I’ve grown and changed a lot since first joining this site. I’ve gotten to know some absolutely incredible people in life-changing ways. The experiences I’ve had have not only shaped that growth but confirmed in absolute terms what it is that I want. It is hard to believe that a site filled with spammers and perverts could have such an impact…. :P
I thought I’d be gone from this site awhile ago. I am real and serious in what I want, and expect you to be the same.
I love connecting with people and building relationships. I am not dark, or angry, or overly serious. I like to enjoy life and the people close to me. I am very well-adjusted and funny, despite my constantly devious and kinky mind (which based on profiles/journals sounds like it might be a rare dom trait?)
We’re all here for a variety reasons. Mine are as follows
At the core, I want someone who will make me her world. Where the extent and limits of control, obedience, affection and submission evolve continuously. Define this with as many other terms as you like. For me, the entire D/s dynamic and what makes it exciting stems from that basic concept. This doesn’t mean locked away in a cage, or sadism, or that kind of thing. That is not me nor is it what I want. It means inside the bedroom and out, and her focus is always with me in mind. This can encompass a wide spectrum of thoughts and actions. I love teaching, mentoring and guiding.
That dynamic is the essence that drives us, and the inherent control involved is not pre-defined. There is no doubt that this takes time, A LOT of trust, a strong connection, and much more. However, this ‘lifestyle’ to me extends beyond spankings and handcuffs. The 'community' is not my thing. Good for those who enjoy it, but it just isn't for me. The personal connection is far more appealing.
I do not do extreme pain. There is something exciting about the use of pain in certain circumstances, but pain is not a central goal of mine. I have absolutely no interest in death (really, this even needs to be said???), knives, scat, guns, or involving children in any way.
I am not going to have a torture dungeon. Just sayin...
Some of the characteristics that I seek are:
-Personable, lighthearted, able to carry a conversation -Trusting and loyal -FUN! :) -Appreciative -Strong willingness to learn and have boundaries pushed -Service-oriented -Selfless (different than submissive) -Degradation, Objectification, Humiliation (DOH!) -Love of sports a major plus -Attractive and in shape -Open-minded
Anything else, just ask!
Happy steak and bj day, everyone!
Patriots in London... damp and drizzling in Boston. 1pm game.
Go Pats!
New England Spring has been backwards!
Pats :( Uuuuuugghh.
Playoff football weekend. Gotta love it!
Songs that just scream D/s. Had to post. Worth listening to. Thoughts???
Lana Del Rey This girl has a real babygirl thing going on, mixed with some bimbofication. Her name is made up, her look and everything about her style... even her voice, has been changed a bit to be more appealing. The second song is called.... "You Can Be The Boss". C'mon.
I'll spare you a post of Briney's "I'm a Slave 4 U"... :P
CM is an interesting place. Behind all the crap, hundreds of fakes and scammers there are some really good people here. In a way, it makes all the other stuff worth it. I’ve met a few CMers and chatted with a few more. Even now, I find it gratifying to see, hear and feel that the “lifestyle” exists and resonates strongly with so many. A few have made real impacts in my life, and those relationships just reinforce my desires.
It was pointed out that in my profile I mention not wanting a white picket fence and 2.5 kids to mean not wanting a family.
I look forward to having a family. I simply don't want one in the traditional, vanilla sense.
So maybe I want a green non-picket fence with 3 1/8th kids.
:)
Was watching the Red Sox game and saw the game-winning hit, a home run that was just fair.
After the game, they interviewed the player (Nick Green) and he said he didn't know it was a game-winning hit.
Ummm....what?! How does that happen?
:)
Connecting with people has been more difficult than I had hoped through this process. Scatterd one-line emails and usually peters off from there.
It is a tough line to walk to not come off too... anything. Lets all just be us, and stop the game playing? Who wants in!?
Not stating anything new for most everyone here, just frustrated today.
At a friend's suggestion (whose labeling method I totally swiped) I decided to post this. If you have comments, send them along.
Cult of Personality (Living Color) Personality can be an incredible turn on. A good sense of humor can really swing things in a girl?s favor. The ability to laugh, to not take oneself too seriously. Wit is definitely an incredible turn on. Being drama free! Things happen in relationships and emotions are high, but the ability to rationally discuss a situation is helpful. Being quirky, and having likes and dislikes but not needing to make them known to every person around you at all times. Time could be better spent cooking, cleaning, and getting me a drink. ;)
Smart Went Crazy (Atmosphere) Intelligence, believe it or not, is always nice. Not when it's flaunted or shoved in people's face though. Braggards go away. I can't stand when women assume guys are dumb because they are guys. I love sports and pretty girls who are younger than me. That doesn't mean I am an illiterate pervert who can't think past the next commercial for the new pizza with a pizza stuffed into the crust.
Sexy Thing (Hot Chocolate) I LOVE when a girl dresses with me in mind. It's one thing to make yourself look good and get off on the attention from everyone, and another when the only attention you care about is mine. I'm more than happy to give it to you, too. I once bought a girlfriend some perfume I liked, and she wore it every single day on her own accord. She couldn't afford it on her own, and literally cried when it ran out. She told me it felt sexy wearing it for me.
You Don?t Want Drama (8Ball&MJG) Drama free, which I already mentioned, is nice. Under this umbrella I'll include being laid back. I don't stress too much. I know a lot of girls who are wound pretty tightly. A girl who can simply enjoy time together, even if it's watching baseball, is a girl I can appreciate. ATTEMPTING to like both sports AND the teams I like, is definitely a turn on. Being interested in what I like is hot. I usually do the same in return. Love the effort though. Hating on what I enjoy is not hot.
Adore (Prince) Who doesn't like being doted on, and adored?
(Don?t) Give Hate a Chance (Jamiroquai) While not always an issue, a girl who isn't catty is ok in my book. Working and being friends with a lot of women I hear them tear each other apart constantly. Such a turn off.
Parental Discretion iz Advised (N.W.A.) A girl who understands the need for discretion at times, and doesn?t flaunt it all, for everyone, always. Sounds lame, but it can be thrilling when she finally ?lets loose?. Also, I just don't think say, fucking in a public restroom, is the smartest idea. Road head though... is there a signup form?
Selfish Man (Flogging Molly) A girl who gives me control of our relationship, now that's hot. Hey, I'll admit it; I totally enjoy being a selfish lover. I expect to be pleased regularly. In a relationship, I expect to get head a lot and not return the favor. I thrive on the power of that selflessness on her part. Surprisingly, my last few relationships have been girls who started out strong-willed equality seekers who came around to my way of thinking. :)
Spring in New England. I just fucking love it. That anticipation of being outside, the freedom of fresh air and lack of a jacket. The girl in the park today who looked right at me and smiled. A nice tie will do that. ;)
Yay, spring.
I suppose saying this might just as easily be bullshit, but it's worth saying regardless...
The following things make NO SENSE to me:
Why anyone would create a fake profile -What's the point?
Why anyone would c&p the same message -I have never, nor will ever do such a thing
Why anyone would verbally harass someone else on here because they a) took "too long" to write back b) think they deserve respect immediately c) think subs can't, or shouldn't be allowed to make any decisions for themselves d) all of the above...
Why anyone would hate on some else's profile
Why anyone would lie on their own profile
I just don't see the point.
