Dunavan

Sir has asked me to write his profile, as he thinks it would be a good exercise for me. Since his vital stats are listed along the side, I won’t bother too much with those … onto the meat of things! (No pun intended, though I am going to leave it because it made me giggle.)

I don’t want this to read as if I’m writing his resume, so I’ll try to keep it warm and lively. Sir is … well the first thing that pops into my head is “fantastic in bed”, but that might be too forward … Okay, let me start over.

Sir is … an odd mix of outgoing and reserved. He’ll be quiet and observe a situation until/unless he becomes comfortable, then all of a sudden, he’ll be quite outspoken about his opinions. He enjoys a lively debate and would far rather a person stick by their convictions than be a “yes man” type of person. He feels strongly about a lot of things and can be very passionate about them, but he is also respecting of others’ opinions and ways of doing things, so long as no one is being harmed.

Sir is not at all afraid to talk about his feelings … it’s not uncommon for him to say to me, “Girl, I think we need to talk about [insert topic here], and open the discussion with a statement like, “I feel ___ when you ___ and I think that in order to fix this, we should ___. What do you think?” He very often asks about my feelings and actually wants to hear the answer … he doesn’t say, “Is everything okay?” to be told ‘yes’ if everything isn’t okay (which might sound simple, but is amazing to me). He listens to me, he takes me seriously when it’s appropriate and lets me be silly and playful when it’s appropriate.

He’s very patient and mostly laid back (though he, like most people, has his hot-buttons). He gets inside my head … sometimes in ways that are irritating, particularly if I’m not wanting to admit something to myself … but almost always for the good.

There are some things he won’t tolerate. He won’t tolerate me making disparaging remarks about myself, for instance. I don’t do it a lot, but we’re all human, and we all have bad days! But he makes it quite clear that it’s unacceptable (not supposed to say mean things about his stuff, he says). He doesn’t tolerate crossing the line between playful and disrespectful (and sometimes that line is hazy). He doesn’t tolerate anyone making me feel uncomfortable and is very protective and possessive, but in a good way, not a crazy-stalker way.

The things I love most about him … he’s fun! He’s thoughtful, he listens to me even when I don’t think he is (like bringing home a movie weeks after me mentioning that I’d love to have it). He isn’t afraid to talk to me like a partner just because I’m submissive … he isn’t afraid to say he doesn’t know, or he’s afraid, or he’s sorry. He knows that though I’m the submissive and part of our PE relationship … I’m an equal partner in that relationship since I have equal responsibility for keeping it working, and he depends on me for that. He’s real, and genuine, and human, and imperfect … and I wouldn’t want him any other way.
~Rainah