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Over the last couple of years being involved in BDSM, I have found that that I enjoy the company of like-minded people, regardless if they are dominant or submissive. My goal is to rebuild a network of friends in the DC area, since I recently moved here in pursuit of educational endeavors.
The types of people I get along with best are usually intelligent, college-educated, and very street-smart. I have an appreciation for good grammar and complete words in emails. I am very open about sex and BDSM, so if you are new to all of this, I'll gladly answer any reasonable question.
Things that I am:
- Dominant yet friendly
- A graduate student
- Open about my sex life
- Logical and rational
- A paramedic
- A problem solver by nature
- Extroverted and out-spoken, sometimes to a fault
Things I enjoy:
- I love rough, kinky, wild sex. Also, I really enjoy when subs fight back. It makes it all the more fun and exciting.
- Good conversation with an intelligent, opinionated person. I enjoy differences of opinions.
- Adventure seeking, especially late at night. I'm very nocturnal.
As for things I'm not:
- I'm not submissive. I have never found anyone impressive enough where I would let them control me.
- I'm certainly not angry, violent, upset, emo, anarchist, etc.
- I'm not into the whole Dungeons and Dragons element. I don't wear leather pants or chain mail or any other outfit that might not pass through airport security. If you met me on the street, you'd never suspect I'm into BDSM.
As for the alias, I'm a college student about 2500 miles away from my hometown.
On a final note...I'm straight. Gay/bi guys, while I certainly do appreciate the offers, I'm just not interested. Thank you though, and I wish you the best of luck in finding someone who is.
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Cat people continued...
I was watching Penn and Teller's Bullshit! the other day and came across a great little formula. The craziness of a person increases exponentially based on how many cats they have. So...
3 cats = 3^3 = 27 x crazy.
4 cats = 4^4 = 256 x crazy.
78 cats = Way too fucking crazy.
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Let me make something clear...I'm not here to "take care" of anyone. I'm a grad student, which means two things: I'm poor and I'm busy. Work and school come before a relationship. That doesn't mean I'll be unreliable, in fact, it's just the opposite. I will make time for the right person. It also doesn't mean won't be spontaneous and fun loving, I just won't put hours and hours in, trying to make a relationship "work." I appreciate people who I can do stuff with (even if it is at weird hours of the night) but who have their life in order and their priorities straight.
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The more people I know, the better I get about finding traits of people I get along with. I can usually pinpoint within relatively short order characteristics that I find attractive and ones that I know will piss me off down the line. Point of this entry...
Are there any dog people interested in BDSM?
Cats in and of themselves are decent enough creatures, it's their owners that scare me at times. So if you're out there, I'd love to meet a large breed dog fan who's into BDSM. I question if they even exist, but it's worth a try.
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Being submissive is not an excuse to lay there and have the Dom do all the work. For BDSM to work, good communication is critical. Unless you get really lucky, most Doms/Dommes, to a certain degree, need to adapt for the sub to have fun. Without proper feedback about what's working and what's not, the Dom has to play a guessing game, for lack of better words. Of course with time, the Dom or Domme learns what works for the sub and what doesn't, and appropriately, less communication is needed.
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The sheer abundance of flaky people here is...staggering. In an activity based on trust and mutual understanding, one would think the presence of common courtesy, honesty, and respect would be more prevalent. Not so. Even people preaching the values of communication openness won't do something as simple as reply to an email or text message. Apparently even people who are supposedly "dominant" must be willing to put up with this, since it seems to be the pattern around these parts. Truthfully, I won't. If one of my "friends" isn't accountable, they won't be my "friend" for very long. I'm far from being desperate enough to put up with anyone's crap for long.
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I'm a bit of an anomaly in the BDSM world. I'm very extroverted, outspoken, friendly, and energetic. People I'm attracted to, be it for friendship or a relationship, generally are the same way. Because I don't seem creepy or overly controlling on the outside, unless I mention it, most of my friends don't think I'm into BDSM. Quite honestly, I like it that way. BDSM to me is something that compliments my already very fulfilling life, not necessarily its focal point.
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I'll take curvy over angry or crazy any day.
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I keep hearing from my friends that all the Doms/Dommes on here are looking for 24/7 relationships, saying that a non-TPE relationship isn't true BDSM. Bullshit. A BDSM relationship can be anything the two people agree that it is and A VAST MAJORITY of BDSM-involved relationships are NOT TPE/24-7/slave relationships. Most of us do have daily lives outside of play that we enjoy and will continue to pursue regardless of the type of sex we enjoy.
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Remember people, this is supposed to be FUN. I think we sometimes forget that.
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XX = female XY = male
'nuff said.
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Oh, if you want a photo, just ask me. I'll gladly send you one.
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