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| *sigh* between ridiculous levels of suspect / aggressive internet behaviour and the low tech level of the site, I hardly ever drop in here. When I do it's usually just to clear out spam: never knew how many subs in Lagos there are who just need to transfer 82 billion dollars into my bank account, haha.
But strangely enough it's very encouraging to see the amount of likeminded people complaining about the same shit in here ;-) - I guess this place has always been a bit crummy like that and anyways, I've met a couple of incredible women in here so can't whine that much.
*waves to incredible women*
Anyways, mostly Dom, but as a poly person I'll negotiate anything, and besides which what you want from someone you've just met is very different to what you want from someone you're intimate with, hence the big red 'switch'.
Besides which, not sure I buy dom/switch/sub anymore than I buy gay/bi/straight, hell, even a spectrum still has only 7 colours...
Don't do scene much, about the biggest thing I attend these days are dinner parties. Always looking to meet other perverts, dommes, subs, etc. whether for coffee, a good disciplining, or whatever cooks up in the meantime.
But here's the big point: I'm not in such a big stress about life. Being a pervert is not a new thing. No panic, no craziness: well, except the right kind of course.
There's often a sense of fun missing from BDSM IMHO, and I do need a certain level of intellectual stimulation. I sure as shit don't need to be called the dark lord of midnight or whatever.
Recently I have been totally impressed by 20something women, shall we say. You girls are all so hot and full of ideas. Drop a line.
x
M
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Ha, bitchy jones has a point:
http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com/2007/03/02/this-is-getting-serious/
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Wow, this place is the same as ever.
Here's a thought though:
"vanilla" - the subject of so much snobbery in kink - is very difficult to define. But my best definition is "sex with only one level of understanding" or indeed "sexual contact without negotiation".
Think about that, kinksters: if you're messing with consent, manipulating, coercing or indeed telling people what they should be or how they should behave as a sub or dom(me) - then you're just the same as any douchebag who tries to get women into bed using peer pressure, booze, pressure or whatever.
Kink is all in the mind, and having 329 sex toys hidden in your closet won't change that in the slightest.
Just a thought, M |
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Well, it's 2010 now: I get back in here far more often due to having a web capable phone... and it's still a bit of a bizarre place.
To those who I get on well with here - greetings and keep doing what you're doing.
To a lot of other people, well it's time for some bitching:
I don't scene; so I meet partners through a variety of means - but one thing I keep hearing from kinksters involves with the irish scene that are so bad it's just embarrassing.
That's National Embarrassment, people.
One of the major reasons I don't scene is because Ireland seems to be just a cesspit of vulgar, sad, attention-seeking (in the bad way) behaviour from misandrists who've just read a third rate sunday newspaper article about Financial Domination, or douchebag misogynists who call themselves The Dark Master of Darkness and have rulebooks about how to behave, and no sense of fucking humour.
This site - in ireland - is a case in point: I have been contacted by a total of *two* intelligent people in the past two years, the rest is bad fanfic drivel coming from a variety of scam artists, cheap tarts and people living very shitty lives -
I mean, fine, live shitty lives: But stop pretending it's kink, or BDSM, or whatever trendy word you just got off the Guardian Supplement.
You people know who you are, and you give BDSM a bad name with your shrill, disrespectful babble filled with trendy acronyms and the latest cheap, selfish scores at everyone else's expense.
I'm old enough to remember when BDSM was an area where you were assured respect and decency toward women, compassion and understanding toward men, and vise versa as the genders blur. Old enough to remember when Pro Domme wasn't just some handle that some tacky teenybopper posted about online, and Dom was a real badge of honour, not just about what you can *make* a person do when she's compromised.
FFS, half of you can't even fucking *spell* - I cringe on a daily basis when I come in here and am subjected to another round of poorly thought out shite, accompanied by a testimonial photograph showing how many toys you've bought, or how you don't want to hear from "timewasters" - is your time so valuable, you complete egotists?
Meanwhile, genuine people who are coming here with genuine needs to meet people and feel the things they feel with dignity can't get a word in edgeways, and are being scared away by you awful, noisy, thoughtless alpha types. It's getting like a fucking school disco.
Rant over, for some reason this wednesday the site bites especially: maybe I'll delete this when I'm less pissed off, but tbh I think people need to start talking about this shit.
Later pervs, |
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wow.
Since I've been away and back, I scored for a corporate job. People there are so clannish and conservative... especially in this corporation, where they figure that they're cutting edge.
They don't realise that, regardless of how hot their clothes and attitudes make them feel, they're really just wearing the same clothes and attitudes of their coworkers, working within boundaries established by other people.
Oh well.
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okay, now that I think of it...
I'm a graphic designer by trade, I work in installation design, so that makes me one of those kinda museum types. You know... odd, not that interested in the past 30 years, looking for something deeper.
I'd rather not "talk sexy" until I know you properly. Perhaps that seems prudish but there again, perhaps - just perhaps - that means that I'm actually quite selective about what I'm interested in.
Either that, or I'm easily distracted. Who knows?
But the basic message is: if I wanted to have random encounters with random people, I'd have signed up to some random encounter site. Don't get me wrong, random can be great: but that's not why I'm here.
But either way, thanks for the interest x |
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