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Female Switch, 52, Rabat/London
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Female Dominant, 21, Victoria
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About daturathorn
I seek play partners of either sex, Top, bottom, or switch.
I enjoy playing in both Top and bottom roles. When bottoming I enjoy giving my perverse thoughts, and devious ideas, to Dominant Ones to be used on me. I always hope that they will be found to be appealing, and accepted as a gift of my self.
I enjoy finding and using pervertibles. I have my own dungeon which is well equipped with toys of the store bought kind. But I also have stocked it with many rather delightfully awful toys of my own creation - and of course with pervertibles.
I have experienced much of my time in the lifestyle as a sub/masochist. I have been told that I play well as a Top. In that role, I love to give delicious pleasure along with transcendent pain. I have sort of pared down my likes and dislikes column to fit more with BDSM activities. If you want to know more about other things I do, I will be happy to provide you with that information.
I do not seek a long term relationship of a committed nature. I am loved by people, both in and out of the lifestyle. I don't find that being "in love", or in a clearly defined relationship is necessary to my agenda for finding fulfillment. I don't rule out the possibility of one. Should my path appear to be leading me to join that of another, I tend to be careful in choosing to go there. I can not tolerate prevarication on the part of one that I am intimate with. Nor will I accept being manipulated into fulfilling scripts of behavior from another person's past. I do desire to fulfill the intrinsic needs of those I play with.
In even the most casual of relationships, an intense spiritual bond can take place. I attribute it to that elusive and hard to define thing called, "power exchange". I must say that I can't define power exchange, but I know it when I feel it. I also must say that it feels different every time. However, in every case in which I have felt it, the Energy has flowed in both directions. There has always been an intense mingling of the Spiritual Essences of both my own Higher Self, and that of my P/partner(s). Indeed, what we do, if done with caring, either between casual playmates or in more long term relationships, is the most evolved form of love making that it is possible to practice.
The service aspect of submission is intensely appealing. Then too, the feelings of exposure, and vulnerability that I feel when giving myself to Another as a bottom, are exquisitely arousing. Pain while bottoming is a separate, yet combined issue with regards to the emotional and psychological sensations. All of them are inherently important to the play.
In topping, the enjoyment of seeing and hearing he bottom's responses is so incredibly hot and intense! There comes a wonderful sense of control over this person who has placed themselves in my hands. That control must be carefully used in order to create a pleasurable and delightful experience for the bottom. Having an even stronger desire to please the bottom than to please myself is something that I consider to be not just a challenge, but a point of honor.
I understand how it is that some Dominants dislike subs who They consider to "top from the bottom". However, there are probably as many definitions of topping from the bottom as there are Doms. For this reason I think that it is important for all Doms to have a clear definition of it for Themselves. They may find that it doesn't bother them at all, or that it does to some small or large degree. If They dislike what what They have defined it as, that definition should be negotiated ahead of time. I cannot think of any relationship that I would like to be in where I am taken to task for things that bother the other person, when I have not been informed of what they are. I have had all too much experience with this kind of crazymaking relationship. I love being submissive, but I need to be told how the Dominant One wants me to be, and not how to be.
Given the assumption that the sub desires to be pleasing, a wise and caring Dom will be patient and kind in correcting behaviors that They wish to have changed. Being able to accept mistakes on the part of the sub who is learning to change some behavior, without calling it "disobedience" is a hallmark of wisdom and leadership. Training involves much more than stating what one likes or dislikes just once, and then expecting to be obeyed explicitly from then on. That is not how humans, or any other organism learns.
Regardless, topping...bottoming...or both in one session...are all exciting, and amazing, and intense, and joyous. |
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