danae


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	About danae i am owned : i am here for intelligent conversation (not 'chat') with others about BDSM and our lifestyle, and more as stated in my profile : thank you for reading .. ~danae [Zeus] We do not see things how they are; we see things how we are. -Talmud. ~i have found the place where i belong~ There is compatibility and fit between our needs and desires, and we have chosen to move forward in our lives together. While we are open to a poly household, i serve with my attention focused on Him.. ~ this is my place for the rest of my life~ We are a mature couple, intelligent, seeking other like-minded individuals incorporating bdsm into real life, as friends.. and more, as might develop along the way. ~danae owned by Zeus* The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet. -James Oppenheim

what you think of me is none of my business..

i don't live my life on collarme; i don't live my life on , or anywhere else online. as my sweetest girlfriend says, ".. is the place for fantasy-land froo froo not where you live for real". if you aren't interested, or willing, to attend public events, munches, or meet us publicly somewhere, don't bother with messaging me. this is not about sex, or s/m play, it is my life and my primary relationship.

i am an owned, 24-7 slave. i belong to Zeus, and that is stated all over my profiles. treat that relationship however you would treat any other committed, long-term, relationship (or how you want yOUR primary relationship treated). it is just as real and just as valuable as any you can imagine. what he and i have agreed, and understand about our non-monogamous relationship is our business.. until you think you want to find a place in it, and then we process that together. read my profiles; read my journals; read the same for Zeus! if you want to know something else.. ask.

otherwise, what you think is your imagination.. and likely wrong.

protocol or common courtesy?

even Emily Post can be your resource..? i.e. someone gives you something, you simply say thank you.

...
danae [Zeus]

proud to be His,
and always making every effort to represent Him with kindness, courtesy and respect

life progresses as it should;

but it gets better and better
because i take steps of my responsibilities;

and i take care of Master
and Master takes *such good care of me.. (i am spoiled!)

*i am so happy to be yours mYOM*

danae [Zeus]

Happy?

Are you?

Are you now?

Are you happy now?

*
well..

**
oh yes,

now,

i am

i am happy

Zeus is happy

we are Happy!

***
it's so simple.

obey Zeus, do as he likes;
be nice, be thoughtful of others;
think before speaking, or acting;
be responsible for your words and actions;
take pride in your hygiene and
appearance;
actively work at bettering yourself
on a daily basis.

remembering that as a slave of the
Temple of Zeus, in all that i do or say,
i am a reflection of Him and TOZ.
i promise you Master, to conduct
myself with honor and love!

i am so happy to be yours*

danae [Zeus]

hot!!
sore ass ;>

but happy and yours mYOM!

omigawd..she squeeks!

she's here*

let's see how we handle her!!

Z* i am so happy to be yours ;>

danae [Zeus]

shhhh..
a month from Master's birthday and we almost have his present.. looks good for sunday - Yay!!

danae
[Zeus]

mYOM
things just happen so perfectly.. but so fast!
what a wonderful week it was, and the next one will be as well ? ;>

but of course, because you are the god you are *
and i love you madly, sanely, and even more passionately.

looking forward to all that we continue to become *

yours always
danae [Zeus]

being a? slave is not a matter of semantics.? it is a matter of action.. and that ultimate key: compatibility.?

your first priority is knowing yourself: who are you, what you want, need and what you have to offer.? it isn't a matter of any slave can fit to any master, like tab A into slot B.? do you have what the other person needs, wants or even likes?? what is your personality style, and what works for each of you?

having some lovely chats with a new person; it feels good to have things in common, but it also feels good to find out new unique things. and even better is finding a person who seems to be a considerate, thoughtful, and self-aware person, willing to share her thoughts in a candid manner.
nice, measuring potential.. at least finding common ground for becoming friends.? what more can one ask?

