EricaTheRed


ericathegood Female Submissive, 18, bristol	ericadd Male Switch, 52, Ontario	ericasissy Male Submissive, 38, Seattle, Washington

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	About EricaTheRed I visit Kentucky 10 days per month. I am looking for submissives who enjoy bondage, knifeplay, h2e and ass play. Gender is not important to me. I have 10 years experience in the lifestyle and have taught classes in many bdsm activities. I can provide Lifestyle recommendations.

This essay written 5 years ago when I was pursuing a submissive lifestyle.
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I had the opportunity to give a speech about what I would add to the Safe, Sane, Consensual Creed that many Leatherfolk use as a mantra to show the world that we are not abusers. My first response on hearing the question was, "oh, a little intelligence and common sense, wouldn't go amiss". But examination of my own life proved that I had not practiced either one in the pursuit of my great want to live a life of service to a beloved Master.

And when I looked at SSC with clearer eyes I realized that is did not satisfy my need as basis for lifestyle goals. This year the 911 trajedy showed us that none of us are safe anywhere anytime. Safety is simply a construct, a fluid standard whereby we can only define one activity as safer than another one. Self-righteously we compare our play, our lives to others giving us a false sense of superiority.

And Sanity is even more troublesome a concept. The relgious zealots who picket our events are not sane. But neither am I sane when my most visceral reation to someone putting a knife to my throat is to lean into it.

So for me, Consensuality was the only thing of consequence. Am I, everyday, choosing my life? Do I both choose my life and take full responsibility for the choices I make, both good a bad? I want to live my life making conscious effort to own my responsibility and learn everyday from the mistakes of yesterday and strive to make better ones tomorrow.

Slogans can be useful rituals, a sign post that says start your path here, more information will follow. What do I wish to add to SSC? I fervently hope that as we pursue our traditions, create new ones, discard old ones we temper every choice with Forgiveness. I hope that dominants can find forgiveness for their submissives when their imperfections hinder their performance of their contracted duties. I hope submissives can forgive their dominants who really can't live up to the god-like omnipotence of a fiction novel. And as much as we need to extend forgiveness to others we need to claim that same forgiveness for ourselves. Without forgiveness, regret for past mistakes will slow or stop our progress in our respective journeys.

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