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DesertDream

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	There is a paradox in D/s sexuality, at least for the submissive. The more she does not want to do a certain act, the more she wants to do it, because ultimately the sub's sexual pleasure is not tied to physical acts, but is primarily based on feeling (His) power, knowing she has pleased and given pleasure to her Master. The more a Master can create desire in her to do what she previously did not want to do, the more "power" she will feel, and that is exactly what she wants. To take her to the limit, to the extreme, to do things she "officially" does not want to do and even to create desire for that very act through her feeling the power and incredible connectedness with her Dom. It is not only what she wants, but needs ... craves. That is what I do, help to create and then satisfy the desire. I am particularly adept at obedience training for those interested though I have My own unique methods

So you'd like to try out hypnosis?

I can see why you'd be interested...It's a curious idea... One you perhaps find yourself wondering at...How does it feel?

Will you have any control? Do you even want any?

Will you have any idea of what's being done to you? Or will your mind just find itself becoming a helpless plaything? Still... you're curious... You want to know more...To see what it can do to you...You've come to the right place.

I am fascinated by the relationship that the mind has with the body in terms of arousal and the experience of pain and pleasure. I am fully aware of the link and how the mind is the greatest sex organ of all. This makes so much sense for me as regular sex type activities have never really got me excited in the same way that it does when there is an edge to things.

obedience is not just a word it is a path to happiness

Seduction thru mind bondage creates an amazing feeling on the sub.

An interesting thought

The little girl submissive worships her Daddy Dom. She will do anything to please him because she knows that he makes it his mission to care for her and to protect her. Since she is secure in his feelings for her she trusts her Daddy and submits to him completely. The little girl puts her Daddy’s needs first and pleasing him is of the utmost importance to her . In return he fulfills her needs and disciplines her when she needs it.

It`s lurking inside you...

Smoldering embers of forbidden desires stroked into fires consuming your soul...

Darkness...

Seductive, it whispers, embrace Me... tempting you sweetly to relinquish control

well what do you know

I have just discovered that I am Sapiosexual

The Urban Dictionary defines

Sapiosexual as

"One who finds the content's of someone else's mind to be their most attractive attribute, above and before their physical characteristics. From the Latin root "sapien", meaning wise. The term is now becoming mainstream with dating apps such as OkCupid and Sapio giving users the ability to define their sexual orientations as "Sapiosexual."

For many, defining oneself as Sapiosexual is also a statement against the current status quo of hookup culture and superficiality, where looks are prized above all else."

who would have figured that there was a word for what I am

I was asked about the difference between a sub and a slave

All slaves are submissive but not all those who are submissive are slaves. I have seen those who claim to be slaves yet also say they are not submissive. This is completely false. If one is not submissive, then one cannot be a slave in the BDSM world. Here is why: if you are not submissive, but you are involved in slavery, then that is not consensual. If you are made to do something and operate in a relationship where everything is forced upon you, that is not BDSM. Non-consent and forcing is nowhere under the definition of safe, sane, and consensual. Quite frankly, this is a form of abuse.

At the same time, by its very definition, a slave is involved in a complete exchange of power. There is no other way. If a relationship involves anything other than this, than that person is not a slave but, rather, a sub. Of course, many take exception to this statement. The title of slave is something that is to be honored and, in my experience, very few have the ability to achieve. Sadly, the term has been watered down by all the 20 year old neophytes online who claim to be slaves when, in fact, they may or may not even be a sub. Only time will tell.

I wonder why so many subs new to this lifestyle seem to fear taking the first step to learn

The act of submission happens in the mind of the submissive. It happens outside of the bedroom outside of the sexual arena. In her mind the submissive has a need to surrender to the dominant. The act of submission is a psychological event. She gives herself to the dominant.

She can give as little or as much as she wishes or needs to give.

Then she becomes the responsibility of the dominant to determine her choices and directions. A submissive can give up as much or as little as she needs to surrender.

The surrendering of the power is the driving force. Once the submissive surrenders she can, empty her mind. She can abandon herself completely to her dominant. Trusting in the Dominant’s strength.

She’d never been undressed by words alone before…She couldn’t fathom how a stranger could make her feel so, at home…He intrigued her…In the absence of touch, smell, or sight…He became the most vivid part of her imagination…He made her feel, understood…And in a way she never knew she longed for…His voice arrested her, and she trusted his direction…She knew he could handle being in control…and she’d been waiting for that.

~ Rob Hill, Sr

Curiosity is one of My greatest weaknesses

The desire to drive one into the deepest reaches of their mind is what I enjoy

'The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer - because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut.'
Ayn Rand - Atlas Shrugged

D/s is all about the mental connection two people need to have to make anything they need become a reality.

It is so nice when those deep seeded needs and desires you have craved for so long become reality. A reality of honesty truth and mutual understandings of each others needs.This way of life is all about pleasure and enjoyment whatever that is for you.

I am attracted to submissive women who want to give up control and become what they feel inside.

a slave is not measured in the beauty of her body but in the beauty of her submission to her owner and through satisfaction of those whom she serves.

a slave is never idle, she always watches anticipating her Master's every need and fulfilling it.

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.

submission is the act of letting go and releasing your soul to another who can guide you to a place that can be an incredibly rewarding life

My Dominance is centered around getting reactions from people, watching them change, watching them grow. Control is the way I get reactions from those that interest Me

A Dominant does not really 'train' His submissive The submissive responds to requests by the dominant with compliance.

If a submissive fails to comply or offer simple, direct, voluntary and joyous compliance with His directive then she is not submitting.

Compliance with direction is the submissives greatest challenge or war. It occurs entirely within the self as the submissive battles with challenging voices of direction within them.

When requested to do something that takes the submissive to the very edge of her limits she has several choices:

comply with the knowledge that, as difficult as the request may be, she is obeying her Dom
fail to comply and lie to her Dom and thus break the bond He has worked so hard to establish in her mind
beg to have the task modified to make it more acceptable (each Dom must decide if He would acquiesce)
walk away

I continue to be amazed at the Doms who expect a new sub to immediately submit before He knows even the smallest piece of information about her.

This is not a race. A good Dom will not rush you. He will savor your developing submission to him, and draw it out, enjoying each new display, each layer of thought as you peel it back for him.

What is sweeter, a sub wanting to crawl to her Master's feet, begging to be allowed to please him, or a sub who's told that's what she's to do. Submission, freely and creatively given, is generally seen as much more precious. So wait for the person who makes you want to crawl.

A D/s relationship is built on a foundation of Obedience. It is strengthened by Respect. It thrives on Trust. Without your obedience, there is nothing. Obedience displays trust, which is earned through respect.