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Deridex - Male Submissive, King George Virginia | BDSM Profile on Collarspace

About Deridex

I have been an active participant in the local BDSM community for about a year and a half now, and I am looking to further expand my experiences.

I am reserved and deliberate rather than spontaneous. I have a strong sense of individuality and believe that I don't need to compromise that in order to develop a fulfilling BDSM-oriented dynamic involving mutual respect and passion. I'm also not great at small talk, and usually don't talk unless I have something to say. I tend to over-think, and it has good and bad effects.

I love music and have played the piano since I was four. In recent years I took up martial arts and started my grown-up job. I play Magic and video games.

I am open to opportunities and good things that come my way. I am actively looking for a few things. One of them is an honest, mutually respectful BDSM-oriented relationship. By "honest" I mean a relationship in which we have a similar outlook on the nature of "power exchange". By "relationship" I mean that I am looking for a BDSM element, a sexual element, and a romantic element, and if I find one without the others that's still good, so long as I am able to explore my other interests and needs. I talk more about what I'm looking for in my Journal.

Another active interest is in finding people with which to explore my love of leather and metal bondage, incorporating sex in a safe way when there's interest, without necessarily having any other expectations.

I would also like to find a couple, preferably one in which I can involved to some extent with both members. It isn't a requirement, but it's a structure I have an interest in.

Finally, I'd like to get involved in erotic photography (on the "modeling" end), specifically having pictures taken with another person.

If you're direct and respectful, we'll probably at least get along.

A little more about my take on "power exchange" dynamics: It isn't "roleplaying" to me.  I'm not a worthless bitch slave who exists to worship anyone who clicks the "Master" identifier and do all their housework, and if you come at me from that angle, you won't get anywhere.  I don't even know you yet; how can I possibly have any interest in treating you like a pharaoh?  I don't hate myself, and if you try to tap into that line of thought, then you won't find anything.  If you're caught up in the myth of your own authority, then from my perspective, you're lost in a destructive game and there's no way we'll have a productive dynamic of any kind.  Power exchange, to me, is about interconnection, honesty, and earned trust.  That said, everyone has their own approach, and I'm just giving my perspective.  I like to make people I care about happy.


Physically, I crave certain submissive/slave experiences, maybe even to develop a mental/emotional power exchange that isn't just physical, but that takes patient development.  I just want to be honest about what's happening, and most of all, I want to avoid the ones who think that approaching someone with a terrible attitude is the way to start a healthy relationship of any kind.

 

On a less serious note, I am not the humiliated, begging slave type, but rather see myself as the quiet, reserved kind, the one the master takes a quiet pride in, the one whose competence is trusted and, in the bedroom/dungeon, the one whose services are taken for granted, without need for begging or verbal interaction beyond the minimum.  I'd love to find a happy, mutually healthy dynamic like that.

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