DarthChuckler

Reading the ads and considering what we want I have come to define my wants better. After reading many of the ads I don?t see many other Dom?s, Tops, with my likes. I like to be the Dom, I enjoy being in charge, but I don?t want to micro-manage, train or teach a sub. A good friend of mine described me as a Top not a Dom. I guess it is all in the definition. I don?t want to punish for misdeeds, I don?t want to control my toys every move. I want a toy that knows they are a bottom, is happy being a bottom. My toy is happiest in serving and making me happy. Her reward will be a fun, full filling torture session. I enjoy bringing pleasure and am excited when I can make my toy excited. Ok so my methods for bringing pleasure may be warped. Most of the ads seem to be looking for a Dom that will train, mold and teach the sub, punish if the sub does wrong and use the sub for the Dom?s pleasure. OK using the toy for my pleasure works, but I want a toy that will grow and work with us to learn new and different things. I don?t want to create my toy, I want a toy that already knows their position. I don?t want to punish, I want to reward. But yes I do want to use the toy for my pleasure, as long as my uses bring the toy pleasure as well.

This may not seem to be a major revolution, but for me it has really opened my eyes about my wants and how to define them.

hmmm It is odd trying to meet people on the internet. It seems strange to put yourself out there a little in plain text, not knowing who is reading it or how your words are taken. How do you get a true feeling for the people you are interested in talking with if you can?t look into their eyes?  I am not sure if the looking for section is updated much, as we don?t seem to get many responses. Either everyone that is looking is too busy, or we are just too impatient, I dunno, I guess "welcome to the learning curve".