d3xLorelai

Please don't contact me if:

You are bored and want someone to chat with.
You are not sure about what you want.
You are a Dom, but want to explore your sub side.
You are a woman.
You are a crossdresser.
You are in a relationship or married.
You are a manipulative liar.
You are deeply religious.
You don't know how to write a few sentences.
English is your native language, but you don't respect it's grammar.
You have nothing to say except ?Hi.?.
You are only interested in BDSM in your fantasies, but are affraid to turn it into reality.
You want to tell me how horny you are. I honestly don't care.
You have no photos in your profile, and don't intend to attach them in your message.

?

The slave is a property of the Owner. He has no rights. He doesn’t have the right to say no, to set hard limits or use safewords. The Owner has total control over the slave and the slave has absolutely no power over the Owner - not only during the BDSM sessions but also in everyday life. The slave has no say in what will or will not happen, he must accept everything the Owner dictates. He has to surrender to his Owner mind, body and soul. His only vocation in life is to obey his Owner, take care of her and make her happy.

The slave understands that his satisfaction is not the focus of a M/s relationship and will not try to get what he wants, but instead to give to the Owner what she desires.

The slave will always be respectful towards his Owner and will always keep her best interest and happiness in mind.

The slave will do everything in his power never to embarrass his Owner, and he will do his best to make her proud of owning him. He will always be thankful for the opportunity to serve her.

The Owner is and always will be the slave’s number one priority in life.

Why I Love slaves

Ok, first, let’s categorise.

Kinkster - Masochist - Fetishist - Topping from the bottom (TFB) - Bottom - Submissive - Slave

The Kinkster being least submissive and slave being most submissive.

The kinkster likes kinky stuff. He likes bringing some aspects of BDSM into his bedroom. To him BDSM is a foreplay.

The masochist enjoys enduring pain. He doesn’t have to be submissive but usually is.

The fetishist has certain fetishes and likes to include them into his life. He doesn’t care about domination or submission, he gets turned on by high heels, feet, latex etc.

The Kinkster, as well as the masochist and the fetishist, can be both a Dom or a sub.

If someone is topping from the bottom he likes to play a submissive but really isn’t one. He doesn’t want to give all of the control to the Dominant. More likely he is dominating, but pretending to be a sub. It’s all an act - there is no real power exchange. TFB will decide what the Dominant will do during the session.

The bottom is someone who likes to be on the bottom during sex or BDSM sessions. He likes to do things that submissives do during a session. He is submissive but only during a session. Once the session is over, he is no longer submissive.

A submissive is someone who enjoys being dominated both during a session and after it ends. However, submissive has certain rights. He has the right to say no. He has the right to, in a way, control his Dominant. Submissive can set hard limits and safewords. Submissive can decide what can and cannot happen during a session and in a relationship. He can stop the session if he is not enjoying it. Submissive is the one setting the boundaries and Dominant can play within those boundaries.

The slaves are property owned by their Masters or Mistresses. They have no rights. They cannot say no. The power exchange is total. The Mistress has total control over the slave and the slave has absolutely no power over the Owner - not only during the session but also in everyday life. The slave has to surrender to his Owner mind, body and soul. Slave’s only concern is to serve and please his Owner.

Do I think you should be someone’s slave from the first day you meet them? No. But I think you should be A slave - to become THEIR slave. Being a slave is not something you can learn, or something that could develope over time, nor is being a Mistress. It is a mindset. It is the most wonderful mindset there is. It comes from our very souls. The slave, who longs to be owned, and the Mistress who desires to own him. Is there anything more beautiful in this world than absolute surrender of one person to the other and absolute acceptance in return.

If you are saying you want to be my slave, please know what I mean by “being a slave”. Please know that I don’t desire subs, bottoms, kinksters… I only want true slaves. I want someone with a mindset as twisted as mine and compatible with it. I understand there is only few of us. Most of the people are not into these extremes, they just like to “spice things up a bit” with BDSM. I’m not like that. You can love me or hate me, It doesn’t matter.. we are what we are.

Just because I need total freedom to do whatever I want to you, doesn’t mean I will castrate you or force scat onto you. I won’t. Only because I can forbid you to see your friends, doesn’t mean I will. I won’t. Just because I can lock you up in a cage and starve you to death doesn’t mean I will. I won’t. I consider slaves to be the most precious thing in the world. My slaves are the most valuable things I own. I will not destroy you or damage you in any way. I will care for you and give you everything you need to be the best slave you can be - because that is what we both want. I will humiliate you, I will inflict pain on you, I will make you suffer, I will control you…. And I will do it with love… so much love. Only a few could understand this… only those with the same mindset. The rest will only see a pathetic man and a cruel woman. But I assure you, a pathetic man is more brave then you will ever be and a cruel woman is the most caring of all creatures.

