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Here more often these days, but you're more likely to find me at one of the other villages.

At this point I visit only to exchange messages or chat with people I've had dialogues with previously - if you are not one of those, then it's not likely I will respond to messages or chat requests. Not impossible, but highly unlikely. Thank you.

Oh ... let me add: one liner messages never worked before, and they certainly won't work now.

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6/28/2010 11:10:38 PM
Hah. Sometimes this place is pretty wonderful.

3/16/2010 9:49:21 AM
Probably shouldn't have deleted the profile with all it's updates.

10/21/2009 10:50:06 PM
Thank goodness for mail controls and filters!

10/17/2009 9:08:33 PM
I really don't get why so many switches and submissives write to me.  Give me a break ... read the profile!

10/11/2009 12:34:14 AM
Yup, it's the people!

8/10/2009 9:26:44 PM
All of these sites just keep getting stranger and stranger. Or maybe it's the people.

7/13/2009 10:16:12 PM
The photo policy here is a mystery to me. An innocent cleavage shot was rejected (perhaps too closely cropped? ... huh???) but a less discreet one was approved for the couples profile. Go figure! I am still amazed (and amused) by the people who contact me here.

6/16/2009 12:41:21 AM
Life is very good indeed, and I am feeling quite fortunate.

6/10/2009 11:54:54 PM
Hmmm ... can't seem to add a photo to this or our couples profile here.

5/20/2009 4:23:02 PM
AGAIN: PLEASE READ the profile and journal. If I am here, I am saying hello to/exchanging messages with people I actually know. Only local (SF Bay Area) profiles are visible to me. Much email is filtered (out-of-state, switches, other submissives, blank profiles etc.). If I don't already know you, or we have not corresponded in the past, your email won't be opened. Not seeking. I am really not as bitchy as all this sounds. But I am Owned, and weary of people who don't read.

5/19/2009 2:32:07 PM
It has indeed been awhile since I have posted a "random thoughts" verbiage spill ... happy exuberant randomness... Very happily distracted and engaged. Latex! Identity crisis as I try to re-vamp or possibly re-name/re-create my various online id's. Hmm ... make them all the same name? Wallowing! Gorgeous weather ... seems everyone is exercising and gearing up for the summer (yuck, Fall & Winter are my faves), for health or just because. Contemplating travel. Photo shoots!

5/9/2009 6:50:17 PM
Please read the profile. If I am here, I am catching up with old friends ... nothing more, thank you very much!

4/18/2009 10:18:26 PM
Well it's been months ... back to check msgs and lo and behold, same old-same old place. Done.

8/24/2008 12:42:28 AM
I do so love a clever flirt. Nothing like sexy banter to pique one's interest! Enjoying surprise ... the unexpected ... newness ...

Unbelievably wonderful to be back home. And little time/interest at the moment for this virtual world...much prefer the visceral reality of touch, smells, tastes and sounds.

8/20/2008 9:23:05 AM
I keeping editing the last entry and it is already too long so here I am again.

Just thinking about various moments in play (past and present) and how prescribed "scenes" just don't work for me. In-the-moment, go-with-the-flow ...paying attention and feeding off the chemistry is just so incredibly hot. The unpredictability of it is exhilarating. Before you know it (to use my past words), vulnerability is feeding lust in a very emotionally visceral way.

It is positively addicting.

8/19/2008 9:07:21 PM
Oh my, but it is good to be back on this coast and it will be very good to be home.
It's been awhile since a "random thoughts" post. Have not been online much for all the right/good reasons.

Possessed. No, not a la the Exorcist but that yummy "claimed" feeling that just melts me. So ok, ok, there are aspects ...close to ownership, that do strike a chord. Interesting. Or not. Maybe just having a weak moment.

We have been distracted by the Olympics and watching more complete, non-US coverage was interesting. Summer or winter ... they've always been at the top of my list whenever they are on. (And now trampoline is an Olympic sport! The notion sounds hilarious. Who knew? I maintain it's a vehicle for those who don't have what it takes to compete in the all-around. He disagrees.)

