I am a Gentle Dom, looking for a Domestic Discipline type of relationship with depth, quality and lots of communication. I am a romantic, caring, sensitive, affectionate (both in public and private), non-macho, straight and honest guy. My marriage is open for the purpose of seeking close connections with others.
Ideally, I am looking for someone who wants intimacy and responds to tenderness, closeness and real romance on a long-term basis. I am not looking for one night stands but a long term relationship. However, I am not looking for marriage or financial ties.
I don't drink or smoke, and I'm drug and disease free. I perfer to spend quality time with others, sharing heart-to-heart. I work fulltime, raising a family, and loving those in my path with my own unique style of loving.
A shoulder to cry on, Arms to hold you, A word to encourage you, An objective opinion to advise you, A heart to love you, Gentleness to smooth out the rough spots, Tenderness to comfort you, Honesty to be for real. It’s all about love and respect and treating you like I would like to be treated. I am a touchy-feely person. I don’t want to just talk about it. I want to show you.
You may be thinking "Is this guy for real?", but before you pass on by without responding, let me ask you this...what if i am "the one" you have been looking for? You won't know unless you respond and we correspond at least a few times. What have you go to lose?
Transitioning
Love
There is a
process in my heart that I have had difficulty describing to others, but I need
to talk about it, and hopefully once I?ve described it, you will understand
where I?m coming from.
I care about
people. I may not like everyone I meet,
but I do genuinely care about people and their individual needs. Everyone needs love sometimes and I try to
love others by showing them respect in my interactions with them. That is one way to show love to others. So every person that I meet, I start out with
them having a clean slate on the blackboard in my head. Then as I interact with them, I take notes,
writing about them on that blackboard in my head. Some people, when I meet them for the first
time, come out kicking and screaming and I have to duck as soon as I see them,
because for some reason they don?t want to have a peaceable conversation with
me. Their names get ?written down? along
with what they did and a strong note to be cautious around them in the future,
if not avoid them altogether. Others are
receptive, showing the same respect that I offer them, and we can interact
together peaceably. And then there are
the ones with whom I immediately feel a connection and I not only interact with
them, I interact with more depth and feeling than those who are simply
receptive of me. Those are the ones I
like to get to know in detail, filling up my blackboard really fast in
multicolored chalks. With those people,
it doesn?t take much time before the relationship I have with them goes from
being polite and respectful to having a deeper feeling of caring for them and
their individual needs. That feeling is
a different, deeper and more intense feeling than what I feel toward most, and
that is where my heart begins to build a personal relationship with them
feeling a closer kinship to them.
Now if that
person happens to be female and if I also happen to be sexually turned on by them,
I begin to feel a love growing toward them that makes me want to be with them
at close range, vulnerably showing them my heart, and learning what is in
theirs as well. Romance is a part of
what I feel at such times and I call that being in love.
As I get to
know someone, this whole process of getting to know them transitions from one
level of relationship to the other. If I
see a reason to limit the development of that process because of protocols or
necessity, I limit how far things go, but doing so is not always an easy thing
to do. Some people just draw me in by
the connection that I feel toward them. It?s
a lovely thing when that connection is realized.
This process
occurs naturally for me. I don?t have to work at it because it comes easily,
almost like breathing. But for me to act
opposite of that behavior, I have to work at it. Those are the different levels of relationship
that I have toward others I meet and interact with. No one is exempt. You can get along with most of the people you
meet everyday, but you can?t get along with all of them, it just isn?t meant to
be?
I will be visiting the Seattle area during the second and third week of Jan, 12-22.? I would love to meet some of you that live in the area while I'm on vacation.
