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About Etruscan1963
Is it possible to live this lifestyle that you’ve chosen for yourself?
I suppose before I can answer that, I ought to give you a little background information about myself and my chosen lifestyle. I am 49 years old. I have a college degree, a job that pays the bills and more, and what I think is a strong sense of who I am. In most respects, I’m just like hundreds of other men’s in the world. I don’t like to cook and I hate doing laundry. I cry … sometimes a lot. I have a sometimes short temper and a usually quick wit and a smart assed reply. I have family and friends that mean the world to me and that irritate the snot out of me at the same time. I am looking for the woman of my life, that will be totally devoted to me and who adores me too. I want her to be my friend, my lover, my confidante, a bitch, a sweetheart, and a fuck toy. Oh, did I forget to mention that? and also, in addition to everything else, a slave.
So what does that mean? Slavery evokes pictures of whips and chains and menial tasks, of oppression and suffering. You see, I want to make sure we’re all on the same page. Slave can and does entail all of the above. A whip, chains, dishes, cleaning … My experience within my slaves has included everything mentioned, well, minus the oppression.
Slavery and what it means to your life?
Well, basically whatever the Master says and fuck toy does. You’ve relinquished the control in the relationship to Him and given yourself to Him for safe keeping. He can decide what and when you eat, what clothes you are allowed to wear, what time you are going to bed. He says when you need to rest, take your medicine, and go to the doctor. The housework is your responsibility. You do the dishes each time after eating. You get up first each morning to bring His coffee to Him in bed. Physically, you are there for His pleasure, to use or not use as He chooses. Your goal is, very simply, to keep Him happy and to follow whatever instructions He gives you.
Doesn’t that sound romantic? Person A (you) deriving your pleasure solely from serving Person B (the Master) … that sounds romantic and thrilling and utterly implausible for any length of time, right? “Well, sure, fuck toy, that’s great for a weekend, but what about when Monday comes?”
The foundation for that lifestyle is the most important cornerstone of the relationship. Both parties must have a thorough understanding and acceptance of their place and their role in the relationship. The Master must establish the line (and enforce it) to help His slave find her place. That line doesn’t and can’t change. Master will have His own way of doing this, and each slave will have certain methods that will better help them. The manner in which it happens isn’t as important as the fact that it must happen and each party needs to comprehend what is happening and why. Once that line is drawn, the Master can then “blur” the edges occasionally without the risk of destroying the foundation for their relationship.
Master’s line — you are His slave. I may also be His friend, His lover, His partner in crime, His girlfriend, His wife, His whatever, but you are His slave. He may love and adore you but you are His slave, His property and He can and will do with you as He pleases. Neither of you will lose sight of that. You will understand, accept, and embrace your place at His feet, and because you have that understanding, He can pull you up off the floor to hold you as you sob because you have a horrible fight with your parents; your dog was hit by a car, and at your work things not going well. You are not going to be confused by Him relating to you as your friend or your boyfriend. He’s taking care of you, loving you, and helping you to get through it in the manner in which you need His help, and you will, quite happily, go back to your cushion at His feet when it’s all said and done. If you are sick and unwell and He may choose to pile you on the couch with pillows, blankets, hot chocolate and cartoons while He straightens up the kitchen. You don’t have to worry that perhaps He doesn’t need or want you or that the balance of power has suddenly shifted. You can take a walk through town and laugh, kid and joke with each other. He can hold your hand instead of your leash. He can let you hold Him when He needs to fall apart.
I think the problem that most used to have with the concept of this type of relationship is that slaves had the mistaken belief that they fall to their knees, the collar goes on, and there are a SLAVE, no longer human like the rest of us.
Well, no shit that can’t work. WHAT! are you thinking?
It’s easy to get caught up in the fantastical world of slavery. Fiction abounds with stories of women who fall into their slave-selves to the exclusion of everything else
Real life relationships have to have background and consideration. Masters and slaves alike have to understand that it’s not all going to be an all day, all orgies, and the entire time type network. People work or go to school. People have responsibilities to families and friends. People have children. People get sick and have bad days. These are all unavoidable truths of everyday life.
Oh? You’re correct. I never said you can’t be a slave all the time. I said the FANTASY can’t exist all the time. There’s a difference. Master can and does expect your servitude and obedience all the time every day. He can and does expect your respect and gratitude every day. Master can and does understand that sometimes, things aren’t perfect and have to improvise.
In the other hand, you don’t always get along. You don’t always like Him. The truth? Sometimes, you will think He’s a real bastard. He knows it. Sometimes, He thinks you are just a bitch. You know it. Underneath it all, you utterly adore Him and you want nothing more than to stay at His feet, serving Him. He doesn’t expect you to like or agree with everything He says. He does, however, expect you to do as you are told.
He will develop an incredible line of communication. You have to be free and encouraged to ask questions and talk about things that bother you or concern you about what He’s said. There will be times you will talk for hours about something He wants to do to you. He’s always listened to what you have to say and your concerns. Sometimes, He’s altered what He has planned because it suits Him to do so after talking with you, but you have talked about it, and then concerned or not, you do what He says. Both of you will established the trust before the collar was ever put on, and with the trust that He’s earned, I know that He will never do anything that’s contrary to your best interests, and when you are scared and shaken and sorting through whatever you’ve just done, He’s going to be there to hold you and get you through it.
You are far from a text book, picture-perfect slave. You don’t ever want to be that slave. You like your quirks and so does He. The best you can hope for each day, every day is to serve Him faithfully and to do the best of your abilities and to love Him unconditionally. You don’t lose sight of your place with Him, and you will manage that lifestyle just fine.
Now, if you like what I think of this relationship, and then you can write me back. |
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