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	About Fatherfigr Update! I've met a wonderful masochist here on Collar me. (Yes...it can happen here if you're cautious, honest and don't give up.) I'm very happy with her, and we're exploring who we are as dom and masochist. I wish every honest person here the same luck I've had. I am not looking for anything/one else, but will to continue to chat with subs so I can learn new fantasies for us to try. Original profile. Hello, I'm a warm, loving, dominate man in search of a submissive girl for a long term relationship. I am fairly tall, 6'1", relatively thin 190 lbs and have a kind face and a warm sense of humor. I work as freelance computer graphics artist in the entertainment industry in Hollywood. I'm highly educated and love learning new things. Most people describe me as a nice guy and smile after they've talked to me a while. This hides the fact that I am dominant. I like to spank little girls but then again I'm not abusive. I want to be in complete control in the bedroom, but I don't need to control every aspect of a woman's life. I'm looking for a girl who is naturally submissive and wants to please and be disciplined by her master/Daddy dom. She is someone who is playful, loving, creative and loves to laugh and tease. She should be someone who enjoys roleplay and has love for or interest in corsets. Among the preferences you can select here are "fifties household" and "Victorian household" or "Serving as a Maid". These intrigue me. Please be single, height/width proportional or reasonably close to it and younger than I am. If you're not certain this profile is what you looking for, why not write and find out? After all what's the worst that can happen? Regardless good luck on your search. I hope you find what you are looking for. PS I have not posted A picture because my job is somewhat high profile. If you'd like to see one, just let me know. I know its not a commitment on you part to ask.

I have to make an observation. There are hundreds of girls posting profile pictures on this site from all over the world. So how come so few of you smile? Many of them frown or flip off the camera instead. Does that sound like someone you would want to date?

Also: why is a shot of a woman spread wide open any different than a penis shot? What do you have left once you've shown everything? Keep some allure, ladies. Keep some mystery.

And for heaven's sakes SMILE for the camera!

I've found that only the hair brush seems to be effective. Hand spankings are just a good warm up. :(

I prefer more control.

On the plus side, our relationship is much better than I could possible hoped for on line. Judging by what I see here, I got really lucky. We'll work out all the bumps along the way I'm sure

So I was wondering from all you ladies out there...what's you favorite implement? Do you prefer the "deep tissue" approach of the flogger or paddle or perhaps and old fashioned belt?

And the converse as well. What is you least favorite implement?

I was in Egypt a number of years ago. yesterday I just saw Part of the History Museum trashed. I wooden boat I was impressed with was broken. I hope everyone I knew there is okay.

I was talking to a good friend I met here about BDSM about after care. Apparently, it's quite a problem with most Doms.

For me, it comes naturally. You see I love girls. I love running my hands over your skin; holding you tight against me. I love hearing you breath and the feel of your hair in my hands.

That's always been my contradiction. I adore women, but I want to be in control and feel corporal punishment is required in any loving relationship. A women need to know where she stands and what her limits are.

But it's just as important she knows she is loved. I've always found a contradiction in the two parts of myself, but as I live longer, I learn that, that is what most women are looking for. More so for the after care and love.

There is a movie called "Ladyhawke" about a couple that is cursed by black magic. By day, she is transformed into a hawk and at night he is turned into a wolf. In this way they are always separated and yet together. For one is always human and the other an animal.

They can only glimpse each other for a few brief moments at the rising and setting sun when they each transform.

It occurs to me that this is love in the end. In spite of our best efforts, a great distance remains between us. And we can only glimpse each other's hearts for a few fleeting moments.

And everyone of us longs for more.

In my previous entry, I pointed out how the same picture was being used for two different profiles...

Weeeelllll.... guess what?

Those were all taken down and now three new profiles have appeared with three different names, all with the same picture. At least they they kept the vitals (Height, Weight, etc.) the same. Maybe this time it is one person hiding behind three different identities as opposed to 3 different people using the same photo. Who knows?

I don't come here that often these days. I just like to chat on line now and again. But I might make more postings of these obvious fakes when I see them. It's kind of fun to bust them.

It's sad to go to a place where people are looking for love and find this stuff.

But the old Latin saying still applies, caveat emptor,

..."Let the buyer beware".

I'm glad I'm not looking. CM has started its new feature show the newest users...

And the same picture showed up for two different profiles back to back. Then it happened a second time. With a little common sense it is possible to avoid the fakes out there. Remember it is possible to find someone here. Just be cautious.

Wow, lucky me!