(thank you for all your patience and all your strength my dearest Owner and Master)

danae [Zeus]

if you have said hello to Z, and i haven't had a chance to chat with you too, please don't be shy about saying hello..
i'm excited to meet potential slaves, but sometimes i'm just too busy with work and taking care of too many chores!? really, i'll only bite.. if i'm told ;>
we like to have fun*

danae [Zeus]

i am glad today to be who i am.? i have been for a while, but it is interesting to meet other adults who are struggling with issues of identity, well into their middle years.? i am grateful when i see that struggle in others, to know i am able to live today in a way that is absolutely true to my nature and desires.? i think the damage it does to one's soul and spirit, to hide and live falsely, in relationships with people is truly tragic.

the world is already full of sad and damaged people from dysfunctional childhoods; it's never too late.? grow up again.. take care of yourself.. seek support, guidance, therapy, spiritual magic.. whatever allows you to claim and live in your own truth.? you are entitled.

when you are true to yourself, to your adult rights and responsibilities; you can approach another human being with the absolute right to get your needs met.? yes, even as a slave or submissive, you have needs that deserve to be met.? because if you are able to start from that belief, then you are also able to seek a relationship based on compatibility of those needs.? a sadist and masochist sound like a great fit to start, but if one also a raging control freak and the other is a flitty brat, which one is going to just be pissed off at the other all the time?? they may be great people, and really attracted to each other, and think they want to be together.. but ultimately, if there is something just not working, they both deserve to find the better fit.

as We look for other slaves that might be friends (or maybe more if We are lucky), the willingness to live an honest life is one of the most important qualities that we seek.? that and a good sense of humor ;>

danae [Zeus]

relationships aren't about winning or losing.

they are about defining your needs and wants; sharing with another and finding compatibility with those needs and wants; creating a dynamic 'us' between 'you' and 'me', so that each party feels wanted and fulfilled.? the world is abound with relationship self-help gurus if something isn't working; techniques for determining communication styles, 'love' styles, personality types and needs, etc.? but they all break down to the essence of compatibility, and defining and being responsible for meeting one's OWN personal needs.? even dear abby can help:

"By Abigail Van Buren?? Wed?Apr?22, 2:16?am?ET

DEAR ABBY: I am in my mid-20s and in a long-term relationship. I can see myself getting married and having children in the next few years. So what do you do when your partner does not share your lifetime goals?

He has told me marriage is on the horizon "someday, maybe," but he has no desire for children. I love him dearly and won't put pressure on him, but have made my intentions clear.

How should I handle his wish to remain childless and unmarried when it is a lifetime dream of mine? -- DREAMING IN WISCONSIN

DEAR DREAMING: Marriage may be on your boyfriend's horizon "someday, maybe," but so is interplanetary tourism to Mars.

When you realize that your partner does not share your lifetime goals, what you should do is end the relationship on the highest note possible and move on."

how many of us cling, and demand change, and fight for something that isn't meant to be.? certainly it is human nature at first to avoid any loss, but maturity and experience should tell us to move on and take charge of our own lives.? perhaps you are the one who must hurt someone in the moving on, but it is certainly better to hurt them with truth of "not fitting" as soon as possible, than setting up a lifetime of struggle and resentments because someone might want to make you feel guilty or obliged to continue; or you are stuck thinking there is no one else for you; or perhaps even you simply are afraid to let go.

but never settle.? and never think that you aren't complete unto yourself.? and the first person that you have to be completely honest in relationship with, IS yourself.? if you can't do that, you will never have a successful relationship with another.

danae [Zeus]

Self-pity is... a sinkhole from which no rescuing hand can drag you because you have chosen to sink.? ~Elizabeth Elliot

The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.? ~Max Lerner, The Unfinished Country, 1950

Z: i am proud to be your slave, as we seek our community.? it is such an honor to be introduced as belonging to you, and know also that you are proud to have me with you and show me as yours out in the world we travel.

danae?
always slave of Zeus

to those who participated in the cuttings at kinkfest: thank you all so much; we were honored to be part of such a welcoming group.

and to have Master cut me himself..

marking me always as his own..
?
such a powerful experience!

to my owner and master,
i will always be yours, and love, respect and worship you with every ounce of my being.?
thank you so much for putting your mark on your devoted slave*

danae [Zeus]

kinkfest is just around the corner.
i'm looking forward to sorting through the schedule of workshops ..just as much as play-time parties.
say hello if you'd like to meet up at one of the coffee breaks ;>

danae [Zeus]

as i haven't had much time to post publicly; and the year is coming quickly to a close..
i just want to say
best wishes to all.
happy new year..
may you realize all your dreams are in your reality *now*
it's all in how you view your world.

every day is a gift*

thank you Zeus, for being here
for loving me,
for being Master of my heart,
and Master of my world.
i couldn't have it any other way.

