darlingtease

Today was one of those days that I took advantage of not being owned.  Oh please don't take that the wrong way.  I am not trying to be nasty; just trying to look at life with a positive attitude.  I brought my toy bag out.  Yes, it is a bag and not just one or two toys.  I have started a bit of a collection over the years.  I don't know what lead me to wanting to play.  I was loading the dishwasher, stopped, walked into my bedroom, got out the toys and wow.  I played until my arms got too tired.  A funny thing happened though.  Every time I wanted to orgasm, I naturally wanted to ask permission.   Well not every single time.  There were a few that snuck up on me, lol.  

Gentlemen, if you are the type who does not care about your subs sexual needs or is happy to only have blow-jobs, that is fine.  You may want to state that clearly in your profile.  Please do not say you are highly sexual or have a high sex drive.  Please avoid the sub/slave who states in her profile that she is highly sexual/loves sex/has multiple orgasms.

The reason for that is when a woman thinks of sex, she typically thinks of activity including both not you standing there and her on her knees giving you a blow-job then that is the end.  You have now left her all wound up with no release.  This is fine if BOTH of you desire that type of relationship.

Most subs prefer the Dom physically on top for various reasons but the main one would be the symbolization of your relation.  Dom=Top, the Dom should be on top her during sex; sub=bottom, the sub should be under the Dom whether face up or face down.  There is a mental connection for her that triggers her sexually as well as mentally. If you just want to lay back and let the sub do the work, eh nope.   

Being able to have multiple orgasms is both good and bad.  If the Dom does not enjoy long sexual encounters and either does not allow her to orgasm or only gives her one orgasm, there is pent up frustrations for her.  It is not just sexual either.  The sub will begin to be insecure about herself and the relationship.  She will begin to question your emotional connection...wonder what she has done wrong that you are not interested in her.  Some who can have multiple orgasms only get turned on with the first couple but "need" many more to feel satisfied.  Again, this if fine if the Dom is not into that but he needs to make it clear BEFORE a relationship is developed.  

I know the lifestyle is not just about sex.  I actually crave the mental aspects.  I am sharing my and/or others thoughts.

To all that read my journal entries:

Please do not take the offensive.  My entries are not to put any one person down or start an argument.  Some are my own life lessons; but, some are also things that I've learned from making friends (both male and female/tops and bottoms).  I have always had more male friends than female friends so have had many heart to heart conversations with men expressing their desires and frustrations about women.  Now without a doubt I am a woman so have had just as many more conversations (or bitch sessions, lol) with women about men.  I think at times if I can put those experiences in words that it may shed some light on the different ways men and women think (or in some cases don't, lol).