My interest in so much of this has whittled down to focusing on a few hot areas, with the on-going wallowing theme of course. Still inspiring enough to be part of my daily thoughts. And for the first time EVER with anyone, an "ow fucking ow you asshole" outburst from me. Huh? Just an irritating smile in response. And a reminder that it was my idea after all. Hmmm...my sweet sexy beast.

The best part? We laugh. All the time. If there isn't something on-going, why bother? Nurture and grow. And if it isn't fun, seriously...really not worth the effort!


7/30/2008 1:27:06 PM
Oh my. Delicious. Finally. There is no place like "home."

More to come. Perhaps a final entry here (may move these elsewhere but still pondering that). For now, nap time!

7/23/2008 5:26:04 PM
Surrender entry #2 (again).

Re-did this because well, I needed for it to make sense and a certain Monsieur said it didn't. Hoping this is clearer ...

Talking with a domme friend the other day
trying to articulate more on emotional surrender. To me it means allowing someone "in," letting the walls down, exposing those raw places where vulnerability feeds lust. How delicious is that? Where the elegant veneer is stripped away and craving and hunger triumph.

Acknowledging love might be emotional surrender to some, but that isn't what I mean here. That said, I think it requires love to get to this place which is primal and painful and emotionally visceral.

I need this raw, stripped feeling to play a certain way. As I said, it is a path to the edge for me.

Hmmm ...delicious new territory. The realm of possibility - transition, growth, heat and discovery, and especially intimacy - is indescribably inspiring.





7/20/2008 8:04:37 AM
More randomness ...

An alfresco drink with a woman friend the other day, when a group of drunken very young men (and I use the term loosely) comes up, one of them waving a huge penis-shaped dildo as if it were popping out of his pants. We both just looked down at it, and continued our conversation. Such a disappointed lot they were! Hoping to shock and we didn't miss a beat. If they only knew.

So, I just learned that when looking at my profile the background for my journal entries appears pink. PINK? I hate pink. Tried to change it but can't. For the record, I hate pink (the color).

I could go on about "ownership" and commitment (this is new) thoughts ... can I float down this surrender path without them? I fear not.

And yes, am conscious of paralysis-by-analysis and the need to just go for it. As I said before, blah-blah-blah, less talk, more play and we will all find our paths.

It looks to be a decent day here ... more later of course.



7/17/2008 4:29:20 PM
I thought I had noted earlier (but can't find it now) that the city I frequent is known for festivals and it has one upcoming devoted to kink! Thrilled. Now I recall that a similar event is where the penchant for laughing started.   Sorry, but some of what gets people off, I find funny.



7/15/2008 8:36:55 PM
Random just because ...

Surrender = ownership? Hmmm....

Pain requires patience. Before, during, after.

Years now on these various sites and still amazed (surprised) at the intelligent life that does exist amidst the not so...

Lately being slapped has just pissed me off to the point of distraction. To the point of feeling enraged even days later. Not understanding why ... but thinking about it. And of course hoping this reaction vanishes.

The All-Star Game. Now extra innings. Love it!








7/8/2008 6:03:55 PM
Reminded that my instincts never fail me. As he said today, ignoring them is a mistake I made in the past.

On a different note, came across some previous writings I might just post here (or the other village) from time-to-time.

We shall see.



7/7/2008 8:38:55 PM
More musings on a very lovely summer night ...

We spoke earlier today about many things. How chemistry just is or isn't (and can it vanish? absolutely!), when pain tolerance varies, consistency/continuity, how can someone with a sense-of-urgency mesh with someone more laid back. Yummy rambling conversation ...

Chemistry --- that delicious intangible that can be almost palpable.

Hmmm ...some folks didn't like that I find so much of this stuff visually comical. Have you ever looked at the photos with an eye for the absurd?