His always
danae [Zeus]

i've been occupied with the change in responsibilities at work.. and they won't be slowing back down any before the end of the year.
we will get to travel some more over the summer though, thankfully, so i get some rest and recuperation.
.. and looking forward to a new meeting.? wouldn't it be nice to have help at home somedays, so dinner wasn't always my worst chore!

happy to be owned..
more than happy ;>

danae [Zeus]

love does not heal; love is health

paraphrasing from 'notes from the Universe':
To clarify, the primary roles of LOVE are not to heal, fix, or mend. Not to soothe, cure, or ease. Not even to refresh, rejuvenate, or restore. Hardly.?

The primary roles of LOVE are to .. live life, celebrate life, and be happy.

.. You were born to love, no matter the cost, no matter what someone else said, and no matter how the past once played out.

..may you find your own perfect expression ;>

danae [Zues]

it has taken some time for me to get here to post about it, but Leather Leadership Conference was really quite amazing. besides the group of incredibly diverse people, what a charge to hear Patrick Califia again.. someone i worked with on sexuality topics back in the late 70's! were you there? what was your favorite workshop? what group do you represent? what area did you travel from? how did you take the learning back home? i love the sharing ;> thank you! danae [Zeus]

were you at the recent bdsm gathering at Portland?
what were the workshops you went to?
what did you get out of them?
did you have anything you still needed to say as a participant??
i'd love to talk to you more if you were there too.. say hi ;>

danae [Zeus]

we enjoy meeting others. (ok, i'm a little shy, but i still like people ;>)
please do not make assumptions, if invited to join us for coffee.. or meet at a munch.. that's what the invitation is for. We'll even travel a ways to meet others in the lifestyle; especially others living, or interested in living 24/7 Master/ slave relationships.

"coffee" does not mean "sex"
"munch" does not mean "beating"
.. Please reply in kind!
danae [Zeus]

a previous journal entry asked some questions: are you a member of local groups, munches..
do you have other interests in your day-to-day life.. besides fantasies of 'kink'..

but i add some today:
how do you see your role as part of a loving commitment?

it is important to know yourself, and how you see yourself as part of a household..

what are your strengths and weaknesses? (not just your desires..)
you have your rights.. so know your needs too!

please ask, if you want to talk about it ;>

danae [Zeus]

Common courtesy for meeting someone new is very simple:
1.? make every effort to be there on time (if not early);
2.? if someone else offers you some other plans for that time..? make certain that you consider what message your choice makes;
3.? if other responsibilities comes up that you must change plans, let the other person know, as soon as possible, via whatever means of communication you may have established at that time.? if you? haven't exchanged phone numbers yet, send your regrets via email and/or internet message, regardless of whether or not it will reach your party before the meeting.? One is no longer 'stood-up' if there is a message waiting upon their return home, with the information and your apology about the last minute necessity to cancel!
4.? take responsibility for your communications!

it's really that simple.
danae [Zeus]

there are posts i've read recently, requesting advice regarding punishment in BDSM relationship, that leave me with such a desire to contradict!

i recognize that everyone has their own style and manner (or fetish in some cases) but for us, punishment is simply nOt what we are about:

if Zeus has to punish me, then i have lost my desire to serve or belong to him..
if Zeus has to correct me, then i have stopped paying attention to his words and actions..

does he need to 'train' me to serve properly? no. i am told very clearly what he likes, wants, and expects of me.. and some of those expectations continue to increase as we progress in our relationship. when we met, he liked the behavior he saw in me; he liked and admired the attitude that i had for him; and getting to know each other, we understood each other in a way that seemed to come naturally to us both.

have i been unable to comply? not yet, because as he knows me and my abilities, he also knows my limitations. will he push me to work harder at things that challenge some of my limitations? yes, often..
does he need to make me into the slave he wants me to be? perhaps only the slightest of shaping.. but why would he have chosen me if i wasn't something he wanted?

He doesn't have to force me into anything. He has no desire to force or make me into something that i have any objection to.. and will i obey whether i'm 'in the mood' or not?? absolutely!

will he know and understand my day-to-day emotional and physical capabilities, so that we aren't both expecting something impossible of me?? of course.. that is my responsibility to communicate..

i am here because i want to be, (so Very Much) and i want to make Him happy (Oh so Much!) with every ounce of my being.

