DarkWolf6606

Submission: A Perspective

I am a dominant male, nothing more, nothing less though it is not the whole of me, nor the totality. It just is who and what I am, as much a part of me as the breath that flows through my lungs.

I believe too many males forget that submission is a gift, not a condition. It is not something to take for our own ends, our own needs and desires simply because it exists and we recognize it.

When the spirit and soul of a woman is gifted, the subservience willful not commanded, then indeed dominance and submission can create a union stronger than any other bonds between a man and a woman except for mutual parenthood.

On the other hand too many women see themselves much less than they are. Not recognizing their own gifts, talents and the sensitivity and Eros I write of so often in my poems. A strong woman, sure of herself independent and full of her own spirit truly has a gift to offer. Whereas one that has been broken and beaten down whether by herself or another, has not much of herself left to give.

As sisters women know this about one another. As men we more often overlook it, seeing the external. The internal hidden from our view. We often miss the entirety of the woman instead finding an empty shell called gratification.

Giving yourself does not equate to losing yourself. It doesn't matter how long your Spirit lies dormant and unused. One day you hear a song, look at an object, or see a vision, and you feel it's presence. It can't be bought, traded or annihilated, because it's power comes from it's story.

No one can steal your Spirit; you have to give it away. You can also take it back.

For those of you who have given your spirit away or left it alone somewhere waiting for you, it is time to live again.

O MITAKE OYASIN "We are all related."

The literal translation from the Sioux language being "I Honor all my relations".

I often consider the relationships we find ourselves involved in and the importance they have for each of us in our lives. Without a few basic relationships we cannot function nor feel complete and our ability to grow emotionally and spiritually are hindered if not halted completely. If we are without friends, family or lovers we soon lose the essence of our humanity, often reverting to the most primal level of instinctual existance.

These are our interpersonal relationships, but we also have a relationship to community which can be just as important though not as integral to our well-being. We can exist without communal relationships but the long term effect is one of estrangement of the self. It is our nature to seek others of our own kind.

Communal Relationships

We have all evolved culturally from one tribal form of community or another, regardless of race, color or creed. It is the one commonality that binds us all together. It is the cultural memory of knowing one's place, of being a part of something larger than ourselves.

Most of us live in a community of strangers that we have nothing in common with except the externals. We own similar objects. We work, we pay bills, we accumulate debt and we all feel a sense of having lost something that we cant quite put our fingers on. Our personal beliefs and practices are as varied as we are. We are more aware of the differences between us than the similarities.

These types of relations are the last sanctuary of form and ritual in our personal lives. They give us tribal sense of connection, of an identity that transcends the individual. I think it is fairly obvious especially here in this virtual community, where we tend to gravitate towards our own tribes or communities of friends, some who we come to think of as family or more.

The culture that we "Westerners" live within and that has been ingrained upon our consciousness is a self depreciating system that slowly erodes our ancient and interpersonal rituals, our relationships between gender, between individuals, between government and those it is intended to care for and protect. Our senses are so overwhelmed and confused by the constant bombardment of information that we no longer have a reference point to help us determine who we are as a people.

We have lost the true sense of community, of belonging to something larger than ourselves and knowing and understanding our place within it. This sense of belonging is integral to our mental and spiritual well-being. Without it we are lost.

Mysterious Wood

watch carefully as you tread
this unfamiliar path
that winds deeply into my woods
covered with fallen leaves
curling slowly in death
crisp as they crumple
underneath your feet

After perusing a fair number of profiles here on CM, I've come to the conclusion that this is the go to place for adult industry workers.

I once owned and operated a phone sex business where we did much of the same as a matter of course for the business, though at that time kink social sites weren't as predominant or as easy to find as they are these days.  This would have been a gold mine for client acquisition.

The difference I see here is that we had talented writers to create the profiles and we purchased photo sets with exclusive licenses to portray the "characters" that we created.

Here I see many poorly filled out and poorly written profiles that appear to be dead giveaways that I could be fairly certain of being asked to pay for something within a message or two.  

I would suppose that many of these are freelance or are just instructed to go and create a profile to attract clients.  More than likely the real hot spots are the chat rooms and message replies.

Now, it's not that I'm not looking myself and am disappointed because my results have been less than encouraging, it's just that with the added factor of having to begin from a position of distrust, it just makes everything a little harder to wade through.

How many of you feel the same?