I just got a letter from a girl living in Ghana Africa by the name of MISS MISS BAFFOUR WIREDU.? (That's the exact spelling)

It seems miss Wiredu is all alone and her father has left her approx. 6 million dollars and about 2.5 kilos of gold.? If only she had someone to take care of her.

What's a hot 22 year old, submissive girl to do?? Why write to a fifty year old guy in California of course!? And just think, for only the price of an airline ticket I can have both the girl and the money...

Geez.

Seriously ladies, when you get angry about being called a fake, I understand.? I really do.? But please understand that there are many people out there praying on the lonely hearts of both men and women out there. And some of them are quite cruel.

I understand the reverse is true too.? Little boys who only can gain power over a women by calling her names or by accusing her of being a fake.

BDSM is the most intense and powerful form of love there is when properly practiced in a loving environment.? It's a shame there are so many liars...on both sides of the isle.

As for "Miss Wiredu", I'm afraid HE's going to have to find someone else to lie too.

Alright.

I admit it.? I have a french maid fetish.? I've gone to French Maid TV.? I scoured the internet for pictures.

I can't help it.? French maid outfits are just cute and submissive looking.? I love 'em.

Unfortunately I had something horrible happen the other day.? I went to a site and it turned out it was fill with picture of aging British men dressed in french maid outfits.

(Shivers)

My eyes still burn from that one. Now I'm going to have to wash them out with soap.

Some advice for Submissives.

Over the years, I have often been asked by girls ?What do you think about this guy??? Forgetting the fact that she should be across MY knee for a moment, here?s what I usually to tell girls are the most important things to look for.

1) He should be a little nervous.? If a man is trying to make a good impression on you, he?ll be worried about how he?s doing.? Yes, confidence is sexy.? But too much confidence mean?s he?s not worried about what YOU feel.? Or he thinks he?s so cool he doesn?t have to worry. Bad sign.

2) He shouldn?t think you?re perfect.? If a man tells you early on you?re exactly what he?s looking for, then there?s a problem.? Women are complex and it takes us a while to get to know you.? If you?re perfect from day one, that means he?s not listening to you and isn?t interested in your personality.? He just likes your body or even worse, he doesn?t care who you are.? VERY bad sign.

Older men tend to be more confident in themselves and know more what they?re looking for, but the same rules apply.? If you uncertain about a dom ask yourself this question, ?Why should I take the chance??

Write me and give me your thoughts on this.

So...

My girlfriend is a masochist.? I have to admit that when I first started dating her, my only thought was 'Cool'.? Now that I've spent some time with her I've discovered:

1) She's training for the "Iron Butt" Triathlon.

2) She has a serious and deep need to be punished on a regular bases.

I came here looking for a daddy dom relationship which is different from what I found.? So now I'm in learning mode.

I would love to talk with you masochists out there about your needs and what your favorite things to do are.? If you have any thoughts about masochism and what you're looking for, drop me a line.

So I was heading back from Warner brothers studios yesterday.? While waiting on Barham ave. I looked in my rear view mirror and saw 4 police cars, lights flashing, coming up behind me.

They were following a gray SUV.? The SUV tried to work its way around traffic but it got stuck behind another car.? The cops got out and surrounded the SUV.? When the driver failed to get out.? One of the officers fired two shots at the driver.

Then the SUV speed off.? Turns out he was wanted for trying to kill his girlfriend in Indiana and the SUV was hers.

The police eventually caught the guy right at universal studios which was right next to us.

That's the joy of living in Hollywood.? Taking meetings at Warner brothers one minute, shots fired the next.

So I was watching a film called " a submissive Mind" from realspankings.com and I noticed the sub say that she needed the punishment for a 'release' in order to get her emotions out.? She said she was a very closed person and this was the she needed to experience emotions.?

My sub has said the exact same things. I was wondering. How many of you ladies need discipline for the emotional release as opposed to the erotic sensation?

So someone posted a comedy profile, lampooning all of the fake ones here on Collarme. I thought it was a hoot.

Here's the 'user' name: Elektra1990.

I love that it is a picture of an Asian girl with "native American' for race.? Awesome.

Someone asked in their profile that anyone who writes her should describe what his style of daddy dom would be and what is expected of his little girl. I found that to be a rather important question so I thought I'd post some thoughts.

What is a Daddy dom and how should he behave towards his little girl? And what should he expect from her in return.

As I see it. A daddy dom is a loving D/s relationship. Notice I didn't say it was a D/s relationship with love. Daddy/little girl is a deeply romantic and profound relationship that draws two people much closer than a vanilla or a purely D/s, or strictly sexual relationship can. It does so by combining all three.