In-the-moment ownership ... more on this later. I think it is the only "ownership" scenario that sounds even remotely appealing to me.

And back to surrender ...more on that too.

Some emails have me convinced our literacy problems are more serious than anyone realizes.

Lately focusing especially on and appreciating aesthetic details ...architecture, couture, language...beauty.



7/3/2008 12:52:03 AM
Time shared and distance erased a bit today. Lovely, delicious afternoon and still an amazing connection. Always surprises me.

Last entry edited because hmmm ..... it was a bit snippy wasn't it?

6/22/2008 10:47:46 AM
Inappropriate laughter ... more specifically, mine.

Recent discussion on my penchant to find so much of what we see/read about on these various sites and do in play absurd, visually comical and SO not erotic that it has made playing with others a challenge.

Hmm...the couples profile responses will have to wait. Oh well! Maybe it's a phase? Maybe I should try to eroticize laughter?

6/1/2008 9:24:43 AM
Reviewing my oft-revised entries. I love to write and was asked to express myself here, but geez I am verbose (e.g. my last journal entry).

Blah, blah, blah. Less talk, more play.

Long story short: it is about nurtured love and trust from which comes growth.

Not too surprising I'd say.

5/29/2008 10:00:55 PM
Surrender. This was the topic of discussion the other day and night, inspired by a friend who saw it being debated on another site. I have always said this was more about surrender than anything else though now for me the meaning has changed.

It was once about giving up physical control ...surrendering control to find pleasure in exploring pain, fear, the so-called "edge". Giving in to the primal. Using the physical to get to the emotional.

I have learned that for me, the real and meaningful surrender doesn't necessarily start and certainly does not grow with just the physical. It requires a deeper emotional facet. Letting the wall down, allowing someone in to more than just my body. Being raw, exposed, and excruciatingly vulnerable. I've realized I crave that specific vulnerability. Have come close but have yet to reach it. But that's the delicious journey, oui?

I've learned it is my path to the edge. It's what precludes casual sex. It's what this dance is about. It is not essential to my being, but I revel in the seeking.

It is not about pleasure in just any pain, but heartfelt pain (or frankly no pain at all) if that makes sense. The thought takes my breath away. It terrifies me while it melts me.



5/27/2008 10:39:52 PM
Some people think I am becoming jaded. Is this possible? I hope not! Though it is true that nothing in this world of kink shocks or surprises me any longer. I rather miss being appalled. My research for arousing, shocking kink has been interesting to say the least. But that's another story for another day. 

5/25/2008 10:32:04 AM
What can I say, mais je suis tres contente.

More VERY random thoughts (in no special order) ...
Lots of challenges these days, but even more to savor.

I sometimes get the loveliest, thought-provoking and well-written messages (thank you!). To the others the only response can be, "huh?".
Thank you, but I don't do the "friend" thing on here (or other sites for that matter). My friends are people I know, have at least met, and they know who they are...and I don't understand why anyone else needs to. It seems, I don't know...grade-schoolish? Just my opinion and an explanation to those who have inquired.
Changes of direction on this journey. More than ever back to being sheer-sensual-pleasure-focused which is what started me down this path in the first place. It's just more fun and this should be fun.

Lots of intrigue/questions about the re-vamping of my "interests" list here. For the record - I despise those checklists. They reveal nothing.

Keeping this journal thing is an interesting exercise even if it feels somewhat silly. Not as insightful as the blog I once had elsewhere largely because I think I said it all there (though I keep adding to old entries when a thought strikes).

Body-language ... especially averting the eyes... SO revealing. A no-brainer really.
Finally, courtesy of one of my (invisible) "friends":
"People may or may not say what they mean... but they always say something designed to get what they want."
(David Mamet)

Now isn't that the truth.

In the end, if between serious lovers, this can be a delicious dance (and I love to dance). However it is just as much simply adult game- and role-playing.

