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EbonyQueen4msub

Female Submissive, 35, Sacramento, California
Male Submissive, 29, Savannah, Georgia
Male Dominant, 34, Charlotte, North Carolina
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EbonyQueen4msub - Female Dominant, Riverside County California | BDSM Profile on Collarspace

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About EbonyQueen4msub




If you want a dispassionate, cruel, merciless bitch, I am NOT the Domme for you. I am a sadist, but I am also sensual. I am strict, but fair. I seek far more than just a mindless slug, so if you cannot make your own decisions, If you are unable to function without having me breathing down your neck, then keep looking. I am not a babysitter, I am not a mind reader, I am not into one-sided conversations. you must possess a modicum of intelligence, and self confidence....that's both, not one or the other. If that's not you, keep stepping. I am open to friendship, but I am not seeking to own any cyber subs. IF YOU ARE SCOTTISH, IGNORE EVERYTHING I JUST SAID AND MOVE TO THE TOP OF THE LIST. Did I mention a sense of humor? If you feel that a sub should live out his days as a miserable, broken, shell of a human being, do get some counseling, but don't message me.
It's always fun to reconnect with good people, and to compare notes to see just how much you've both grown while they were away. 

== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
100% Dominant
100% Master/Mistress
100% Bondage giver
87% Sadist
85% Owner
81% Primal (Hunter)
76% Brat tamer
76% Degradation giver
63% Voyeur
57% Experimentalist
42% Daddy/Mommy
36% Vanilla
20% Non-monogamist
15% Switch
8% Exhibitionist
6% Brat
5% Submissive
4% Masochist
3% Primal (Prey)
0% Pet
0% girl/boy
0% Degradation receiver
0% Ageplayer
0% Bondage receiver
0% Slave
0% All-Rounder

Ok, so I don't wear leather or latex. If you need to see your Domme in anything other than street clothes, then do not read beyond this point. It's not that I don't appreciate the smell of leather, or the way it hugs the body. I just don't have the time to "get into character" every time I want to interact with my sub. I am a simple girl, and what I seek is a vanilla life with plenty of protocol, rules, and kink thrown in. I neither need, nor want, to have to dress a part to please or turn someone else on. What I seek is real. If you can't be happy with me as I am, then I do not need you in my life. 
There is always that one. The one that makes you smile. The one who can read your mind. The one who consumes your thoughts. The one you want above all others. Perfect in every way. The one you cannot have. The one that "got away." The one that remains an obsession, even though you know it is not to be. The one you will never forget. The one you compare all others to. The one who has ruined you for anyone else. There is always that one you just can't get away from no matter how hard you try. And God knows I try. 
Well,  I think I am finally done with CollarSpace, formerly Collarme. It's been fun and often times very frustrating. I have met some genuine people who I am happy to call friends, and I have met some really odd individuals. I have also met someone who fits me like a glove, and if things work out, I will have finally collared the perfect slave for me. To all my friends, I wish you well, and hope each of you finds someone special. I think most of you have my email address, so I hope you will continue to keep in touch. It's been a long ride, and now it's time to close the book on this chapter of my life. Wish me luck :)
While I do enjoy seeing a sub in bikinis or a thong, I am not looking for a sissy. I seek the alpha male in public who can set that aside and be content at my feet when in my presence. I am a sadist, but do not seek a pain slut. While I have nothing against pain sluts, I seek someone who fears pain and will try to avoid it, not seek it out. Do not mistake my caring nature for weakness. I am a bitch. I have high expectations, and if you do not serve me according to my standards, there will be hell to pay.
Well, it's that time of year again. Sending all my friends on both sides of the coin a very Merry Christmas. I hope that the New Year brings the fulfillment of all our wishes and dreams. Be safe, be well, be happy, and I'll see you all next year. xx

Please do not invite me to chat here. For whatever reason the chat causes my pc to freeze. 

Looking for my EV. I know you're here somewhere. Come out, come out, wherever you are. :) 

Well, friends, I am back for a while. My leap of faith has me temporarily suspended in mid-air, so will see where things lead over the course of the next several months.

I am no longer looking. I am taking a leap of faith and following my heart. To all the friends I've made, I wish you all the best, and hope you all find exactly what you're looking for. I'll be taking this down in the next few days after I answer all the messages I received while I was away.

I sometimes log on just to play the games, so don't be offended if I don't answer your messages right away. :)

Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there....and a special shout out to all the single moms, and moms married to military men who do the job of both parents.

To EV...

 

Should you happen to read this, I just wanted to extend my sincere thanks for the past several months of friendship we shared. I hope that you are able to resolve your issues, and that you can eventually move on and live the life you have craved for so long. I'll miss our long conversations and your unique sense of timing and humor. Know that you will be missed, and never forgotten. And when you figure things out, you still have a friend.

 

Goddess P

Since my last entry, I have had more than a few angry messages form subs who seem to have been under the impression that they were "the one." Sorry boys, but I did warn you...it's even in black and white. So for those of you who didn't heed my warnings, foolishly thinking you could change my mind, I have but one thing to say, and that is....

I TOLD YOU SO!!!!