A certain degree of the approach is determined by the personalities of both the Daddy and the little girl.? In my experience, strong willed women have a greater desire for control, disciple and structure in their lives...but only from some one they respect. Simply demanding you call them 'daddy' and spanking her would not make someone a true daddy dom in their eyes. She would need someone who is both firm and loving as well as having her best interests at heart.

For example, if she going to college, having a daddy dom who understood your goals and supported her, but also discipline her when if she failed to meet them (not finishing her homework or being late to classes).? This is probably something she would respect. This can also apply to work or any other goal she sets for herself.?

Having someone just haul off and spank her 'because he said so' is not she would respect at all. I believe it is the main job of a daddy dom to encourage and love his little girl in life.

A little girl, she needs to have that security. When she comes home, she should be coming to a place where she feels safe. Yes, she could be spanked there, but it is more than a place that you live and have D/s. It is a place where she is loved. Spanking can be a profound display of love and an intensely erotic experience if done properly. But it is not the only thing in the home. Love and security must come first in any daddy/little girl relationship.

My personally thoughts about discipline are. 1) It should always have an erotic component to it. Yes, it is punishment but consent and eroticism are two of the ways D/s differs from abuse. For this reason, I believe that the little girl has to undress in front of her daddy and be completely nude when punished. To emphasize its sexual nature.? This leads to my second point. That in a daddy dom relationship there should be a reason for punishment. Its doesn't have to be a firm reason with severe consequences. It can be for minor reasons as well such as to re-enforce something agreed upong. But it should have a punishment quality to it. She should feel ashamed for what she had done. For this reason the little girl always should be given corner time as well.

But discipline is only a small part of a relationship. There are many dynamics of Daddy dom, to many to go into even in a long message like this, but one other deserves note. A little girl should feel safe to cuddle up in her daddy's arms. After making love, punishment or just lying on the couch. She should feel safe and protected and it is his job to make sure that she does. She should feel free to share her feelings and dreams without fear or ridicule. He should be the one person she trusts with her innermost secrets.

So what should a little girl give her daddy? Assuming he has met the qualities above, she should give him love, respect, affection and obedience. Love will grow naturally from being with a man who genuinely cares for her and has her best interests at heart. Respect doesn't mean that she's not free to differ from him on things that are important to her. Merely that she understands that he is a person worth respecting, even if they disagree. She should try to she his point of view just has he has hers.

Affection goes without saying. The little girl should love, both physically and emotionally, her daddy. She should come to him when he comes home, throw her arms around him and say "I love you daddy" often. If she wants to be loved herself she should be willing to love him completely. Physically she should always please her daddy leaving it to him to dictate the how and when. Passionate, hot showers are a personal favorite and I would insist that my little girl join me often.

Lastly, a little girl should obey her daddy. If he has earned her respect properly, then disappointing him will be more painful than a whipping. Being an obedient little girl, in the bedroom, in the relationship, in life is the key to a successful daddy dom love affair. This doesn't mean he is always right, but rather that she should pick and chose what it really important to her. Is it worth fighting over a simple chore in the grand scheme of things? Obedience is a simple way to show respect and re-enforce the dynamics of the relationship.

One last thought. Many girls don't care for dress up and role play.? But the strongest willed women are often the ones that need to submit to fantasy the most. I think with the proper encouragement, not only acting like a little girl but role playing as one might be the most erotic experience of her life, giving her a new freedom she might not have considered.

Role play isn't for everyone, but I believe its more common with daddy dom than in other lifestyles.? That's part of the freedom having a daddy gives a little girl.

Fakes and Liars

One of the things I constantly in people's profiles are references to fakes and lairs.? Many of the female profiles here collar me are outright fake.? They're actually from men, mostly from Africa, who trying to scam money from lonely ,older men here in the US. (You can read about some of these scams here at http://419.bittenus.com)

This must make things incredibly hard for women who are legitimately looking for someone.? Imagine how hard it must be for most girls to come to terms with the fact that they're submissive and that they want to be punished?? Worrying about abuse partners and all the other not so nice possibilities out there.? Then, when they finally get the nerve to go on line, they're accused of being fakes because they don't respond in the way some egotist wants or by someone who has been burned by Nigerian scammer. I completely understand and respect the frustration women feel about being called fakes all the time.