5/21/2008 10:40:33 PM
Kissing. There are so many things we can do in our search for pleasure but I have to say that kissing is one of many things at the top of my list. What's good for me might not be good for the next one but all I know is, there is nothing like kissing chemistry. Those deep, hungry, soul-touching kisses absolutely melt me.

"A man's kiss is his signature..."
(Mae West)

5/18/2008 11:22:35 PM
Give me acute and visceral, not fuzzy and floating ....hmmm .... during a recent chat a friend brought up the topic of "sub-space," something I don't quite know or understand and have never experienced. We all react differently. For me it is about the heat-of-the-moment(s) and being ever-present. A shared experience. Cannot imagine drifting off into some other possibly un-focused state-of-mind.

So, unless "sub-space" is that place I go during certain pleasure-canceling activities when all I am thinking is "I hate this and when is it going to be over"...then no, I have never been there.

5/11/2008 2:42:36 PM
Continued musings and random thoughts:

- So, why is "ownership" assumed based on my stated unavailability? So irritating.

I would find ownership suffocating.  And I am not into breath-play.

There are many permutations to what we do and how things can be structured here and elsewhere.

While its signficance (or lack thereof) is oft-discussed, I am nope, not "owned." Though it is one of our "hottest" (or is that most heated?) on-going topics (heh)!

- Amazed at how cavalier people can be about playing safely. Not talking about so-called "edgey" kink activities, just your basic body fluids. Especially considering the previously mentioned village nature of this small online community. Got into a long chat about this. Ick. Seriously.

- Hotels, I do love them. Decadent ones that is. But lately on-going travel is making me think that too much of a good thing is possible. Still I sit here in my current home-away-from-home in Canada after quite a lovely day, with room service ...one of my very favorite things.

4/20/2008 6:18:28 PM
So, in my BDSm "alphabet," apparently "T is for Tawse." (!!!)

4/19/2008 8:01:03 PM
More Miscellaneous Musings ...

- Amazing what a small world this online kink "community" really is. It's rather like a village where everyone knows (or knows of) one another. Hmmm ...interesting, informative, alarming, always entertaining!

- Arrogance is never warranted and never ever sexy in my book. Deja-vu, repeating myself but it just never ever ceases to amaze me. Ugh. Seriously. The accompanying personality = a deal-breaker for me. No brainer. I don't suffer fools and if they are women I have even less tolerance for obvious reasons.
- Let's see ... kink update? Nah. Not for everyone ... those who should know, know. Some things better left to the (public's anyway) imagination. Suffice it to say I've been busy though my view on what it is I/we do is not what it once was.

- Hmmm ... still adore the endless wallow.

- Surprise - on the very rare occasion that I find a reason to chat here, there are interesting exchanges to be had. Funny place, this. Definitely need to improve on my erotic vocabulary, en francais.




3/15/2008 9:21:31 AM
Lush: savory, delicious, appealing to the senses; sumptuous. Such was a much needed retreat into decadence and intensity in a gorgeous place.  Such intensity. Uncommon and unique chemistry he says.

Still savoring, sated.

3/2/2008 10:34:52 PM
Time to bring this favorite back to the top:

"Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary."
(C.Beaton)

The extraordinary: sought and found.

2/12/2008 6:26:45 PM
Oh my. It is interesting how purposeful delusion and selective views can help some people get through their lives. A version of rationalization. It's actually worse than the proverbial head-in-the-sand/up-the-ass. Definitely not for me!

But, the entertainment value is as they say, priceless.

1/4/2008 11:21:49 PM
"La nuit porte conseil".

12/27/2007 10:42:29 AM
Delicious year this turned out to be, one of transition, acceptance, revelation, surrender ... and oh-so-much more. I hope everyone is enjoying the holidays and is looking forward to a wonderful new year. I am here now, just for the occasional forum perusal and saying hello to friends.

