deoiridh

Recent transplant to a mid-sized city in New York State. Looking to converse with people who are like minded. Not seeking a partner, a play pal, or friend with benny's.

About me: I was introduced to this 'lifestyle' when I was 23---The best part of my journey was discovering it never was a lifestyle to begin with. I must choose a label here---I picked submissive because I am meek---most of the time. Please Collar Me Gods---drop the labels or at least expand them to include 99% vanilla 1% masochist.

I am about 1% masochist, and I say this because I don't crave or desire SM on a regular basis and when I do play I am extremely fussy about who I play with. Currently there is only one I'd play with anyways---a man who is skilled with his tools and understands that for me it's a sensation fetish and not typically a sexual turn on.

I am 99% vanilla which means, I do things in a boring vanilla way just like most of the rest of the world. I work a job I don't mind doing, it pays the bills and on average I talk to 300 plus people every week, I volunteer and will do so Christmas morning preparing a meal for the homeless while everyone else is still in their jammies (k guess that is not average), I clean my apartment on a regular basis and enjoy doing it, I have pets, one offspring left at home who is pretty much the center of my life now right ahead of the grandoffspring who delights me when she screams, "Nannie" when she hears my voice on the phone, I play silly computer games, watch "How clean is your house", and spend times with my special friends. I eat right most of the time, but sometimes crave something gross like Chef Boyardee Spaghetti and meat balls. I support myself, own a vehicle which I seldom drive because every place I need to go is in walking distance (that rapid six block walk home after work when it's cold wakes me up and keeps me in shape), I hate material things and love having next to nothing as it keeps the clutter down.

I am agnostic, but my morals, my sense of spirtuality, my kind heart and forgiving nature make me appear to a bible thumper. Shudders! The lifestyle I akin to religion seeing it almost as a way of life that many adapt to almost blindly, not quite understanding it all, but believing in it out of pure faith because it's simply become something familiar that they are unable to live without. Belonging is extremely important to many and defending that right to belong becomes a quest or journey in itself.

Anyway, after many years of defending my lifestyle, I've learned that honestly no one really cares and I grew weary. I soul searched, got real honest with myself, kept those elements I enjoyed for my own reasons and tossed the rest. I no longer defend who I am or what I believe, I just live.

To me life is a journey, an awesome journey. I live for today and in the moment because I never know what is around the bend and I prepare for the unexpected, then I can move foward without wondering what to do next.


With that said, why am I here. Simply because I enjoy people. I like reading the forums because it makes me think but probably not in the way a poster desires me to think. I'm a people watcher, I do go to chat and mostly it's merely to watch but I can participate and will voice my thoughts if I feel the need, but forever showing tolerance to another persons thoughts (tolerance is lacking in most of these sites although it is preached that tolerance is practiced). I'm studied psychology almost obsessively in college, and I am still fascinated about how the brain is the most complex organ we possess. I like probing the brains. I am also a gifted psychic. I still can't figure out how or why it happened to me---but---I am right more often than not. When I do a reading and someone says, "I'm amazed!" I am probably even more amazed. Side note: I do not do personal readings-to predict lottery numbers, when you will find Mr/mrs Right. or when your new career will happen. We all have the ability to change our lives and no matter what any psychic tells you, you can ALWAYS make them out to be a liar. I am a sensative, most of the time I can see what is going on in your life past and present and from that predict an out come. It's totally up to you what you do with the prediction.

So if I've prev. your profile, I've simply found it interesting. (I love reading blogs!) As I said I AM a people person. If you have so kindly gotten this far reading my profile because you found it interesting or because I read yours and feel the need to message me, I'll more than likely send a response.

Just up front, I am not seeking, not handing out free psychic readings, (but don't mind sharing what I see on occasion) and I am not sending anyone that is 6'1 and weighs 61 pounds any money.