But the thing that really gets me is this.? Women with good hearts who are submissive are more precious than diamonds.? Once, you've finally found one on line, you should cultivate that relationship and treasure it.? How hard is it to find a girl that wants to be spanked?? Yet, I hear stories from women who have had to block abusive men on this and other sites.? Why would you berate someone on line, when you've finally found such a treasure?

I was quite successful here in chatting with women.? That's because I assumed the following:

Every women is worth talking to, even if she is not a good match for me.

Every women is a lady is the classic sense of the word, even if she doesn't always act like it or wants to be treated that way.

Honesty is the best policy, even if they're not being honest with me.? After all, if I tell someone I'm a doctor and I'm not, don't you think she'd figure it out sooner or later?? If they're not being honest, I'll figure it out soon enough.

And lastly, there's more to life than BDSM.? A women is more than just a 'f#ck toy'.? She's your companion, friend, critic and lover.? Even if the only thing she wants in life is to greet you at the door wearing nothing more than a collar, she's still more than a door mat.? Her touch, her smell, the feel of her in your arms is something worth living for and in some cases worth dying for. She is life itself.

And there's nothing fake about that.

I wrote this for a girl online and shared it with a few friends.? Absolutely everyone said I should post it in my journal. So here it is, enjoy!

Billy Bob's Tips for DOMs.
(Chapter 6)

So you've taken the plunge and decided you want a new dishwasher/sex slave. But what to do? All women want to serve men and be their complete property. That's just the way they are. The trick is to get a hot one to recognize you for the sexual deity that you are.

And how do you do that? With pictures of course! Here are some tips for capturing your true elegance.

First and foremost what camera should you use? Any old one will do. No need to spend a lot of money on a new one. That old broken piece of trash in the bottom of the drawer will work just fine. Remember women don't actually CARE what you look like. Only that you are someone they can serve. Pictures are only for introductions.

So what type of picture should you send? Here are some of the most common types.

1) The Penis shot: Women spend all day, every day looking for shots of strange men's penises on the internet. Its in their genes; they can't help it. So be sure to send lots of shots. Focus is not that important. Be sure and send them to girls you've never met before with a clever opening line like "Wanna chat?" or "u r hot". You, know. Something to break the ice.

2) Your rock hard abs: This is a tough one. A few girls might think you're self absorbed for having spent 2 hours a day in the gym 6 days a week to make a part of your body that is normally covered up with a t-shirt look good. But most will admire your dedication to look cool at the expense of all other things in your life and won't think you're a bit gay.

3) The blurry face: Lets face it, woman aren't that picky. Once they've found a man they can serve, they're pretty much gonna do whatever you want, no matter what you look like. The blurry picture face is a great way to show them you are real without having the wife found out what you're doing.

4) You in Bondage gear: Nothing gets a submissive more excited than seeing you dressed up in leather chaps and a rubber mask that has "I'm with stupid" and an arrow pointing up on it. Nuff said.

5) You with a another woman. Showing a potential submissive how you'd treat her is a great way to get things rolling. Besides, its not like she's going to look at the girl in the picture and start judging her or comparing herself to her or something like that. That would be silly.

These are just a few suggestions. There's plenty more ways to go. You could hold a beer bottle and stick your tongue out at the camera to show how playful you are. Or you can capture that beer belly you've been working on for the last six years. And those tattoos aren't going to show off themselves, are they? Use your imagination.

Its not like women are going to want someone whose going to actually talk with them, make them laugh and be friends or something. I mean seriously. Its not like BDSM is only a small part of their lives and they're actually trying to find some to love and cherish for a life time.

That would be silly.

The Dancer of Gor

I don't know much about Gor and Gorean things beyond the basics.? But a friend recently sent me one of the books called "Dancer of Gor".? Apparently its one of the most popular in the series.

I haven't read it yet but the premise is that a shy librarian is kidnapped and transported to a world in which men are dominant and women are property.? In this new world she becomes a slave dancer and men that desire her service fight over her.

That concept makes me wonder.? How many girls here online are like that?? Shy, sweet girls on the outside.? Filled with submissive desires, hoping for a world in which they can finally be free.? Longing to be set free.

Free to surrender.? Free to explore and fulfill their darkest desires.? Free to be all the things they desire in their hearts but society, political correctness, family and friends hold them in check.

I wonder sometimes.

How many dancers there are here, lurking in the shadows, waiting to be freed...?

Happy new year to all.

:o)

So Bettie Page has passed away.

I'm sure a lot of people both here and around the world will mourn her passing.? It truly was the end of an era.

I'm sure most of the obituaries will remember her as fetish model and early playboy bunny.? Next to Marilyn Monroe she was certainly the most famous centerfold. ?

