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About f33ts11
TL;DR Version: Not a foot fetishist, looking to explore
So now that I've been on here for a while, I can't honestly say that I'm new to this or I haven't done enough exploring to make definitive statements about who I am
Never refuse an invitation, never resist the unfamiliar, never fail to be polite, and never out stay your welcome. Just keep your mind open, and enjoy the experience.
Paradise is not some place you can look for. It's not where you go. It's how you feel for a moment in your life. If you find that moment, it will last forever.
The quotes above are from a rather bland movie with the most amazing soundtrack. If you recognize the quotes above without using the Internet, you need to message me RIGHT NOW so I can high five you, albeit at a distance, because this movie is not remembered on merit and you're already most likely thinking on the same lines I am. It holds a special place in my heart as first introducing me to modern / contemporary electronic music and is a personal experience of a balancing act between knowing what rules to break and which ones are best when not bent.
Anyone who says there are no frontiers left to conquer needs look no further than a young man standing on the porch of a young woman before a date
When describing myself, this quotation also comes to mind. It's not a perfect fit for me, but it touches on an important frame of mind. I view each new acquaintance, associate, friend, crush, fling, play partner, or lover as a new frontier to be explored, within the boundaries of their comfort level. New thoughts, experiences, perspectives are one conversation away.
I'm listing this here for several reasons. The first being that lovers in the past have confused their status as being equal to the rest. To move forward exploring, I need to be as clear about this as humanly possible. It's caused problems in the past and I'm forever grateful to those who have calmly been able to give me the opportunity to express this despite my inability to articulate this process at times, especially ones of conflict. The second being that if play, sex, contact, or emotions happen, they happen. If not or if things fall apart, I'm not going to get angry.
Except with you. With you, I'm going to fill you inbox with hate and rage (j/k ;)) Somehow I'll deal with it in a mature and responsible way.
So when you combine the two quotations, I'm looking to find paradise by exploring new frontiers with each new individual. Sex is not necessarily involved in that progression. A person I hold very near to my heart once told me that I separate relationships from sex. Shocking and a bit questionable as you'll have to take my word for it, but it's true. Sex can happen without relationships, relationships can happen without sex, and peanut butter can happen without jelly. Obviously, a combination is ideal, but sometimes you're not in the mood or headspace for one or the other.
One example of this that I can think of came in a completely vanilla situation. I was out in the water with vanilla friends and the conditions got rather unsafe. We got out of the water rather quickly and after catching our breath had a laugh about it. That shared moment was what I hold to be paradise.
I'm not just doing this in my kink life, but I can be more open about it here as I can avoid the potential for judgement from vanilla people I'm not as familiar with. I also hesitate to label myself as poly, as that's not exactly what I'm looking for, but I'm not closed to the idea.
I recognize the patent absurdity of asking people to take this at face value with all of the other wonderful people on CM, but I'm intentionally seeking to separate myself from them at first. I'm seeking new connections and experiences and it's good to be upfront about that search.
I've found a group on island that makes participating in a kink lifestyle extremely comfortable. It's nice to have a forum to talk about non-traditional sexual activities. I'm also looking to expand that beyond the island.
To lighten up the mood after being rather serious, let me balance things out by saying "whoopsie whoopsie boingo knickers"
Also, it has come to my attention that there is a confusion about my screen name. The name is a play on the word "features". There's a joke in there. If you want to know more, just ask and I'd be happy to share. |
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Male Submissive, 23, Wellington
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