11/25/2007 10:53:49 PM
The on-going (if not daily) mind-fuck is a most delicious thing, and he is an expert at it, "gets" it ... just the smallest comment here and there...hints, nuance ...yummy fun.

11/4/2007 8:01:44 AM
Gorgeous shoes? Christian Louboutin!

10/29/2007 7:46:11 PM
Transparency. Finally! It makes all the difference. And feeling cherished. Being shown. Actions speak louder than words. Yum. And all this time, right in front of me. Who knew.

Will continue to respond to interesting emails ...

I learned a long time ago that even the rarest connections can be lost for lack of attention to things that really, are not so difficult.

10/15/2007 6:54:05 PM
Got to love those blessings in disguise.

9/23/2007 10:09:20 AM
Busy, too busy ... but deliciously so!

9/11/2007 11:07:06 PM
It's hot ... not "hawt" ... and rocks, not "rawks"! The well-written and spoken word is so very seductive, spare me the teen-speak please. (Just a minor rant about a small pet peeve.)

9/1/2007 10:48:26 AM
Journal entries tell the tale, however this is a favorite quote so I keep it at the top :

"Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary." (C.Beaton)

Always seeking the extraordinary.

8/31/2007 6:05:45 PM
... and another.    Am appreciating how 3 is not a crowd at all ... yum.

8/18/2007 6:48:14 PM
Hmmm ..... delicious day.

6/25/2007 11:20:09 AM
It has been awhile since I've perused this site.
Seeing if there might be anything/one new, different, surprising, wonderful ....

11/17/2006 10:40:46 PM
Submissive or slave? Labels - I REALLY despise them. I find them, along with the "check boxes" on most of these sites to be far too limiting - they just don't suit me. And can't possibly define anyone.

Most definitely not a slave.

If anything, I'd say "pleasure-seeker" ... the pleasure being ours together.

Interested not in a punishment dynamic, but one formed around pleasure.

This should be a collaborative, sensual exploration.   If your profile is a general "order" on how women should respond to you, then we would not be a match.

Surrendering, yielding control is what starts it all. And there is no telling what chemistry might inspire ...



10/6/2006 10:37:56 PM
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." (Anais Nin) Overused, but this quote sums it up. Submission is not a "gift".

9/24/2006 6:24:09 PM
A wonderful and delicious end to last week, to say the least.

9/5/2006 10:15:32 PM
"An object in possession seldom retains the same charm that it had in pursuit." (Pliny)

8/23/2006 10:25:23 PM
Much prefer a man who likes to hunt and seduce his prey, and who understands that the seduction continues after the capture.

8/12/2006 9:05:15 AM
Nuance, in spoken or written word can be a revelation ...and most do not realize how even the simplest IM response can be laced with it. I am blessed with incredible instinct and intuition, but paying attention to the red flags can be a challenge.

8/6/2006 11:26:04 AM
This is about chemistry, the connection first. It's either there or it's not - it can't be fabricated. Believe it or not, one can sense it in an email. We must of course share proclivities too, but the kink is really icing on the cake. Contrary to popular belief, intelligent life does exist here, but it's this chemistry thing ... rare, and hard to find anywhere let alone online. I know from experience it is not impossible (I have indeed found it here!), but it is the proverbial needle in a haystack.

5/7/2006 9:28:01 PM
Reminded this weekend of how important and seductive words can be ... succulent, visceral, ripe, decadent, excruciating, exquisite ... are some favorites. I find delicious, anything done exquisitely, impeccably.

4/23/2006 12:26:51 PM
"The heart should be fed upon the truth, as insects on a leaf, till it be tinged with the color, and show its food in every minutest fibre." ---Samuel Taylor Coleridge Profound disappointment (but not surprise) yesterday in someone I once held dear. Red flags and instinct ignored. Truly relieved, definitely stronger, and now, with an eye to the future, quite happy to be moving on.

4/18/2006 11:03:16 PM
Peeling back the layers and constantly learning so much about myself. I thought I knew but am realizing it has only just begun.

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