Bettie had tumultuous life; struggling to find happiness and love.? But she handled it all with a grace and faith that is sorely lacking from so many people in the fetish community.? It would shock many here to know that she was a Christian, but there are many here on this site, hiding in the darkness.

On my wall I have a limited edition print of Bettie called "Maid Bettie" by Olivia.? It is signed by her.? When she signed it she supposedly said "I was never that beautiful".? As the years past, she had refused to allow people to take her picture.? She said she wanted people to remember as she was and that when she got to heaven she would be "beautiful forever".

I beg to differ.? Bettie Page's heart grew more beautiful over time.? I'm glad she found peace and happiness in her latter years.? I'm very much afraid the world will never know her like again.

She will be missed.

R.I.P. Bettie Page

Of cakes and Submission.

So I read that in the 1950s when instant cake mix was introduced, it was a disaster.? Women hated it.? After a lot of focus groups, manufactures learned what was wrong.? Simply pouring mix into a pan and cooking it didn't feel to women of the day like they were contributing to their families.? So manufacture took the eggs out of the cake mix so that women would have to add something in order to finish the cake.

Granted it was a different time.? But it does say something about submissive women.? Submissives want to serve. The want to contribute and please using their skills.? But more importantly they want praise from their masters and doms.? Some profiles to about a 'gift of submission' or 'being worth of my submission'

I think the problem with most doms is that they focus only on gratifying their own needs.? They need to stop and take a moment to appreciate the gift they've been given.? True she may have a strong need to be spanked and controlled.? But I believe that in heart of even the most submissive woman is an overwhelming need to be praised and loved.? Even if its for how well she submits.

Her submission may be a deep, passionate, selfish desire.? But is the eggs in the cake.? Her contribution for which she needs to be cherished.

It occurs to me I've written a lot about what I think makes for a good loving D/s relationship.? But as one woman said in her profile 'don't use cleaver lines, just tell me what you would do to me'.

Fair enough,

This is D/s site. So here's the way I think a punish session should be like for a bad little girl.

I would tell the women to go to the bedroom for punishment.? She should go into the bedroom and completely undress, folding her clothes neatly and then kneel and wait at the foot of the bed.? I may come in a moment or she may have to wait fro a while.? Eventually I come into the bedroom and sits on the edge of the bed in front of her.? I'll explain why she is going to be punished and the discuss with her how much punishment she is to receive.

She is expected to honestly evaluate her behavior and make suggestions on how and how much punishment she should receive.? Once that's been decided, she'' sit in my lap and I'll look her in the eye and explains once again why she is to be punished, so there are no misunderstandings.? Then I'll turns her across my knee.? (If she is to be whipped with a belt, she should ly over the edge of the bed.)

Then I'll should punish her.? She's not a little girl anymore so I'll have to be firm to make sure I make my point.? I won't stop until I do.? When I'm finished, I'll send her to the corner to stand, arms at her side, so she can think about what she's done.

At this point I may sit down and read a newspaper while she stands alone with her thoughts. (Imagine being in the corner, sound of newspaper pages turning.)? When I've decide she's had enough time to reflect, I'll tell her to come and kneel at my feet. ?

"Do you have something to say to me, young lady?", I'll ask.?? And she's expected to apologize and thank me for taking the time to punish her. If she decides to be a smart ass then we'll have to start all over again from the beginning.? But if she's learned her lesson, then the matter is forgotten.

She'll need to thank me for caring enough to take the time to punish her. And there are plenty of ways she can do that...

:)

So I ran into another one.? A profile of a girl who only wants men who are extremely dominant and will control her every action.

I'm intrigued by such profiles, but I have a problem.? A weakness really.

I love to hear girls laugh.? Just the sound of it makes make smile.? And the idea that I would control every word, every action of a women's life seems to me like I'd have to give that up.

The lead actress on the show I'm working on recently said one of her favorite things to do is stay in bed in her pajamas with her fiancee and watch old movies on Sunday mornings.? I want that too.? But I can't imagine it happening with a girl wants and expects to be treated like an object.? No laughter.? No teasing.? No love.? Just "yes, master".

Lately I've been thinking about 50's house hold.? The loving husband who turns the wife over his knee when she gets too feisty.? (And you ladies do too.)? This is the way things are and they both accept it and love each other for it. It seams like a good mixture of control and love.

It may not be true D/s.? It may not be Master/slave or TPE.? But I want it all.? Love and kink. Bondage and laughter. Light and dark. I'm guess I'm just greedy. ?