BDSM relationships are self-defined and thank goodness they are. hopefully, each of the parties are close enough to the same page that compatibility isn't just a simple top/bottom or Dom/sub kind of fantasy-fit, as if that is all it takes for a match!

so, this is just how it is for Us:? He wants comfort, pleasure, power, control and respect.. not to force or meet resistance or 'brattiness' and struggle.? if we come to that kind of conflict, then something has gone awry with our compatibility, and we must re-examine our needs and wants. of course, i hope that we never come to that point, but all things change.. we may not keep in step.. who knows what the future may bring.? but it will always bring honesty and forthright communication between us, never a manipulation or game of one winning 'over' the other. i submit to him as an equal, worthy, human being.. who wants to give herself totally and completely to His possession and ownership. He treats me as valuable, worthy and desirable.. and we do enjoy each others company.. what more could i ask for?

i adore and worship my Zeus,
my owner, master and god..

danae [Zeus]
obedient, loving and loved slave ;>

we are home again ..
traveling is exciting and fun and it is always a joy to plan and enjoy the little adventures with Zeus, but to come home and cuddle in our own comfy nest again feels wonderful.

and oh, the plans for next month, and next trips!! every day, i can work at something new to get ready, we have so much in the works.

mYOM, i am honored and blessed and loved and possessed ..and so happy and proud to be yours.

danae [Zeus]

The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt. ~Max Lerner, The Unfinished Country, 1950

..moving on.. taking my life in my hands and making my own happiness.. those old feelings that used to come and go from the past.. how amazing that they don't anymore.
they disappear like marks in the sand.? it's my choice, people may walk through the edges of my life, but have no effect. when i choose to travel with my own purpose and intention, they become very small, no matter where they think they want to sit.

we are our own center and strength.. and it is Zeus ~ and our happiness ~ that i choose for the center of my attention and focus.
danae [Zeus]

Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling. ~Margaret Lee Runbeck

It is a small world, this community of BDSM.? If we are local, in fact sometimes not so local, there is a great chance that we have met the same Doms.? How do we respect our experience, truth, and privacy?? And how do we decide to warn someone when a dom is married (much more than he is separated), or a dom has a temper and control issues (more than he has the willingness to participate in honest, open communications about his power exchange).?

This isn't the kind of warning that one wants to give the naive, young, submissive writing about her first Master who shares about the 'thing that Master just did to her; how it had hurt having his fist inside her'.?? There is a gentle and kind manner to approach that with sharing and education.

No, this is the kind of warning one wants to give to a an equal, a more mature woman who wants to love and submit to One for what she is being 'promised' because he is so charming and good at that; but like the half dozen submissives before her, he will come to the end of his entertainment and patience and he will simply withdraw:? emotionally and physically, without explanation, without honest ending, probably without acknowledgement or closure.

.. do remember, there are others out there who are real..? who do Love and want and who do commit themselves.. if we don't settle (nor should we fear being alone) we can be strong enough to be found by the right One.?

thank You so much
my Zeus

are you a slave????????????

do you belong to any bdsm social groups???
do you actively attend any local munches???
have you been to any workshops or classes on bdsm play or techniques???
what have you read lately???
what kind of real-time experience have you had so far???
?????????????
you don't have to be able to provide a resume of experience and references.. but a desire to take your lifestyle beyond the 'weekend-play', or 'bedroom-kink' is what we are looking for. ? this is 24/7 real-life for us, but don't worry.. we can still walk through the grocery store without a leash and collar.? are you still a slave?? do you want to serve??

danae [Zeus]

i do???

i am??

i will??

danae [Zeus]???

8/1/07 1:00PM?

What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow, to share with each other in all gladness, to be one with each other in the silent unspoken memories?

George Eliot (1819-1880)

with all that i am and all that i have
i offer you, Zeus, my self and my soul.

my love, my honesty, my joy and my pain

i am your servant. i shall not be free; You will protect me; you will guard me; you will keep me safe; you will keep me sound all the days of our lives.

i promise to be your friend, your lover, your partner, your slave; to walk with you wherever life may take us.

yours forever,

danae [Zeus]

i was once referred to as being the 'perfect doormat' for my Owner and Master.. oh, what prophetic words she wrote ~ yes, he does think i'm perfect for Him.

i am responsible for many choices and actions in our personal and business life together; i act with his complete faith and trust as my utmost motivation; and i've been gifted with His incredible generosity, sweet and loving kindness, humor, as well as His power and passion..

oh, and yes, if He wanted to simply wipe His feet on me, i would gladly prostrate myself before Him.

?????????????????????????????????????????????????

danae [Zeus]

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