If you think I am crazy, let it go, let’s just say I am. Always was and always will be. Do I think you should be like me? Hell no. Be what you are, do what makes you happy. Do I think slaves are better than the others? Yes, to me they are better. To you, maybe not. It all depends on who you are and what you need.

Advice for slaves

Absolutely well-intentioned.
For slaves only, no others.

A lot of people are complaining that they can’t find a Domme. Have you ever asked yourself "Why?" And no, it’s not true that there are no Dommes. Ok, they are rare. But so are slaves. (Yes, i said it.)

Instead of whiling away your search wallowing in despair and jerking off to BDSM porn, work on yourself! You'll have an easier time finding a Domme if you can offer something other than a working knowledge of all the different BDSM porn out there and jerking your dick.

Make sure you’re the best you can be. Not perfect, because nobody is. Simply the best within your own means and capabilities.

Build character, if you still haven’t. A slave without a character is not a slave, he’s spineless. Get to know yourself, fix your mental issues and blockades. Work on yourself.

Looks. You don’t have to look like a supermodel, but you can’t be 20 kilos overweight or underweight either. There are no excuses for this. Go to a gym, do sports, mind what you eat, whip yourself into shape. If i can go to the gym and take care of myself, so can you. Dress appropriately, like a man, and not a seventeen-year-old. If „looks are not important“ to you, then go hook up with a woman who also thinks that „looks are not important“, because she herself has 20 kilos too much. It's important to me. If you don’t take care of yourself, you most certainly won’t take care of me. It’s not only about pleasing the eye, but also about health, stamina, lifestyle, self-esteem. And no, I am not shallow, I am a perfectionist. Good Looks ALONE aren't enough. But they're important, as are many other things.

Moving on. Life. Get it together. You are 20 years old, a student, and live with your parents... OK, it's understandable. You are 30 years old and living the same life situation?! Become independent! Graduate, get a job, build a career, find an apartment, GROW UP! If you want a woman, first become a man. My life is set. I never ask for anything that I myself am unable to offer. I graduated, I live alone, and I pay my own bills. I don’t need a man to support me, nor do I want a freeloader to sponsor.

You’re married or in a relationship, and want a bit of spanking on the side? I’m not interested in you. I don’t have kids, nor a husband (ex or future), so why should I let strife and disarray into my life for you? Do you expect me to hide for you? Want "discretion"? No. I'll suffer no discomfort for your peace of mind. Whoever likes it that way, be my guest. I don’t. If you really are a slave, and you really do want a D/s lifestyle, why the hell are you in a vanilla relationship? You’re lying to her, and you’re lying to yourself. You’re living a lie, you don’t know what you want, and you have no self-respect . (So how will you show any to me?) Get yourself together, grow a spine, shape up. Then go look for a Domme. Or stay in a happy vanilla relationship.

Skills. Want to be a slave? Make sure you are of use to your Domme. You think that having a dick and kneeling is enough? Maybe to some. To me, your dick is not enough. (and then they gawk in disbelief, their minds blown...) Want to be a slave? Learn the basic stuff at least. And no, I don't mean jerking it. Learn to cook, clean, massage, drive, etiquette, know where to take a woman out, learn to fuck (Yes! Sex! Shocker!), learn how to open a bottle of vine (!!!), learn grammar (!!!!!), learn a foreign language, become versed in something you're passionate about, grow as a person... And no, it’s not up to me to teach you how to make coffee, I don’t have the time. I will teach you other things. I don’t need a child to raise, I need a man. We aren't fifteen anymore.

Now you just need to not be a simpleton, but that’s something you can’t really learn. I greatly value intelligence, and I'm ready to overlook many other things if I can have an interesting conversation with somebody and learn something from them. I've learned that that those with the IQ of 80 think of themselves as having an IQ of 180 (just like everybody's dick is 20 centimetres long), so i don’t really like to point that out. Every idiot thinks himself a genius. This is especially evident on FL.

Make sure that I beam with pride when you are standing next to me, so that I can proudly present you as my man.

And what 99% of Balkan people don’t know – learn how to treat a woman! When you are with one, make sure to act like a man, and to make her feel like a woman. Not a female, but a WOMAN.

For me a good slave is not one who can take the most punches, or one who drools on my heels best. A good slave is an admirable person first, then an admirable partner, and only then a worthy slave in a BDSM sense. This writing refers only to the first point.

A prerequisite for a high-quality slave is to be a high-quality person. Work on it.

Disclaimer: Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.
Disclaimer: This text is highly subjective. I'm sure that there are Dommes who crave an alcoholic slave who lives under a bridge; or a thirty-five-year-old mama's boy who can’t even iron his shirt, not that he needs to, because his mother does it for him; or an easily manipulated moron; a slob whom nobody would want even if you taped a hundred euros to his forhead, so they don’t even have to make an effort of keeping him, because... Where’s he going to go? :D (Yeah,yeah... I’m terrible. Build me a pyre, I like fire anyway.)