I want the Sunday mornings too.

Do you dream?

Not the simple, random dreams of a mind drifting in sleep.? Not dreams of money or power.

But fantasies of passion.? Fantasies of surrender and conquest. Dreams of a world far away.? Perhaps you're a slave girl sold to a harem in a distant land. Or perhaps of being captured by a knight and taken to his castle, with no hope of escape.

They're dreams of course.? Just fantasies.? But do you have them?? In this world, its easy to lose sight of the little girl inside.? There are bills to pay and gas tanks waiting to be filled.

But if you could dream, what you dream of? In those quiet moments at night when you're all alone. When inside you the heart of a little girl still beats.? What would you dream of?

Being taken. Used? Loved? Captured?? By a boss who taken control?? Or a teacher when you desperately need a passing grade? Let you mind run wild.

I know, your supposed to be grown up.? Responsible.? But if you could let go.? If you could be free.

What would you dream?

There's been a little confusion over my screen name recently.? I'm sure most of you ready know this but for those who don't Daddy dom DOES NOT mean being a replacement for your actual father.

If your father was a good man, no one should or could replace him in your heart. He was your first love and always will be.? And if he wasn't a good father then you certainly don't want to go back to those days.

Daddy/dom means having the same dynamic as a daughter has with her father.? That is, he is loving, encouraging and adoring.? To him, you are his precious little girl and the most important thing in his life.? But like any father, he's in control of the home.? He may give you chores to do or give you a bed time.? And of course there are times when you misbehave and he'll need to take you across his knee. :)

But unlike master/slave, you are not his slave nor are you his doormat. In this environment, you are loved and cared for. And safe to be the little girl you are inside.? Some women like to role play as a little girl, others don't.? That's up to the individual couple. But the dynamic, of the older, wiser father figure, looking after the young girl, loving and disciplining her as needed.? That stays the same. It's a mixture of both love and D/s.? It may be a bit too romantic for some here.

I chose them name Fatherfigr because I like women and I don't what to give up on love simply because I have D/s desires.? There has to be a way to have both.? I want someone I can love and cherish.? A women who desires to be submissive in her heart but still wants to laugh, love and enjoy life.? Someone who wants? ground rules, discipline and true love.

Daddy dom may not be the best way to describe exactly what I'm looking for.? But it's the closest I can come to it.

So A girl here posted a message saying that she felt she couldn't respect a man who didn't take total control of her.

So I responded saying that I felt there should be a balance between respect and control. I didn't ask her out, I just sent her the comment...and she immediately blocked me.

That leads me to three thoughts.

1.)? She was not a submissive.? There are many girls her who call themselves submissive but have so many requirements its impossible for ANY man to meet them.? If you try they'll always find something wrong with you.? In that way they can always blame you for not living up to their expectations (the man) when in fact they (the alleged submissive) are the ones taking control of the situation.? It's a good excuse to never meet anyone worth while.

2.) While I may repeat some of the same thoughts, I always write original letters to everyone I contact, even casually.? So when you get upset that you receive so many form letters remember, for all that effort, most of what we write winds up in the trash.? Often without being read.? It can be very frustrating for us too.

3.) If she's looking for a man who takes control of her with no regard for her feelings, I'm afraid that's exactly what she's going to find.

Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.

- Robert Frost.

Money can't buy happiness -- but somehow it's more comfortable to cry in a Corvette than in a Yugo.?

So since been here, I've had a few girls of different ages writing to me who are looking for something special.

What they want is a warm, loving man to be an authority figure in their lives. Someone who will love them first and foremost.? Someone who they can turn to for advice. ?

Someone who will give them ground rules and scold them when they're bad.? And someone who will give them spankings and control in the bedroom.

But most of all, they're looking for someone they can curl up to.? A man who will take her in his arms and hold her close.? A man who will create a place where she can feel safe and loved and finally let out the little girl that's hiding inside all her life.

In case you're wondering, that's exactly what I'm looking for too.

Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

??? -Mark Twain

So I was chatting with a girl the other day and she asked me and interesting question.? Roughly it was "What is it about me that attracts married men and cheaters?"? She was surprised when I told her it had nothing to do with her.

You see, men don't associate sex with love.? Sex has no consequences for men, we'll never get pregnant.? So to many men its little more than something enjoyable that they do.

Because of that many men cheat on there wives and girl friends with no guilt.? Women on the other hand have a deep emotional stake in sex and generally want it within the context of a loving relationship.

