Discretion65

Another common theme of the emails I receive is, "Doesn't your username mean that you are married?" Clearly I chose the wrong name!

No, I am not married, engaged, or involved with someone else. My username reflects that I tend to keep my kinky and vanilla lives separate.  I've seen so many people hurt when their employer finds out that they are kinky. I've known teachers who have been banned from schools when the parents found out that they appreciated a good spanking. It's just easier for people in my vanilla life to see me as one of them.

Generally speaking, the only person who lives in both worlds would be a submissive I'm romantically involved with. My friends would see her as my girlfriend, people in the BDSM community would see her as my submissive. Everybody wins!

Thank all of you beautiful submissives who've written me so far.

Dominance and submission is something that is much better in person than it is online or long distance. Unless you are within a reasonable driving distance, I don't think I'm the right Dominant for you.

The most common question I get is "What do you look for in a submissive?" Simply put, someone who gets gratification from being submissive towards me. A Domme friend of mine once said, "A good submissive really is like a good pet. Loyal, loving, obedient, and always craving your attention." I think that's a great definition.

Not to sound contradictory, but submissive doesn't mean doormat. I like a submissive with thoughts and a personality of her own. The value of your submission is equal to your value as a person.

Ultimately, I would love to have a submissive that I'm also romantically involved with. Since that may be a bit greedy on my part, I'll happily settle for a play partner who either wants to explore their submission, or wants to take their submission to a new level.

I look forward to hearing from more of you!