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About denymenow
I am a submissive gentleman Located in Toronto Ont Canada, not a game player as I know deep down that this is what I am. In my Daily live I am an alpha and am in charge but in private I understand and crave my submissive nature. I have had various experiences over the last ten years and understand that this is what I need and seek.
Ongoing is preferred as it allows a deeper, more full filling experience for both the Dom and that sub and as it allows deeper training and molding of a sub to be undertaken. True Dominants understand and deploy training where the sub male is trained by Willful participation Approach where they obtain superior results by putting the male in a state in which he will offer voluntary compliance.
This philosophy advocates the training of a male in his inner, mental world. It aims at persuading him to eventually relinquish his independence, in favor of a more fulfilling role in acceptance of female authority. This group claims that the quality of voluntary servitude is long-lasting and cannot be approached by coercive methods, and that it is a male's self-image and value system that needs to be reframed before lasting change can be seen in his behavior. Proponents of this philosophy do not always refrain from coercion, especially in the beginning stages of training - however, they invariably single out the budding of a male's voluntary compliance ("willful participation") as the "breaking point" to achieve.
They also understand that any male training approach can much benefit from increased seminal volume via male chastity, as this fluid is known to function as an intoxicant, overcoming his logic and greatly reducing his mental defenses, leaving ample opportunity for behavior modification. However, while the forced subjugation approach sees chastity as merely a way to keep the male frustrated and receptive, willful participation exploits increased levels of sexual desire in a male to reframe his sexual identity.
Willful participation proponents emphasize the sexualization of obedience in a male's mind, mirroring the all too infrequent
"spontaneous" subservience of naturally submissive males. Obedience and humiliation are sexualized through chastity and by association/anchoring until the male starts to see his own subjugation and self-sacrifice as the most appealing (or the only conceivable) form of sexual relief. As training progresses then Desexualization can be employed.
Desexualization is a technique whereby one engages in sexual intercourse with a male in order to obtain satisfaction, while at the same time denying the male the possibility to achieve an orgasm. This is useful when you need to have intercourse with your partner but do not want to sabotage his chastity, or for purely psychological reasons that are part of his training.
Psychological effects of desexualization
When the male is made to experience intercourse without arousal,
- The male learns that he is the object of sex, not the subject (the ensuing loss of agency is typical of Identity Reframing training)
- This leads to a spontaneous shift in his self image from aggressively sexual (predatory) to passively sexual (submissive) - his sexuality is reframed in terms of giving pleasure rather than obtaining it
- The self image change is incompatible with sexual possessiveness as he can no longer claim any "ownership" of the female body
- If the male learns to completely dissociate intercourse from sexual arousal, sexual arousal may be more effectively reframed in terms of worshipping you and seeking your praise through diligent service
As you can tell I believe that the vast majority of training is mental for the sub. I do have various experiences as a sub and would like to know more and to learn in a safe, fun, loyal training. Please contact me if you have any questions. Thanks
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