So men, looking to have sex with no attachment, learn how to say what women want to hear.? The woman opens up her e-mail and sees those words and assumes sincerity.? But think about it.? How likely is it that you're going to find someone on a site called "Collarme.com"?? Don't get me wrong.? I don't believe its impossible.? People find each other everyday in all sorts of places.? But it seems to me it would be much harder here than on "Match.com"...and that's hard enough as it is.

So it isn't your fault ladies, when you receive e-mails from players and married men.? Just know that there are those of us out there that are really looking for long term, loving relationships.

Even here.

But it goes without saying that caution is the order of the day.? Especially when looking for a Daddy/dom or master.? Wouldn't you agree?

Is it just me...?

Or are some of the ads that appear on these pages a little creepy.? Elector-water-blender torture? Men raped by she-males.?

Good Night!

So far...

I?ve received emails from. 1) Married women. 2) Women who never write back after writing me. 3) Women who delete their profiles immediately. 4) A woman who wanted to tell me she had sex with a dog.

You must understand. I?m not here to play games, "Chat" or "Cyber". If you?re not really looking for someone, don?t bother to write. If you think its funny to have sex with animals or tell others you do, don?t bother to write. If you don?t want your husband to know...don?t write me. Tell HIM what your fantasies are. You chose him out of all the men in the world. Teach him how to please you. Believe me, he wants to know what turns you on.

If you are not divorced yet, even if it is "pending"...don?t write me.

If on the other hand you?re looking for a kindred soul. If you?re a true romantic at heart...not just saying that you are. If you?re looking for someone who understands the desire the burns within yo don?t be afraid to say "hello". Don?t worry. I won?t take it as a marriage proposal. I don?t expect that anyone is going to become mine, simply because they send me an email.

So write/reply if you?re curious.

What?s the worst that can happen?

Looking for someone to adore.

There's a girl who just signed up here. She posted a picture and a very short profile. All it says is "looking for some to adore." Simple and to the point.

She doesn't make demands, she doesn't ask for someone worthy of her service. No great list of do's and don'ts. No complaints about the emails she received.

Someone to adore...

I came here looking for someone I can laugh with, I can live with. Someone I can spank when she's bad and make love to in a hot steamy shower when desire consumes us. Someone I can devote all of my passions to. Someone to adore.

Robert frost said that love is "the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." I'm certainly no expert, but I think there's no better way to say it. I'm looking for someone to adore and who will adore me.

In the end we all are.

And for that reason, I'd have to say her profile is the best I've ever read.

Thank you ladies for all the kind replies. I've enjoyed talking with everyone of you.

Just a reminder, I am looking for a single submissive lady for a longterm, D/s relationship. I am not interested in sessions, or play, but realtime.

If you're attached, feel free write and say hello, but understand, its for conversation only.

The Nice Guy Syndrome

Among doms, the prevailing wisdom is to take control immediately. Demand that she call you 'master' right away and degrade her as soon as possible. The thinking is that if you don't take control immediately the girl/submissive/slave will not think of you as a master. That is why you ladies keep receiving such rude e-mails.

I have a problem though. I'm a nice guy. A really nice guy. I'm always polite and almost never lose my temper. I believe a firm command is much more powerful and erotic than shouting, berating or arrogance. (See below)

Now here's the problem. Closing the deal.. Being nice to a girl puts you squarely in the "fends category. To girls 'friend' means 'don't go away mad, just go away'. "Nice guys" are friends not lovers (Really? How many guy "friends" do you have?)

But in spite of my gentle interior, I'm not what I appear to be. There is no part of your body I would not greedily touch. I have no problem turning your naked behind across my knee for a long, hard spanking. And I'll take what I want in the bedroom without asking...

But all this lies under the surface of a simple, mild mannered man. One who is truly gentle and caring. And so women, looking for something dangerous simple walk on by. A girl and I were talking about a man she thought was particularly sexy and I said "I'm far more dangerous than that." She laughed. And that's the nice guy syndrome. To be a raging demon inside and a gentleman on the outside.

So how to convince a woman that she can have the best of both worlds...gentleman and Dom. I'd reather not become an A-hole.

Its just not my style.

Corsets

Among the countless articles of clothing women can wear, corsets are unique. Their they only thing a women can wear that will make her both look beautiful and put her in bondage at the same time. Tight and restricting, they're the symbol of bondage. And yet, they enhance a woman's curves. Every woman appears more sexy wearing a corset.

