I wrote this just under a month ago, the words still ring very true to me:

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When Did you?

When did you discover who you were,

That you were black, or poor, or woman, or man..

When did you accept the labels placed upon you?

When did you choose to break the barriers those identities placed upon you?

That you allowed yourself to transcend, be more, be different, be yourself?

When did you accept your destiny?

When did you allow yourself to be held back?

That you allowed yourself to believe you were less than, less worthy, or bad?

When did you allow that to change?

When WILL be the day, that you allow yourself to be you?

That you will be proud of all that makes you unique and all that makes you the same?

When WILL you bring your full and authentic self to others?

As one who way too often compromises who she is and what she wants, I recently posted this on facebook, and thought it might make an interesting profile addition here, a it more insight of who I am and what I seek.

• I want a best friend, I want the man who shares his day with me.   I want to celebrate the joys, successes and sorrows with each other.   I expect to be actively involved in his life, even if at a distance for now.
• I want someone who challenges me to be a better me every day.   Not for himself, but because he knows that it makes ME a better person, and in turn I share that better person with him.
• I want something deep and meaningful.   I enjoy sex, who doesn't, but I am much more than JUST a sexual being, and I want,  and need much more than that alone in my relationship with you.
• I desire regular contact.   A little note, an email, a voicemail, something that says that I'm on your mind, and you are thinking of me.    I enjoy doing these for you as well and find that receiving such things keeps me connected, focused, and feeling loved.
• I expect you to be accessible.   If I'm having a really hard time, I expect to be able to contact you.  An email, a voicemail, an instant message, the medium alone is not important, but I can not and will not sit back and wait until it is convenient for you while I hang on my every moment praying to be able to share something with you.   I realize everyone has a life and cannot be accessible 24/7 to someone, but reasonable expectations that you attempt to keep I contact with me, as I do with you is not too much to be expected.
• I seek the one who will take the time it takes to get through this journey.    I know at the heart of me, who I am, but I'm not going to kneel before you and offer you all that I am from the moment I meet you, this is a journey, a wonderful journey with beautiful sights along the way, take the journey with me?

I was really surprised to find that I had only one photo on my profile and not really the most flattering photo at that.

I've updated my pictures, several current *g* rated pics, and a few other (but I think much more flatering) older pics.

Enjoy!