 

That said, I am still here for those I consider friends, and for those of you who truly know where you stand, yes, there is a grandfather clause in regards to the Scots statement. ;)

 

First of all, I would like to thank everyone who sent along their prayers and well wishes. My dad is recovering nicely, and thanks to a couple of changes to his meds, he is doing much better.

 

Secondly, I would like to point out that, if you read my journal...top to bottom boys...you will see that I am NOT looking for online slaves.

 

Thirdly, I am retracting my previous statement regarding Scottish subs. I am very happy with my Brit, who just happens to have been born to Scottish parents. Can you say double yummy?

 

Fourthly, I am not looking for a relationship...that void has been filled rather nicely, thank you very much.

 

I am here for friendship...nothing more. So all you "subs" looking to top from the bottom so that you can score kinky sex, there is nothing here for you.

 

 

Hello all. I'm here asking for prayers again. Last night I was in the ER with my dad after another bad fall. No broken ribs this time, but he's rattled his brains pretty good this time. This week he is scheduled for extensive testing to try to figure out why his motor skills have begun to deteriorate. I won't be around much, as I cannot access CM from my cell, but I will be on yahoo intermitantly throughout the day, for those select few who have my email and IM addresses. As always, I thank you for your kind messages that await me when I return, and for your patience when I don't get back to you right away.

 

For those of you wondering at my silence yesterday, I had some technical problems, which prevented me answering my messages. I promise to get to everyone as time allows today and tomorrow. Thanks for your patience, :)

I find it rather disconcerting when people...subs and Dominants alike...visit my profile again and again and don't have the courtesy to at least say hello. So to all you repeat offenders, do drop a line before you go, and  I promise I won't bite...hard ;)

For those of you who believe in the power of prayer, I have another favor to ask....please pray for the mum of a friend of mine who has suffered a fall. I don't have any details, but she's 84 and very frail. She has a son and four daughters who love her dearly, and your prayers will be much appreciated.

 

To those who prayed for my sister a while back, she is doing much better. She needs to be tested again in 3 months, but for now she is cancer free. Thank you again for your prayers and well wishes.

 

God bless and if I can ever return the favor...please ask.

Well, another Valentine's Day has come and gone, leaving me feeling just a little bit wistful, but more than anything, I have nothing but loathing for this joke of a day. 

 

Everywhere I went today there were people gushing over what is nothing more than a retailer's wet dream. The husband and father ahead of me at the grocery store buying flowers for his wife and daughter....the young couple at the doctor's office celebrating their one month anniversary.....the elderly man on the casino shuttle telling any and everyone who would listen that the lovely lady beside him has been his Valentine for almost 60 years....ok, they were actually kinda cute. Everywhere I looked was a sea of red and pink flowers, stuffed animals, and chocolate.

 

I have always hated this day more than any other. Shouldn't love between two people be celebrated every day they're blessed to have even one precious moment together...to laugh, to cry, to argue, to witness something beautiful.....

 

Instead men scramble at the last minute to buy roses, cards, and candy to try and impress girlfriend or to make the wife feel special. Ladies go out of their way to surprise their men with a little romance. And don't get me started on the proposals! It is a day of have and have not. Those who have relationships reap the benefits for a day, and for those who have not, it is nauseating reminder of what some feel is lacking in their lives.

 

A very dear friend sent me a Valentine's Day card. I received it two weeks ago. He sprayed it with cologne, which has started to fade, and there is a very nice note written inside.  It was an unexpected, and very pleasant surprise.

 

I once had a boyfriend who brought me a rose he had picked from a neighbor's yard. It wasn't my birthday or our anniversary. When I asked him what it was for, he gave me that glazed look men give us Ladies when their brain shuts down. After a moment, his eyes cleared, and he said, "I don't know." He then smiled, kissed me, and went about his business. That rose meant more to me than any gift he ever gave me in the 10 years we were together.

 

Another boyfriend surprised me with a picnic lunch because he had forgotten when my birthday was....we had only been dating for about 3 months...so he picked a random date to celebrate. It didn't matter that my birthday was 7 months away....it will always be remembered as one of the best birthdays ever.

 

If you want to impress me, don't give me gifts on Valentine's Day. Surprise me on any of the other 364 days of the year. 

 

 

I wish I had something profound to say, as these last hours of 2010 wind down. Instead, I will keep it simple, and say only this....

 

May the dawn of a new day, and consequently a new year, bring you all the desires of your heart.

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

Wishing everyone love, peace, joy, and the desires of the heart this holiday season. May we all find that magical connection we each long for. Merry Christmas everyone!!!!

Dearest Santa,

 

As always, I have been a very good girl this past year. I have played well with others. I have treated others the way they wish to be treated. I have done my best to protect those I hold most dear in the world. I recycle when I can, I turn the water off when I brush my teeth, and I (almost) always cross at the light.

 

All I want for Christmas this year is one very special sub boy. I know you already know which one, so I won't go into detail.

 

This year, instead of leaving you milk and cookies, I thought it might be a nice change of pace if I offer you a milking instead. Feel free to come any time after the new year when you're feeling well rested and more than a little bit frisky. And if we have enough time I'm happy to throw in a little cbt for good measure.