Corsets symbolize surrender and control. Being laced up by her man, the submissive is giving herself into his hands. Allowing her to be transformed into her daddy's fantasy. Lacing her up in the morning before she goes to work, she can be embraced by him all day. Wearing her corset under her regular clothes, no one need know she's in bondage, except her...and her daddy.

I've recently seen several shows where doctors say they are healthy. It seems that corsets are even good for bad backs.

Needless to say, I've quite a corset fetish. But that's a part of the contradictions of my character. Warm and loving and yet dominate and strike. Conservative and traditional and yet kinky. I've never figured out how all of this goes together. Perhaps, I never will.

E. Edward Grey

I noticed while watching the movie "Secretary" how much personality wise I'm like the E. Edward Grey character. He is reserved and distant, yet inside him is great passion He's a good man, at odds with is sadistic tendencies just as I am. He's an intellect and self employed living on his own terms, as am I.

His best moment in the film comes when he discovers his secretary - Lee Holloway is cutting herself. He sits her down and calmly but firmly tells her she doesn't need to do it anymore. No yelling. No false bravado. No fancy games. He just gently takes command. And she obeys, throwing her box of cutting tools in the river. What makes the scene and the entire movie work isn't the spanking scenes or kinky dialog. Its Lee's willingness to surrender.

I'm looking for a girl with a submissive heart like that. A willingness to surrender herself to a man's passions. To be his love, best friend, slave, object, little girl. To be his passion, his obsession and joy. One who can find peace at his feet or across his knees.

Honestly, I don't think I'll find such a thing here. To ego in the hearts of those I've chatted with. But it's a great fantasy, isn't it. A couple that fit together, hand in gove. Master/slave, Daddy little girl. I wonder if anyone's found it?

Which is more powerful?

If you had the choice, which would you say is more erotic? A man towering over you, yelling "get on your knees b#&ch! I'm going to whip your ass."

While walking into a restaurant, the man leaning over and whispering into your ear so softly you can barely hear it, "you've been a bad little girl and I'm going to give you a spanking when we get home." And then not mentioning it again for the rest of the evening.

I hold that class is much more erotic than bravado and arrogance. Wouldn't you agree?

I know, I know.

I'm too much of a gentleman. I don't start off e-mails with "bow to me b*tch" or "get on you knees" or some such nonsense. I suppose that would show how great a dom I am to the inexperienced, but to me there is something much, much more powerful. Leaning into a girl and whispering into her ear "I'm going to give you a spanking when we get home".

No anger, no show of bravado. No cheap games. Just erotic power. I don't want to share this with just anyone. Just one special girl who wants to surrender herself to a great love.

So if you're into someone talking trash to you I'm afraid I'm not you're man. If you're into love, power and spanking. Then drop me a line.

Just don't be surprised when I don't treat you like "s#&t".

One hundred and twenty to four.

So the other night I say girl here. She was bit young, but she seemed interesting so I thought I'd write her a note just to chat. I started on it, but decided I'd sent it the next day so I could proof read it and make sure it sounded interesting enough.

The next morning when I logged on, her journal said she had received 120 e-mails and that she couldn't answer them all. What are the chances of even been seen, let alone read by this girl? Not very good.

Since I've been here I've made four contacts. Two from married women. The other two didn't pan out.

So remember ladies, its a minimum of 120 against us that you'll ever even see one of our emails, let alone consider us. That's why you receive so many form letter.

I don't write form letters. I want to make a good impression and let them know I've read their e-mails, even thgouh the odds are they'll never bee seen.

I'm looking for a long term relationship, hopefully leading to marriage with a shy little girl. I dream of finding her all the time. I don't know if I will find her.

I mean, what are the odds?

Just to make it clear I am not interested in married or attached women,

Single women only please. This is true if you divorice isn't final or you husband allows you to play.

Chatting is fine, but I'm only interested in single women who are looking for a real time, real life, daddy/little girl relationship.

Pin Ups

So just recently, I've gotten into Pinups from the 1940's and 50's. They're tame by today's standards, even comical. But those older drawings are much more attractive and enticing than modern pornography.

The women in them have sweetness and charm that you just don't get in today's hardcore world. Most of those images left you wanting to see more and with a feeling these were girl's you'd want to be with. (Just Google "Elvgren" to see what I mean.)

By contrast, Madonna has shown pretty much everything she has to offer. She has sold, processed and packaged everything about herself. There are no surprises left and I have no interest in anything about her. That's a problem with many girl's today.

I want to find a little girl who wants to be that kind of fantasy. Who has a playful spirit and likes to tease.

It's a tall order in this day and age...

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