allows the walls that have come down for Him, to fall even more the next time. It shows that He can be trusted with not only my body but especially my mind and vulnerability.

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inHiding
 
 Age: 27
 PITTSBURGH, Pennsylvania