 

Thank you in advance for granting my request. Have a safe, sane, and very Merry Christmas. See you soon!!!

 

EQ

 

Do guys really think that sending a picture of their penis will make a Domme say, "Oh, wow! That looks so good, I think I'll give up what I already have for THAT!!!" Give me a break!

 Secondly, if you're over 100 miles away, and not relocatable...do I really have to finish? Of course I do, my audience is male...silly me. If you can't get to me in 45 minutes or less, it isn't going to work fella. There has only been one exception to that rule in the five months I've been here, so don't get your hopes up.

 Lastly, If you are looking for a "Dominate Women," your chances are slimmer still. Call me a snob, but grammar and spelling are important to me. No, I am not perfect, nor do I pretend to be. I make my share of mistakes, but hey...I'm the Queen Bee, so it really doesn't matter, does it?

 Happy Holidays everyone!!!

How can you expect me to add you to my friends list, if I haven't even had the pleasure of being extremely annoyed by your lack of anything relevant to say? ;)

Why is it that males see the word "NO" as a challenge?

Why is it that when certain people say something that they think hurts you, or isn't what you want to hear it's, "sorry, just being honest," But when you reply with your own truth, and it isn't what they wanted to hear, it's "mean?" Hmmmmm.........

Telling someone that you have a sub under consideration, and therefore are no longer looking, seems to be a magnet...much like wearing a wedding ring. I am a flirt. I will tease you mercilessly, then bask in the knowledge that you're all boned up with no release in sight. Tease and denial boys...it's what I do. But at the end of the day, I still have someone under consideration, and I am NOT looking. Proceed at your own risk. :)

Pilfered from a friend who shamelessly pinched it from somewhere else. :)


I  am perplexed that so many of my friends are against a mosque being built near Ground Zero. I think it should be the goal of every American to be tolerant.  The mosque should be allowed in an effort to promote such tolerance.

That  is why I also propose, that two gay nightclubs be opened next  door to the mosque thereby promoting tolerance within the  mosque. We could call the clubs "The Turban Cowboy" and "You Mecca Me So Hot".  

 
Next  door should be a butcher shop that specializes in pork and have an open barbeque with spare ribs as its daily special.  Across the street a very daring lingerie store called  "Victoria Keeps Nothing Secret” with sexy mannequins in the window modeling the goods. 
 
Next  door to the lingerie shop, there would be room for an Adult Toy Shop (Koranal Knowledge?), its name in flashing neon lights, and on the other side a liquor store, maybe call it "Morehammered"?  

If  you agree in promoting tolerance and you think this is a good  plan, pass it on.

To those of you who belive in a "higher power," whether you be Christian, Mormon, Buddhist, etc, please offer up a quick prayer for my sister, who we just discovered has cervical cancer. Thank you and be blessed.

To all those caught up in today's drama, I send my deepest apologies. Know that the issue has been resolved. And to those who defended my honor, I thank you very much.
I exchanged a few messages with a sub today...hello, how are you, and a few questions about his profile and his experience. The next thing I know, He asks what my feelings are about "this commitment". Say whaaaat??? He obviously hasn't read my profile, which says I'm not looking. Still, he tells me it's a "blow to the balls," and that he feels "used," leaving me to shake my head in frustration and confusion.

-Put this in your profile if you know someone who has survived or died of cancer-
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ONLINE PLAY! PERIOD.
We are all on a journey here. Some will get to their desired destination much quicker than others, while even more will never reach their destination at all. We will meet up with some interesting characters along the way. There will be near misses, and disappointments, and frustrations too numerous to mention. And hopefully, one day, the planets will all line up just right, Fate will lend a hand, and everything will be as it should be. Whether Dominant or submissive, we all seek the same thing....acceptance for who we are and to find like minded people to share in our vision of what the future should be. So is it really that difficult to have a little respect for those we meet along the way?
I got this from a profile I read, and am reprinting with the sub's permission.....

Olny srmat poelpe can raed this. 
I cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty   uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig   to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the first and last ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can still raed it wouthit a porbelm. 
  This is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Amzanig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! If you can raed this psas it on   !!
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I just love these subs who send me messages touting the brilliance of my amazingly well written profile. Hey dummy, you might want to actually read it BEFORE you hit that send button. Because when all is said and done, if you're not smart enough to read the three simple word I've written, you are not bright enough for me to even consider talking to you. Stop trying to blow smoke up my ass and be yourself. If you can't do that, then move on to the next profile.
OK, so where to start.... I have a fondness for European accents, specifically Scottish. And it's not just the accent. There is a passion and intensity in the Scottish male that makes me weak in the knees. And so how fortunate I felt when I found a sub with all the qualities I seek, AND he has.....you guessed it....his one and only flaw being that he lives in a different state. (And while I made reference to him relocating here, he is definitely worth me packing up and moving to him.)We spoke intensely for a week, which led to me claiming him online. Hey, I'd have been a fool not to. The very next day, Fate stepped in and changed everything. How depressing is that?
I already have a sub for a LTR. All I seek now is a houseboy for regular cleaning.
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